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Kiddo75
What is always told to me no one can make you happy you have to make yourself happy and if life has not always been rosey then its time to break that mode and move on. I have been single for 23 years and raised the last one without her dad at all as she refers to him as sperm donor, so to her its happy sperm donor day!! But I am sure you seem to have survived through all you have, but you need to pull yourself out of that and go on and give yourself a pep talk every day, and love those kids for the both of you. Good luck!!
posted by
Lanetay
on June 17, 2007 at 12:37 PM
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lustorlove...shhhh...don't tell anyone....
I don't take that in a bad way at all. People see and read what they want, no matter what is on the scroreen. Selected lines sometimes are read to form opinions. All my ranting and raving is valid...but I am angry mostly because I'm alone. I'm a single mom with 2 kids who are watching me and my actions instead of what I preach to them, shaping them as they grow. Being alone is better than being with what I had of course, their father. And we are so much happier. But that damage is there, what I know men can do. From my dad, stepdads, boyfriends, husband... my mom and dad shaped what I thought I deserved and what was tolerable from a man. If your own father doesn't think your worth much, instead of being his little princess...then how could you think that kind of love could even be possible for you? I want the simple things, things that do not seem that much to ask for. Just contentment. And when I try to get that, and instead find the one sack of shit that assures me that I am a worthless piece of shit...it doesn't even surprise me anymore. My shock value has gone as to what they can do or say to me. That is what upsets me the most about myself. Not getting offended or devestated enough to walk out. I just shrug my shoulders and wait until they cool off. Then there is one moment when they do or say something that really isn't that meaningful when you think about it, but it IS to someone who has nothing else but bad. That seems to be the one thing you think about when your alone too. Not the bad they did, but the half ass good they did or said that seems monumental to you. Sorry this is so long...bad day I guess.
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Kiddo75
on June 17, 2007 at 12:21 PM
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Kiddo75
kiddo dont take this wrong but I am amazed at the person you are and the person sometimes you pretend to be, yes I am alone and have been seeking someone to feel that void for a very long time but all I ever get are men that want their needs fulfilled and to the hell with me
posted by
Lanetay
on June 17, 2007 at 11:54 AM
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lustorlove....I know. And when that is gone, it almost feels like a whole
relationship filled with everything a relationship should have in it....is gone. But when you really have no significant "other" or someone to fill that needed human emotion that we all need to feel good or important, or just "whole"...we grab hold tight and hold deep the thing that made us feel that way - even for a short while. And you know what, it hurts more sometimes than when a "real" relationship is over....because then we realize how sad we really are bc it wasn't really substantial...it was to us what it may not have been to them. Making us feel even more alone and empty. I hope things get better for you, everyone deserves to be happy.
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Kiddo75
on June 17, 2007 at 11:39 AM
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Kiddo75
that is a good response to how I really feel and the way I have been made to fill, and the one person who aroused me the most is no longer arousing me, so I feel I cant get that feeling once again.
posted by
Lanetay
on June 17, 2007 at 11:32 AM
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Oversexed?of course not. My opinion though. I think you just associate
the wonderful way you feel and the closeness of someone wanting you with the love you maybe missing or wanting in your life. (?) Sometimes we grab on to whatever it may be that makes us feel whole, even if it is just for a short period of time. And when those moments are fleeting, we hang onto them as precious and something we must have to feel that way again. If it happens to be sex, the female side of us that always hears "whore" or "nymph" kinda tugs on our conscience a bit. But when there is no one really in our life to fill all the little things others take for granted in a relationship, the sex and how close and special we feel takes its place as the one thing we may need. This is my opinion, and I am alone with no one....lol....so maybe I'm alone for a reason - this type of thinking.
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Kiddo75
on June 17, 2007 at 11:22 AM
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nope. i dont think that you are oversexed. you are just out seeking revenge on your husband proved that you could do as much as he does. finally you have found someone whom you miss when he is not around etc.
cheers
posted by
La_Paloma
on June 15, 2007 at 12:45 PM
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Comment on OVERSEXED
I'm one of the fortunate ones. This year Kate and I will celebrate (truly) our 37th year together; and we learned a lot about the "through sickness and through health" and the "good and bad times bit."
posted by
joab1
on June 15, 2007 at 12:31 PM
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Nylahg
I am worn down looking
posted by
Lanetay
on June 15, 2007 at 12:11 PM
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Troosha
I am just been seeking for so long its hard to keep the hope
posted by
Lanetay
on June 15, 2007 at 12:10 PM
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yea do what you like but take care of yourself don't get caught up hey everything is everything maybe you'll get back with the one who can satisfy that craving of yours but then the question would be is that what you REALLY want?
posted by
Nylahg
on June 15, 2007 at 10:24 AM
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Lustor
Although some might not want to admit it there are probably a lot of people in here who have been through periods of masking hurt or loneliness with sex (and mistakenly equating it to love). Some day you'll find both.... (and then the sex is even better!).
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Troosha
on June 15, 2007 at 8:46 AM
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RaeS
exactly, someone that can live up to me, and I hope so too
posted by
Lanetay
on June 14, 2007 at 10:40 PM
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Sounds as if you've figured yourself out quite well, LustorLove
I'm not sure it I would call it an addiction or being oversexed though...we all have unique appetites of varying strengths. If you were out having sex just for the sake of having sex, then maybe..I've read your poetry about longing for love; I think you are craving a relationship that fulfills not only the physical, but your heart needs too. My two cents...:) I hope you find Mr. Right soon!
posted by
Katray2
on June 14, 2007 at 10:23 PM
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Offy
I guess that is why I am because I was giving sex thinking they cared for me
posted by
Lanetay
on June 14, 2007 at 10:12 PM
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lilane
Yeah over sexed but not addicted..You are quite normal my dear. I can remember back in the day when sex was love..seems like a hundred years ago but I still hold out hope that is will be again my friend!
posted by
Offy
on June 14, 2007 at 9:47 PM
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bandanafish
I wish my 21 year old was more like you
posted by
Lanetay
on June 14, 2007 at 9:22 PM
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Oh, no no no. That's not bad at all.
I'm just a bit shy about sex and stuff, that's all. I'm really very -->
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innocent.)
posted by
bandanafish
on June 14, 2007 at 9:21 PM
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bandanafish
is that bad?
posted by
Lanetay
on June 14, 2007 at 9:16 PM
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hm.. judging from your self-assessment..
yeah, I guess you are a bit oversexed.
posted by
bandanafish
on June 14, 2007 at 9:01 PM
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