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I think it's pretty well covered in those
marriage vows.
posted by
FactorFiction
on April 28, 2007 at 11:33 AM
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Hi TIMMY...I think I'd abstain..you know "for better or worse"...I guess
I'm old fashioned like that! I guess it also helps that I was quite the wild child and got all that out of my system! LOL 
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on April 28, 2007 at 8:25 AM
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My best friend went through this not too long ago...we almost lost her
boyfriend. He's fine now. She didn't cheat but now, she doesn't have the feelings for him she once had.
posted by
shelly_b
on April 28, 2007 at 6:20 AM
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TIMMY
posted by
Enigmatic68
on April 27, 2007 at 9:32 PM
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Timmy
Can;t say I've considered cheating at that point.
Be well,
-smartdog
posted by
smartdog_670
on April 27, 2007 at 6:17 PM
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Re: lustorlove
He is very cute and fits in one hand
posted by
Lanetay
on April 27, 2007 at 5:24 PM
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Hey Timmy,
If you married to some one, whether they are physically ill or mentally ill or vegetable state,in my mind, Ihave the committment, SO I STAY ABSTAIN. BECAUSE I BELIEVE SEX IS NOT A DESIRE, but a true feelings to each other and must be divine.......
posted by
star4sky5
on April 27, 2007 at 4:50 PM
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Ari
Would that have anything to do with BOB?
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:35 PM
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taps
You would make a good politician!!! LOL
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:34 PM
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mademoiselle
I may have to do that
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:33 PM
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snubnose
You know what they say about masturbation.......you can have sex with anyone you want!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:32 PM
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Strat
LOL.......
Fistina? Is she related to Rosie Palm? I agree, a promise is a promise.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:31 PM
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lustorlove
LOL........I'm not gonna ask about BOB
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:30 PM
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foliage
There ya go!!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:29 PM
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Ihave
Me personally, I would want to know that they are happy and therefore give my consent. I would not however be the one to do it. Consent or not.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:28 PM
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talion
For better or for worse.......I would still abide by the complete set of vows, including
until death do us part. But hey, that's just me
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 27, 2007 at 4:27 PM
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I would say it's time to get creative!
posted by
Ariala
on April 27, 2007 at 2:29 PM
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TIMMYTALES
It would be cheating. I believe in "for better or worse" and have always been committed to that. But, I would not say "I would never do that" because one does not truely know what one will do in the future.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 27, 2007 at 2:05 PM
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Yes and no.
You should rent the 1996 film "Breaking the Waves" (starring Emily Watson). It addresses that very same subject.
"If you go parachuting, and your parachute doesn't open,
and you friends are all watching you fall,
I think a funny gag would be to pretend you were swimming."
posted by
Mademoiselle
on April 27, 2007 at 2:04 PM
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Timmy
WOW, that's been my word for the day! Uhm, Would a trip to Fantasy warehouse be considered cheating? And that trip would be dependent upon how long has your friend been in "need".
posted by
snubnose
on April 27, 2007 at 1:14 PM
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I have an old saying, one of mine:
"As long as they don't bring back prohibition or cut off my right hand, I'll be fine."
The fact is, if I made a promise, then I made a promise, so I won't go find something on the side as long as my Beloved draws a living breath, and that's that. Fistina and I go back a long ways anyway, and I can always use my left hand if I want some strange.
posted by
strat
on April 27, 2007 at 12:48 PM
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timmy
It depends on the illness and how it affects the person but I have been with men that have diabetes and they cant function properly, but they satisfied me in other ways, no need for anyone else, that is what toys are for BOB will always be there
posted by
Lanetay
on April 27, 2007 at 12:16 PM
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Timmy
Yikes! I'd stay true-blue until the day he died! --Joy!Mary
posted by
FoliageGold
on April 27, 2007 at 12:16 PM
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I agree with Talion. For better or worse. Only I go one step farther, even if mentally incapacitated, as long as she is alive I'd stay faithful. Its not like she did something to cause me to no longer stay loyal, we were still in love, she just became ill. That doesn't make you stop loving someone or stop being loyal.
What would you expect of your own loved one if you were the person who became ill?
posted by
ihave5
on April 27, 2007 at 12:16 PM
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TIMMYTALES
Initially I thought of that old Kenny Rogers song, Ruby...
If I could move, I'd get my gun and put her in the ground...
Ruby, don't take your love to town...
(Yes, I know the lyrics from memory.)
If the illness that leaves my wife physically incapacitated also leaves her mentally incapacitated as well (comatose, severely brain damaged, etc.), getting a woman on the side is not that big of a deal since the marriage as we knew it is basically over anyway. A heart beating and blood pumping doesn't necessarily mean alive. A vegetable, for lack of a better term, is only a step away from dead. Descretion is still in order because appearances matter.
However, if she maintains her mental faculties and we can still communicate and interact as we always did, I wouldn't see another woman because I'd consider it cheating. I vowed better or worse. This scenario is certainly worse, but sex wasn't the reason I married her. There would come a day when sex became less important (if not nonexistent) in our relationship anyway. I'd learn to do without.
posted by
Talion
on April 27, 2007 at 12:03 PM
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