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I honestly don't know what I'd say to my mom beyond,
"I'm sorry. What did you say?"
I don't think it is appropriate. Some parents think that they are "close enough" to their kids to say whatever and that it shouldn't offend them.
Unfortunately some relationships can get so "close" they become weird.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on December 24, 2006 at 5:51 PM
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Asking your kid to have a vasectony is a little weird. Its his own decision, not hers. However, asking him to move out of her house isn't. He is, after all, in his late 20s...
posted by
Kasthu
on December 22, 2006 at 4:39 PM
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Well, I don't know all the
circumstances, but kids are expensive. The mother may have been looking for an excuse to kick him out. If he would have gotten a vasectomy she might come up with something else. That's too bad for your friend though. My brother and his son live with my mom. He's 28. My aunts give my mom a hard time about him living there. Maybe there's more to it? Take care
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on December 21, 2006 at 5:14 PM
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He should think about it. Especially if he's 27 & living with ma.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 21, 2006 at 9:20 AM
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That is very odd.
Very.
posted by
Whacky
on December 19, 2006 at 9:05 PM
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I guess I can see both sides. Obviously a mother has absolutely no right to demand that her son - a grown man - have a mastectomy...but I also agree that maybe he should be on his own if he is going to be procreating like a grown man!
posted by
Holy_Grail
on December 19, 2006 at 3:59 PM
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MiaElla
Well, moving out is better than living with that nonsense, she has no right to say that to him now. Perhaps if she'd done a better job parenting it wouldn't be so hard to accept her own responsibility for his actions.
posted by
WileyJohn
on December 19, 2006 at 1:05 PM
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That's terrible, Mia. I hope he sticks to his guns on this.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on December 19, 2006 at 11:54 AM
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Miaella...
I don't really agree with the mother hinging her ultimatum on him getting a vasectomy...but I agree with her kicking him out.
Call me a hard ass if you want...but I don't understand a man in his late 20's still living with his mom unless he is paying fair market value rent, or he is there because she needs assistance of some kind. If he is paying rent, then what he does is none of her business as long as his behavior is not physically disturning. Also, if he is paying rent telling him to get a vasectomy or move out would be a violation of landlord/tenant laws.
All that being said...I do understand how his mom feels. But he is grown and needs to be responsible for his own consequences now.
posted by
A_Norseman
on December 19, 2006 at 11:48 AM
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Hmmm... what was her reason for the demand?
And perhaps at his age, if he's open to fathering children then he should explore standing on his own two feet as well.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on December 19, 2006 at 11:38 AM
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I think I agree with the mother.
There are obvious obligations that go with such decisions and perhaps her actions can make him focus on the importance and potential repercussions of those obligations. It saddens me to think how frivolous some can make something that is very much profound.
posted by
telemachus
on December 19, 2006 at 11:28 AM
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