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LOL Blanche

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:32 AM | link to this | reply

actually this new laptop keypad is frustrating me, it's slowing me down

posted by Blanche. on December 10, 2006 at 6:29 AM | link to this | reply

LOL Blanche
You type really fast!!!  Actually it sounds wonderful!

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:26 AM | link to this | reply

well, this is pretty much an outline in a nutshell

posted by Blanche. on December 10, 2006 at 6:25 AM | link to this | reply

It was a 10 day cultural exchange arranged by the Seattle Mayor's

Office, when there was a lot of people to people exchange and travel going on between Seattle and Tashkent Uzbekistan, our sister city, due to Rosanne Royer, the Mayor's wife, who was Yugoslavian, and very active in cultural exchanges.

My friend, a photographer, organized a subgroup, called Places and Faces of Seattle and Tashkent in time for the Goodwill Games of 1990, hoping to get enough grants money to print a book of her own photography.  We organized a team of photographers to shoot a day in the life of Seattle and create a gallery exhibit of it, and then a simultaneous photo shoot in Tashkent by Soviet photographers to create an exhibition of both, hopefully to make a book like the Day In The Life Of series, the book never happened, but we got to stay with a Tass journalist and his wife, who introduced us to their friends and artists, very interesting people, and took us on a tour of Samarkand and Tashkent.  Wonderful memories.

then afterwards Sadik and Vladimir brought over their half of the photos and we had the exhibit in Seattle and Tashkent during the Goodwill Games.  We had a blast, there was so much partying, I still have a tea set, two Uzbek wedding hats, books and some beautiful native silk that the Uzbek women wear as head scarves.

posted by Blanche. on December 10, 2006 at 6:24 AM | link to this | reply

I really hope you will Blanche

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:24 AM | link to this | reply

I keep meaning to write about my travels, like Uzbekistan, I forget, Bel

posted by Blanche. on December 10, 2006 at 6:18 AM | link to this | reply

Bhas
Me too!

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:18 AM | link to this | reply

Blanche
This little tidbits keep coming out from you.  I hope someday you will tell the stories of some of your adventures. 

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:17 AM | link to this | reply

I will certainly pass that onto her Tanga
Thank you!

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:16 AM | link to this | reply

Naut

I can't run 10 feet let alone 26 freaking miles! 

As for Pam, I allow her to say what is on her mind and I leave it at that.  Pam needs to make her own choices without everyone elses input, I have been in those shoes and I didn't like it, I won't do it to her.

posted by bel_1965 on December 10, 2006 at 6:15 AM | link to this | reply

bel, it is the come back of such people that I admire the most, and they do
well up my heart to moisten my eyes.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on December 10, 2006 at 4:54 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, in 1988, I went to Uzbekistan on an arts exchange with photographers

as a translator.  We met some fascinating people, and also the return delegations, one of whom was a group of Soviet war veterans of the Afghan wars, young men who'd all lost their lower legs in land mine explosions, who formed a soccer team.

They played better than most able-bodied soccer players. 

posted by Blanche. on December 10, 2006 at 2:55 AM | link to this | reply

My hats of to people who enter such endurance

races. I am sure many have tales to tell as to why the goal of finishing means so much to them.

I am glad that Pam has you. Give her a hug and congratulations from Uncle Tanga please

posted by Tanga on December 9, 2006 at 10:28 PM | link to this | reply

bel,

I have always found the Ironman races very interesting. I have done a few marathons myself (just the normal 26 mile race) and I have a good idea of what it takes! But to do it with an artificial leg is utterly amazing!

I read the other comments, and I hope passionflower won't be too upset when I contradict her. It's great that you are being a good Mom to Pam, but I would advise you to never say anything negative to Pam about her biological mother, ever! In the end you could be doing a lot of damage. If Pam doesn't like her mother and says so, don't reinforce that either! In fact, in that case it would be far better for all concerned if you defended her!

posted by Nautikos on December 9, 2006 at 6:41 PM | link to this | reply

Taps
The people just amazed me!

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 5:52 PM | link to this | reply

Passion
I lived in Louisiana and I am sorry to say I am not nearly as enamoured with Texas as many others are.  Carl and I are seriously talking the Carolinas after Pam graduates.  But right now the hot chocolate and baileys is making it really warm around here!

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 5:52 PM | link to this | reply

Oh, Bel, I forgot to tell you that your paragraph about those participating in Ironman was really interesting.  I always love the stories behind participants of events.

posted by TAPS. on December 9, 2006 at 5:50 PM | link to this | reply

I think Pam is lucky to have supportive parents like you and Carl.

Have you ever sat her down and had that conversation with her where you talk about what a "Parent" really is?

You might tell her right now that her so-called "Biological mother" isn't a very caring, nurturing person. You might also tell her that the woman may never give the love and appreciation that Pam is seeking.

Remind her that she's lucky to have you and Carl but that she should STOP expecting her "B. mother" to give her the love and acceptance that she wants.

Some women just don't have it in them to care about their children. Sad, isn't it? {Ps...have you ever thought of moving south to Texas? We have really short, really mild winters.}

posted by Passionflower on December 9, 2006 at 5:49 PM | link to this | reply

Taps
It's possible but heavens I hope not, if she wants to hurt me she needs to do so directly and NOT through an innocent child.  I swear that would be enough for me to really react in a very bad way.

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 5:46 PM | link to this | reply

Bel, could her mother possibly be acting like that to get back at you for something.  She must know that it hurts you to see her act that way.  For whatever reason though, it is so sad for Pam.

posted by TAPS. on December 9, 2006 at 5:43 PM | link to this | reply

Joe
For her sake I truly hope so.

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 5:10 PM | link to this | reply

Wifey. . .
Pam's still got you to be proud of her.  And that probably matters to her more than what her mother could ever give her.

posted by Joe_Love on December 9, 2006 at 4:59 PM | link to this | reply

I know Shelly! I am awful!

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 4:48 PM | link to this | reply

awwww, bel...you meanie!! LOL

posted by shelly_b on December 9, 2006 at 4:46 PM | link to this | reply

Shelly
I tend to consider myself the lucky one.  Even when she does use all of my hair stuff and I have to make her wash it out before letting her out of the house and she hates me for it LOL!

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 4:42 PM | link to this | reply

bel, Pam is one lucky kid...she has you.

posted by shelly_b on December 9, 2006 at 4:39 PM | link to this | reply

Babe
I think she did, given she is now trying to convince Carl to take us out to see more.  It just made me sad for her that her mother couldn't or wouldn't share in her joy.

posted by bel_1965 on December 9, 2006 at 4:37 PM | link to this | reply

It's always sad but she does have you cheering her on. I hope she had a good time (I'm sure she did).

posted by babe_rocks on December 9, 2006 at 4:35 PM | link to this | reply