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MandaLee-
Thanks so much for coming by! 
LCM 
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on August 8, 2007 at 4:10 PM
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NellyD-
As I told Mary, I really appreciate your support and understanding. I should have gone on to blog what you just said. I am responsible for how I act and REact to others. How true it is when you say other people, especially ones who are really close to you (a spouse), resent someone who never seems to suffer the lows they do. Jay has been that way. When I didn't react to something or, to him, acted indifferent, he said I didn't care. So I know exactly of that which you speak! Sometimes it gets very lonely and I think that is why Jay has never judged me when I turned to another and almost left him. He felt I deserved to be happy. He watched me talk on the phone (to Mike) one night and the thing that struck him was how I was smiling and laughing. It had been a long time since he had seen that. BUT he knew he had seen it before, with HIM. hmmmm How to get back to that in our relationship. . .that what he was hellbent to return to. Age may have dashed any chance of that happening as depression gets worse as the brain deteriorates with age. But he can still make me laugh. Thank you for the gorgeous fan of doves!
LCM
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on August 8, 2007 at 4:08 PM
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Mary-
Thanks for your support and understanding. I'm going to say the same thing to Neil. You are both right. I have to look out for myself, because that is who I am responsible for. It IS my choice as to how I act and react to others. You found a good chart to illustrate as well. Thank you so much! My, we have quite a lot in common.
LCM
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on August 8, 2007 at 3:27 PM
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Good work LadyCee--reminds me to post something akin to this.Do not take so
much responsibility as to think U can and will make the vchanges for the family. I tried tobe optimistic for both of us in our marriage--my ex and meyself -- some people resent the fact others can feel more positive, hope and solace than they, and will goive little satisfaction to your efforts. This is not the case with either Steph or Jay...but donot burden yourself w/ their reactions. U are repsonsible only for yr + thoughts and actions. shalommyfriendandyourfamily
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posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 8, 2007 at 1:51 PM
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LadyCee,
posted by
Amanda__
on August 8, 2007 at 12:32 PM
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LadyCee - Dealing with depressed people is extremely difficult. Ask me. I
was there. All one can do really is keep on doing what you're doing. The positive energy is good and it does eventually magnify. God Bless you!
posted by
FoliageGold
on August 8, 2007 at 11:30 AM
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You are fortunate to be allowed in his world to send him e-mail. I got blocked from every email, from his cell-phone, his business address even changed. One by one, a block was put up against me. He wanted no words of cheer or anything else, ever again in this lifetime. He handed me a lifetime sentence of 'don't ever contact me again.' It is for the best but it hurts me like nothing else once in a while. It takes me to a plane from which my only escape is to shut my mind and heart to the pain and hurt; move to a higher plane and forgive him for the hurt he caused, and thank God for the lessons I learned, for the feelings I felt, for all the good things, and now I ask blessings for his whole family every day. It has been healing for me. Now with my good thoughts concentrated on my daughter and husband, I feel in balance again.Thanks for sharing and coming by!
LCM
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on August 8, 2007 at 10:10 AM
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what a wonderful idea, every since the day my love go so sick and turned away from me, I have sent him a email to cheer him up and he thanked me for doing so, that it made feel happier, so do what comes natural.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 7, 2007 at 9:31 PM
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