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Le_divorce
I think that maybe the low self-esteem may have the strongest impact/influence on your other issues.
Hope everything turns out well for you. 
posted by
Sheilah
on September 18, 2007 at 3:35 PM
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brianne_amai
Wow, Ok, I guess it's really important for you if I read it, LOL. I will buy it soon, I promise and I will even blog about it too, how about that?
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 18, 2007 at 1:35 PM
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FineYoungSinger
Ok, I will definitely think about doing that, thanks
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 18, 2007 at 1:35 PM
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everyone is different
I think a lot of your "issues" are tied in together...I think the anxiety comes with the low sel-esteem, which comes with the ability to get frustrated easily... If you don't have self esteem you can't tackle much....so maybe that's something you should work on?
PLEEEEEEASE go get that book Your Erroneous Zones!!!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! I really think it can help you with a lot of things! I reallllllly do! Get the audio version and take a drive somewhere!
He's such an amazing author. I attended one of his lectures once and it was so nice to meet him. He's such a loving spirit...
Do you have a P.O. address? I'm sure I can find it 'used' for cheap online; I will buy it for you. That's how much I want you to read it.
posted by
brianne_amai
on September 18, 2007 at 12:58 PM
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I don't know how it is for everyone else; for me, revisiting my childhood
was most beneficial on my path toward inner healing after my divorce. When I examined my life beginning with my childhood, I looked at the relationship between my parents from an adult perspective, and all the major turning points in my life that should have had a negative effect on me--my parent's divorce, the death of my grandfather (in my family Grandpa was the glue that held us all together), the way my mother treated her mother, etc.
This is not the same as blaming our parents for everything, so be cautious of this distinction. It's very important to keep in mind that our parents did the best they could. Their shortcomings were never intentional, and any dificiencies on their part are for them to deal with, and not for us to point out to them.
So the entire process was very intensive, and I had lots of help. Through this process, I discovered why I had low self-esteem, why I chased the wrong men, why I needed so much validation, etc. I worked toward healing them, and in the process, I was able to let go of unhealthy relationships, improve my view of myself, and stopped chasing men alltogether.
Also, don't be afraid to go blow off some steam every once in a while. Go have some fun, and force yourself to not feel guilty for it.
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on September 18, 2007 at 11:27 AM
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Begin there.....
posted by
Troosha
on September 18, 2007 at 9:47 AM
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Troosha
So what's bothering me the most today? Honestly, the last point. Why do I still need my ex's approval? Ugh.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 18, 2007 at 9:42 AM
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Le
As someone who has seen a psychologist for years, I find that our visits are most valuable when we deal with the issue that is burning the most on that particular day. I make the list – as you have – and then decide what’s bugging me the most today. If it’s my anxiety, I go there. If someone has shunned me and I’ve taken it to heart, we begin with that. Inevitably, regardless of where you begin, most topics will be touched upon or, at the very least, you’ll discover the inter-relationship.
posted by
Troosha
on September 18, 2007 at 9:38 AM
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