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brianne_amai
I am so sorry about that situation, specially for the kids. I understand the anger.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 21, 2007 at 7:17 AM
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Re: proc
thats exactly what she would say to my brother, if he stood up for himself, he was being disrespectful....
posted by
brianne_amai
on September 20, 2007 at 10:10 PM
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hey, im gonna delete that post because i get angry when i see it. she does that to me and it pisses me off. but i understand where you are coming from. his parents sound like nut jobs just like him.
posted by
brianne_amai
on September 20, 2007 at 10:09 PM
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proc
Yes, Tim was and is very, very manipulative. It was his mode of operation. I think part of the reason he married me is that he knew I was very easily manipulated but what he didn't expect is that I would stand for myself once in a while and that is when I became "disrespectful". How I HATED that expression!
As for George, it was never my intention to hurt him. He came into my life unexpectedly and then went way too fast. I had to put a stop to it because it just wasn't working.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 12:14 PM
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Ive just been reading your posts backwards to catch up. Regarding this
post I can see how manipulative your ex is. He knew that by being irritating,and dragging things out you would get annoyed and just give him most of what he wants to get him off your back. clever man. divorce is so emotionally taxing that the innocent party often just givs in in order to get some peace. Now lets hope he stays off your back because my brother's ex has never got off his back in forever even though he gave her just about everything.
As for George,it's normal for hurting people to want the comfort and reassurance that somebody still wants them. But its a known fact that rebound relationships dont work. Dont feel bad about George. It sounds like he was trying to catch you in a vulnerable time and take control of your life. You need to be selfish while you are recovering from your divorce,not nursing someone elses heart. You did the right thing.
posted by
proc
on September 20, 2007 at 12:01 PM
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Mademoiselle
My parents have a pretty big three bedroom apartment with a den and a balcony. I am in the den now, which was outfitted to be a bedroom. It's pretty nice but no, no real privacy. Everyone knows at what time I come or leave, at what time I use the bathroom etc. Still, having my own car and my own job helps a lot and even though my mom can be nosy it's gotten better and I just take it as, "Oh, that's just mom as usual." LOL
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 10:56 AM
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At least things are on the upswing now.
Though I hope your parents' house is big enough that you can still maintain your complete "independence".
In all the time I was growing up, I only saw Dad cry two times.
After the first time, I didn't say anything.
But after the second time, I left a note on his dresser that said,
"See a psychiatrist."
I don't know if he ever did, but at least I didn't see him cry again.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on September 20, 2007 at 10:51 AM
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FineYoungSinger
The biggest hurdles are over now, what is left is just the end. The financial connection will continue for a very long time, until all those bills are paid and the house is sold.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 8:59 AM
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White_Elephant
That's what I felt at the moment too. I wanted to get it over with and if I had pusued legal action I wouldn't have been able to get or keep this job.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 8:57 AM
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Troosha
That is a very smart thing to do although I don't know if I would have the stomach to do it.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 8:56 AM
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Ariala
I really really hope so!!!
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 20, 2007 at 8:55 AM
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what a jerk!
Hang in there and you will get true this ... don't stay worrying about what you should have done - the sooner you close this chapter in your life, THE BETTER! Take Care!
posted by
White_Elephant
on September 20, 2007 at 8:41 AM
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wow. what a jackass. I bet you can't wait until this is all over so you
can start the healing. I really feel for you. Hang in there!
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on September 20, 2007 at 8:35 AM
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Le
The financial disentanglement of a marriage can be so difficult (and draining). Bit once, I now get everything in writing at the onset of a relationship and although that may seem a bit cold (or unromantic) it has served me well.
posted by
Troosha
on September 20, 2007 at 8:30 AM
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Hope the rest of this year and next will prove much better for you!
posted by
Ariala
on September 20, 2007 at 8:30 AM
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