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Offy
It is a great healing. So is the blog about design (or it will be when I can get out of the trash)I had no intentions of going over this stuff but it just comes up like an oozing sore. It is very theraputic. Thank you for your encouragement.
posted by
Justi
on May 30, 2007 at 6:10 PM
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Justi
You are much more of a forgiving soul then I am...and if someone abused my child I would have to see to it they were punished. Thank Gawd that's not happened... I love these conversations you have with Mama...and I guess to learn from what you experienced is a greater gift then anything my dear lady~
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Offy
on May 30, 2007 at 3:01 PM
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Damon
You know I think you are right. We don't get better because a particular habit has been around for centuries. We only get better when we give it all to the Lord. Thank you.
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Justi
on May 30, 2007 at 2:52 PM
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Re: MAMA GET BACK HERE AND DRINK COFFEE WITH ME. OKAY PLEASE!
It is good to get things off your chest as they say. I think that your mom has or would forgive you if she has passed already. I am just going by how mine would have been. I know that she didn't do everything right, but she sure would liked to have for her kids and step kids too, because she felt like they were her own as well. I know that we all make mistakes in our marriages and in raising our kids, but I would like to think that each of us do a little better than our parents did. Truthfully, though, I doubt that many times we are any better and possibly not as good as our parents.
I think that you did a great job writing this piece Justi. Damon
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Damond
on May 30, 2007 at 1:13 AM
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TAPS
It had never been an issue in our home nor in my mothers so she, I guess just could not get her head around the reality of it. I was turned away when I took all three of them and went home once. I felt I was born the parent. But I am fine now. God does bring you out and up if you will let him, I have seen it in my life. Love you, thanks for the encouragement.
posted by
Justi
on May 26, 2007 at 3:07 PM
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MUSER
I think it is good to look back if it is way way back. It is still difficult and this has not been something I have dwelt on at all. But it would have been a sad, sad soupy failure if I had looked back much before I married George. He and the Lord have simply made a 'new woman' of me.
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Justi
on May 26, 2007 at 3:04 PM
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Justi
I don't understand how parents can stand by and know that their child is being abused and not do something, but I am aware that it happens quite a bit. I have heard of some who will not even allow their daughter to come back home for protection. I'm sure it would be difficult to be that daughter and have problems accepting the parent's attitude.
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TAPS.
on May 26, 2007 at 11:35 AM
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Re: Muser
Justi, I don't think you could ever know how much respect and admiration I have for you! You are a survivor. You may not have done things the traditional way and without your mama's help, but i'm here to tell you that you are one determined woman...one who is also one of the most creative i've ever known, and one of the smartest! you did the work of THREE men, got paid 1/2 yhe salary of one man(or less)and you had three young children to raise. You and God sure did a great work together!!! Sometimes it's a good thing to look back, darlin'...that way you can see just how far you've come! I loveyou, Justi!
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muser
on May 25, 2007 at 2:48 AM
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davi5
I am glad you did. Be blessed.
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Justi
on May 24, 2007 at 9:33 PM
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Muser
You and I would surely understand those paper dolls.
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Justi
on May 24, 2007 at 9:32 PM
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Muser
Truly I am saying a lot of it now. I don't get satisfaction except when I see how tough it made me in some ways. I didn't know that until I began to write about the early years of my first marriage and trying to live and please everybody else and still care for my children.
posted by
Justi
on May 24, 2007 at 9:31 PM
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Justi,darlin', i didn't stand up to my mama until I was in my early forties
One day i had finally had enough, and gave it back as good as i got. it made her cry, and i got no pleasure from it, no sense of satisfaction whatsoever...as is true with so many southern women, we never argued like that again, although there were things that needed to be aired out. they were still feelings of resentment when she died because we avoided them. BUT, I know she has forgiven me and she knows i have forgiven her. the good from the mistakes of our relationship? i didn't repeat them with my children... i can imagine how you felt back then...if we had known each other, you would have had me to be there for you 224/7!
i had acute little plaque once upon a time...it had country girl paper dolls holding hands. below was written: friends always welcome...relatives by appointment only!
posted by
muser
on May 24, 2007 at 9:27 PM
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I love it.
posted by
NIGHTWRITE
on May 24, 2007 at 8:47 PM
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tigarprincess
It is the most difficult and the most rewarding job anyone has ever had I believe. Thanks for the read
posted by
Justi
on May 24, 2007 at 7:39 PM
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Yeow! Your blog hit a nerve with me, and I'm not a mom yet.
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tigerprincess
on May 24, 2007 at 7:32 PM
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