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Re: Living Life Large, life and relationships are complicated. Ive never h
Absolutely, Proc, it's not our weight, it's our energy.
posted by
Living_Life_Large
on June 23, 2007 at 9:02 PM
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Living Life Large, life and relationships are complicated. Ive never had
an xhubby but I know the feeling of bumping into xboyfriends and wanting to look my best when I do. That was then. Now, I reason,there were never good enough for me ,or vice versa when I was slim . why should it matter now? I like this woman Ive become,older,fatter,greyer,wiser. I certainly like her more than the insecure skinny girl I used to be.
posted by
proc
on June 21, 2007 at 2:13 PM
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this is a really great post. It is good that, considering the circumstances, you are able to focus yourself on summoning up some sort of empathy for her. It is hard. It isn't like a woman wakes up one morning and says "i want to be fat!" But being so, also doesn't make her any less beautiful. It's a detail.
posted by
rainydayinmay
on June 21, 2007 at 6:49 AM
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Living
posted by
FoliageGold
on June 21, 2007 at 6:37 AM
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Re: Living -Wow! Well, I have a lot of thoughts on this.
Exactly . . . the answer is always SELF LOVE.
posted by
Living_Life_Large
on June 21, 2007 at 6:35 AM
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Yes it can
the third one reported me to security, said I was stalking her. I found that humerous, since it was the first time I had seen her face in 8 years and my reaction was to turn and walk the other way.
posted by
Whysper
on June 21, 2007 at 6:33 AM
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Excellent post !
posted by
afzal50
on June 21, 2007 at 6:32 AM
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Re: I once ran into three ex's within fifteen minutes
It can get crowded, can't it?
posted by
Living_Life_Large
on June 21, 2007 at 6:31 AM
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I once ran into three ex's within fifteen minutes
At a renaissance festival. I decided to get very acquainted with Jack Daniels that day.
posted by
Whysper
on June 21, 2007 at 6:21 AM
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Living -Wow! Well, I have a lot of thoughts on this.
Before my 40's, I tended to not eat when I was upset, too. I think it was because I didn't feel I deserved nurturance. As the depression took over and I was in therapy, I began to realize that indeed I did deserve nurturance and went the whole other way of trying to 'stuff' myself with everything I never received. Until the day of reckoning when I learned that what I deserved, needed and had every right to, was love. Now, I'm filling myself with love and sending it outward and then it comes back again, etc.
As to ex-husbands. My first still 'hate's me, which to me means, he still cares for me in some unearthly pain. My second has now stepped out of his grief from my leaving him and has a lovely girlfriend. I couldn't be happier for both of them. Although my 8 year old is adament she does NOT want a new Momma.
Terrific post! 
posted by
FoliageGold
on June 21, 2007 at 6:19 AM
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