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                    Pat_B 
                
                Wow, that is pretty similar to what happened to me, huh? I am also growing more grateful every day.
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 10, 2007 at 7:19 AM
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                    There are times I miss being part of a marriage. 
                
                Then I remember that what I had wasn't actually a partnership, that the one I'd married thinking we would support each other turned out to be a dependent, mean-spirited, and at times vengeful little boy who blamed me for his own shortcomings.  It would take a lot these days to get me to share the bathroom and the remote. I've been a free woman for 25 years now, wary of traps, grateful for peace and solitude.
                
                    posted by
                    Pat_B
                     on September 9, 2007 at 8:58 AM
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                    Re: brianne_amai
                
                    oh no, I know there was a lot of reasons to leave him.  I was just curious because the way it read, sounded like they got off the phone with you and did some detective work! lol
  it IS cheating.... cheatin' bastard
  oooops, sorry.  
                
                    posted by
                    brianne_amai
                     on September 8, 2007 at 10:37 PM
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                    Re: Tom just turned to Tim...
                
                     
      
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 8, 2007 at 8:02 PM
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                    Tom just turned to Tim...
                
                     
  
                
                    posted by
                    Ariala
                     on September 8, 2007 at 8:00 PM
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                    brianne_amai
                
                Yes, it was a typo.
Tim told me that he had gone to a massage parlor and the lady had practically raped him and made him come with only putting on a condom on him. We all know that Tim is quite overweight and not 17 anymore and this is not American Pie. My parents urged me to confront him because it sounded like a lot more happened than that, and it turns out he did get a hand job from her and some oral. To some it might not be considered cheating, but it is to me. In any case, that isn't the only reason why I left him, obviously.
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 8, 2007 at 7:55 PM
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                    proc  
                
                Yes, I am aware of how lucky I am in that respect. They have been very, very supportive.
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 8, 2007 at 7:53 PM
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                    afzal50  
                
                You're welcome.
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 8, 2007 at 7:52 PM
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                    Troosha
                
                Well, I suppose he must think I was the witch that drove him away. 
                
                    posted by
                    le_divorcee
                     on September 8, 2007 at 7:52 PM
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                    confused...
                
                Who is Tom?  Was that a typo?  How did your parents come to the conclusion that he cheated on you?  I'm not saying I don't believe, it, just curious.
                
                    posted by
                    brianne_amai
                     on September 8, 2007 at 5:22 PM
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                    Its so good that your family was supportive.  So many women leave abusive 
                
                marriages only to find they have no support from family.
                
                    posted by
                    proc
                     on September 8, 2007 at 1:15 PM
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                    Thanks for sharing an Interesting story about the massage parlour .
                
                
                
                    posted by
                    afzal50
                     on September 8, 2007 at 10:40 AM
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                    Le
                
                So very often accepting that it's time to move on is such a relief to both parties - even the one who rocked the boat and ultimately made it topple over.  After all, there's no boat rocking going on if someone is truly happy.  The person who strays is usually living in a quiet hell as well.  
(I'm not condoning his behavior for a moment, by the way).  
                
                    posted by
                    Troosha
                     on September 8, 2007 at 10:26 AM
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