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Kabu
My family is suporting me very strongly. His family is supporting him. I am living with my parents while Tim had to be all alone for more than a month until his parents went to visit him and then after they leave he will be alone agan.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 7, 2007 at 6:48 AM
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Nautikos
Yeah. I was really, really scared that he was going to make it very hard on me when I did finally decide to leave. He wouldn't let me leave the house without his permission.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 7, 2007 at 6:48 AM
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TAPS.
You mean to say that 20 years from now I will still have strong feelings about this? Ouch.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 7, 2007 at 6:47 AM
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Mademoiselle
I guess I wasn't that surprised either but oh well, I guess I was hoping for a miracle.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 7, 2007 at 6:46 AM
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The one thing I know about separation and divorce, A woman is more on her
own than the man is. Family rally to him a lot quicker than to you. Somehow it always ends up being your fault. I lost one of my sons his wife and family through this second divorce. Evidently the son now blames me completley for leaving his Dad and call me that Woman.
posted by
Kabu
on September 6, 2007 at 4:56 PM
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Le
Well, at least you got out of there without too much trouble...
posted by
Nautikos
on September 6, 2007 at 4:38 PM
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Le_divorce
Though you felt the aloneness, there must have been a bit of relief mixed in. Though its been more than twenty years, I still can feel those emotions as I read your posts.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 6, 2007 at 11:58 AM
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I'm not all that surprised by the sister's unreasonable reaction, actually.
Not only is blood thicker than water, but it has a tendency to completely blind a person to even the most obvious of realities regarding one's family.
Whenever someone asks me to define love, I usually think for a minute,
then I spin around and pin the person's arm behind their back.
Now who's asking the questions?
posted by
Mademoiselle
on September 6, 2007 at 11:51 AM
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afzal50
Thanks
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 9:15 AM
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Good post!
posted by
afzal50
on September 6, 2007 at 8:57 AM
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Troosha
We didn't have any kids so it made it easier in some ways. I'm glad you are in peace with your desicion.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 8:55 AM
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Le
Reaching the decision to leave and actually acting upon it is never easy. But it's usually the right thing to do. Been there.... and although it was rough initially and I became a single mom, it was the best thing I ever did.
posted by
Troosha
on September 6, 2007 at 8:46 AM
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Soul_Builder101
It's not 100% sorted out yet, but yes, at least I am outa there.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 8:40 AM
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Le Divorce
Glad you sorted that out!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on September 6, 2007 at 8:28 AM
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opheliablue
Yes, I am grateful for that too. I don't know what I would have done without my parent's suport.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 8:26 AM
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Ariala
Yes, for a time I thought I wasn't going to be able to do it. I actually looked for plane tickets a couple of times before but never went through with it. He kept saying he didn't want me to leave.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 8:26 AM
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I'm so glad you had people with you and a place to fly to - it must have been awful *hugs*
posted by
opheliablue
on September 6, 2007 at 8:23 AM
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I'm sure it was difficult after all you invested emotionally in the
relationship.
posted by
Ariala
on September 6, 2007 at 8:14 AM
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Pat_B
There were a couple of violent incidents but nothing life-threatening -that's not saying much, huh?- and I guess I will have to address that eventually.
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 7:59 AM
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This scene was dramatic, painful to read about. Must've been hellish.
At least there was no gunplay, no violence. These days that's not so rare. I hope you're well and safe now.
posted by
Pat_B
on September 6, 2007 at 7:51 AM
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Offy
There is alot of relief but no, I am not happy. I dedicated 3 years of my life to him and it was quite an adjustment to go back to live with my parents...
posted by
le_divorcee
on September 6, 2007 at 7:45 AM
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I bet you were really glad to be out of there...
posted by
Offy
on September 6, 2007 at 7:44 AM
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