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Thanks, everyone, for your supportive comments and suggestions!
I am following up on gomedome's suggestions, and have reported the abuse to both my email service, and the sender's.
I have some other steps to take, but on the chance he still has any access to reading here, I am not going to share them.
It is a bit awkward, being away from home, and so being only able to check email and blogit every once in a while, not even every day--which is in part what stimulated the craziness, as I did not respond to an email he'd sent, which I had not yet seen, when his world started to crash.
posted by
Ciel
on August 19, 2007 at 12:30 PM
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Report and block them...that's really horrible that someone would do that.
But it's been done to me, too.
posted by
Ariala
on August 19, 2007 at 9:27 AM
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It depends on the threat. If they can actually do you bodily harm, call
police. If not, I just block them with my email filter.
posted by
WindTapper
on August 19, 2007 at 9:25 AM
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i hope it goes well for you
I wouldn't like to open up my email and see that kind of thing.
posted by
Julia.
on August 18, 2007 at 10:54 PM
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Ciel -
Gome has the right idea. But changing emails is good as well. Good luck.
posted by
sannhet
on August 18, 2007 at 2:33 PM
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Thanks, Wacky and Sunnybeach!
Yes, GD's advice is what I needed. But it is also heartening to be reminded I am in the midst of friends!
posted by
Ciel
on August 18, 2007 at 12:54 PM
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Looks like you already got some good advise! Good luck!
Roses
from me and Bo =^..^= the wonder dog!
posted by
Whacky
on August 17, 2007 at 8:31 PM
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I see that gome has been here already with good advice.
I was going to suggest the same...report them to the ISP and let them deal with it.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 17, 2007 at 4:47 PM
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Hi, TAPS!
Yes, this is good general info, for basic Defense Against the Dark Arts /email edition...
(Got your reply in my new account, thanks!)
posted by
Ciel
on August 17, 2007 at 12:12 PM
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Ciel
Good question. Very good answer from gomedome. Though I have not needed this information yet, I intend to copy it and save it in case I ever should feel it necessary to do so.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 17, 2007 at 12:09 PM
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Thanks, gomedome, this is exactly what I needed to know!
posted by
Ciel
on August 17, 2007 at 12:04 PM
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Ciel - you have two choices to effectively stop someone bothering you via
email.
First off, mutual email dialogue that has turned sour is not spam by definition. It is not likely that any of the blacklisting or reporting avenues for spam are applicable. Depending on what you are comfortable with you should be able to block incoming email in your email software program and should do so because the sender has your email address.
The second option is a little more intense. Incoming email will have within it a full email header. In most cases your email software program will only show an abbreviated version of this. Find the link within your email program (most likely found in the options) and display the full email header. Because this is a case of dialogue gone wrong, it is likely that there was no effort made to mask the email origins by the sender. Within this full email header you will find the ISP (internet service provider) of the sender. This is the most appropriate way to deal with threats via email if you feel this situation warrants it. Report it to them, they will simply pull the plug on the offender. Where this does not stop the potential of future transgressions against others, it both sends a powerful message and begins the process of documenting the actions of someone that may or may not manifest into something more serious.
posted by
gomedome
on August 17, 2007 at 9:59 AM
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Mademoiselle, it is a former Blogiteer
who threatens to make my life hell if I don't solve his problem for him.
I have done some counselling with him, which is not helping him with his current difficulty, and he is getting desperate and off-center, and has the crazy notion that being threatening and intimidating will get me to tell him what he wants to hear. As if that would help.
My choice is not to engage with this kind of out-of-control anger.
But I do feel that no one should be able to use the internet in this way without some repercussions. It's too easy.
posted by
Ciel
on August 17, 2007 at 9:34 AM
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Offy, I have changed my email account--
was getting too much regular spam through the filter anyway...
I hope I am over-reacting, actually.
posted by
Ciel
on August 17, 2007 at 9:29 AM
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I guess it depends on what sort of threat.
And also how well I knew the sender.
She who rides the tiger
is afraid to dismount.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on August 17, 2007 at 9:23 AM
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OM Lord
What an awful thing to receive...Be sure to report them and block them!! Good luck lady, those types shouldn't have access to a keyboard...
posted by
Offy
on August 17, 2007 at 9:16 AM
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