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I've been reading a lot of your writings and I just wanted to say how much I share your pain right now...and you are expressing them so beautifully. I left a boyfriend of three years because I wasn't getting the love that I deserve...and of course my intuition that he was unfaithful. I know I made the right decision, but it hurts like hell. I hope you're staying strong and moving forward. Its nice to hear about how other people's struggle and how they manage to overcome them. I'm still breaking...but optimistic though that I will find better.
posted by
wild_orchid79
on April 4, 2007 at 12:58 PM
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Pat_B
I understand that remark, but loneliness is hell
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2007 at 6:30 PM
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proc
I tried to express that to him and I had no response
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2007 at 6:28 PM
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TIMMYTALES
with him I treated him like a king and all I got was no respect for my feelings
posted by
Lanetay
on April 2, 2007 at 6:27 PM
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I ain't the prettiest woman ever came down the pike.
I ain't the smartest. I ain't the best cook, and housework? forget about it. I'm a good lover, but I could never make a living at it. But I know any guy who gets next to me will be damn lucky, because I'm easy to be around, I know how to appreciate 'em - once they show me they're good people, that they respect women in general and me in particular. I like my own company, I can entertain myself. And nobody needs to tell me when to shop for groceries or what to buy, or whether or not I need new shoes. I won't put up with neglect, disrespect, lies, cheating (health issues if nothing else) bossiness. I don't consider that a step up. Somewhere along the line I learned to take good care of myself.
posted by
Pat_B
on April 2, 2007 at 3:08 PM
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Even if you dont ever find a man to treat you right
the important thing is to know you are of value and treat yourself accordingly.When you confidently value yourself it is funny how the men in your life will value you too.I found in the early years of marriage I was namby pamby and got taken for granted.Now I make demands too and I am respected and it appears ,loved more.My hubby has been heard to say on a few ocassions when we discuss women who are being browbeaten or getting less than they deserve"She needs to stand up for herself,give him some ultimatums.He will value her more"
posted by
proc
on April 2, 2007 at 1:48 PM
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lustor
When I was married, I realized that I was being put second to everyone that came along. No more of that crap for me.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on April 2, 2007 at 1:26 PM
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steeler_fan
I was in a marriage for 20 years and thought I had a good marriage but knew he liked the women. I have been single too long and just want someone to love me and I know I always choice the wrong person
. Good luck to your daughter, does she work outside of the house? That was another problem when I was married I didnt work outside of the house
posted by
Lanetay
on April 1, 2007 at 3:21 PM
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I know how you feel.....
my oldest daughter is going through this right now....I try to convince her it would be best to leave for her and her daughter, but only she can make the decision...she called me earlier today and was crying and asked me to come get her, I hung up the phone went straight there ( only about 5 minutes away) and by the time I got there...she had changed her mind...I don't know what to do, and I guess alll I really can do is be there for her and let her know that she and You do deserve so much better, and with a little patience, you will find someone to love and respect you the way you deserve...best of luck to you.
posted by
steeler_fan
on April 1, 2007 at 3:03 PM
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Jadelynn
As long as they know you are strong and not desperate, be proud of what you have mentally accomplished. I know one day he will try to get back to me, but I will have to be strong.It wont be easy
posted by
Lanetay
on April 1, 2007 at 1:11 PM
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I used to settle for what I could get.
Mostly because I was afraid it was all I'd ever get. I've definitely come to the same realization as you, though. My thinking now is that there are so many people out there--surely I can find one man who will treat me right!
posted by
Jadelynn
on April 1, 2007 at 12:47 PM
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