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richinstore
You are quite right. It could be one of a number of things. It should just remain as it is
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 23, 2007 at 9:20 AM
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jacenta
Exactly!!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 23, 2007 at 9:18 AM
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kabu
She needs to let it rest as it has for so many years
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 23, 2007 at 9:18 AM
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straightforward
I agree
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 23, 2007 at 9:17 AM
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strat
That is the message that I am giving her.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 23, 2007 at 9:16 AM
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timmy
life can sometimes be complicated and cluttered. hope all goes well.
posted by
FoliageGold
on April 23, 2007 at 4:31 AM
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Timmy
an adopted brother may not necessarily be a half-brother nor one who is born out of wedlock. Maybe at the time of adoption, your parents were childless and your brother could have been a friend's child or a relatives. Anyway, what's wrong in having an adopted brother if he is already a part of your family and has carried out his duty as an elder brother. It's not right to question his right in the family now. Just accept him as before.
posted by
richinstore
on April 22, 2007 at 10:58 PM
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TIMMYTALES
Regardless the outcome of all this, as you say, your brother will always be your brother and this is what really is important, you two loving and caring about each other.
posted by
jacentaOld
on April 22, 2007 at 10:53 PM
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Tim, this is between your brother and your mother. All families have
skeletons of course. Tell your sister in a generation or two more, they will brag about this one.
posted by
Kabu
on April 22, 2007 at 7:29 PM
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I would have the same approach towards my brother as you,
But my curiosity about someone close to me will not let go. So I may as well clear this information for me, so I can continue the relationship with my brother as it always was rather than the question marks in between
posted by
Straightforward
on April 22, 2007 at 6:55 PM
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I'm with you, Tim.
There's no point to this -- to be fair, your sister may be lashing out in grief. But it doesn't do anything constructive, so tell her to let it lie, at least for now.
posted by
strat
on April 22, 2007 at 5:21 PM
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Re: lustorlove
I agree but I tried while my mom was alive and we just never could click. I felt bad that we were barley talking when she died that would of been her dying wish come true.
posted by
Lanetay
on April 22, 2007 at 5:20 PM
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taps
I really don't know what she hopes to gain.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:18 PM
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offy
And that is what I am going to convey to her
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:17 PM
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mademoiselle
LOL.......maybe he is!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:17 PM
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manda
What purpose could it serve this late in life?
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:16 PM
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ota
Yes, she does
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:12 PM
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Nautikos
lol.......that's what my other brothers said
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:11 PM
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lustorlove
You should try again with your brother........family is everything
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:11 PM
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maggie
True.......and he will always be my brother
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:10 PM
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proc
My sentiments exactly. Leave the past in the past
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:09 PM
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star4
That is exactly how I feel.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 22, 2007 at 5:08 PM
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TIMMYTALES
Perhaps your brother already knows. It shouldn't make any difference to your sister one way or the other and apparently your mother would have told her if she wanted her to know. What would your sister gain by bringing it all into the present?
posted by
TAPS.
on April 22, 2007 at 4:06 PM
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TIM
I don't see where it would serve any purpose and what difference would it make? Your Father adopted him and so in your Fathers mind he was his son no more nor no less...
posted by
Offy
on April 22, 2007 at 2:18 PM
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Seems like the proverbial "water under the bridge" to me.
I don't see where the skeleton came into play, though? Whose bones were they, anyway? Because if I found one in the closet, I'd totally freak out.
P.S. I wish my brother were adopted, actually.
"I wonder if angels believe in ghosts?"
posted by
Mademoiselle
on April 22, 2007 at 1:38 PM
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I agree, its the right thing to do.
posted by
Amanda__
on April 22, 2007 at 12:51 PM
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Timmy
Sis needs to let it go..
posted by
Blue_feathers
on April 22, 2007 at 12:23 PM
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Timmy
I'd tell Sis to get some sense!
posted by
Nautikos
on April 22, 2007 at 12:02 PM
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timmy
hey maybe I need to look for my adoption papers I don't seem to be anything like the rest of the family, but then again I do look something like my parents. Maybe I am just different, who knows. I am glad you feel that way about your brother, I have virtually no relationship with my older and only brother.
posted by
Lanetay
on April 22, 2007 at 11:26 AM
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Timmy.............
He's always been your brother, why should that change? I think your sister should leave it alone.
posted by
MaggieMae
on April 22, 2007 at 11:15 AM
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TIMMYTALES, It comes down to what actually constitutes a brother?
Its a life shared together. its not how you came to share that life. If your sister wants to know out of curiosity then she must wait. Y our parents wouldnt have kept the secret if it didnt matter to them.. She has to respect that. In time if she feels she cant live without knowing and your mum seems like she can cope the she must approach her quietly. otherwise try to fish the truth out of relatives. Every family must have someone who loves to gossip. She really should let sleeping dogs lie. After all who is the whole truth going to serve now?
posted by
proc
on April 22, 2007 at 11:05 AM
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He had been your brother, so now why have to dig those skeletons, tell your
sis to shut up and sit quietly......Otherwise ahe will make big wound out of a lil bruise.......
posted by
star4sky5
on April 22, 2007 at 10:27 AM
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