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I support you and am sorry about this. Please keep in touch.

posted by Amanda__ on December 6, 2006 at 2:30 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche

I don't think I did actually block him, I took his comment at face value and remembered that even though someone attempts to use a sweet and loving name they are still capable of some nasty jabs. As long as he keeps his opinion on the subject to himself, I won't block him. I belive with my entire heart that everyone should stand up and be counted, I just need them to do it in a way that changes things instead of on my blog right now. Be assured, I'll get back into the fight again at some point, I always do. But right now is just a really bad time for me. Thank you my friend.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 11:08 AM | link to this | reply

I don't blame you, Bel, this is scary stuff. I've watched you deal with

the last year or more with so much grace under pressure, but who needs more pressure. I remember one comment you got from Shamheartsong, or something, I took it up with him, but I'd say you're better off blocking him.Grief like this you don't need, love.

posted by Blanche. on December 6, 2006 at 11:03 AM | link to this | reply

Thanks to everyone

I haven't said much about the transfer issue because there is a part of me that is afraid that if I really say the words outloud then it all becomes real and as dumb as that may sound, that is how I get about anything relating to his military service.

I have a friend checking into the validity of the rumors and I can only pray that he comes back with good news but I have learned to expect the worst and hope for the best. To say the least I am STRESSED.

By no means am I pointing fingers at anyone, I realize that simply by being who I am it does tend to open me up to some of it and this has happened before, some I brought on myself as well. But at least for right now I just can't engage in any of it. I have to focus on my family, I have to focus on giving my daughter something that resembles a normal holiday and a normal life.

I love many of the folks here and I don't want to have to leave because in so many ways this is where I come to laugh, play and on occasion just raise a little hell with my friends. I personally am staying the hell out of any politics, it won't matter if I agree or disagree, I won't be involved. I just can't right now.

I appreciate everyones understanding in this and again please know that I am not blaming any one person or even persons in particular, I have engaged in my own debates many times and given the situation was not known to anyone here there was no way you could have known just how tense the whole thing is making me.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 11:00 AM | link to this | reply

Understood, Bel, I got you

posted by Blanche. on December 6, 2006 at 10:44 AM | link to this | reply

bel

Having been gone for a bit, I had no idea how things were. I made what is now an obvious stupid remark yesterday and for that I bow down and ask your forgiveness.

You are one of the lights that shines here in blogtown, one that I eagerly await news from and it would be a dark day here if you were to leave.

posted by TIMMYTALES on December 6, 2006 at 10:42 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, I felt a stab of pain in my heart at the thought of the possibility of you losing that child even for a minute. She needs you. You are so good for her because you love her dearly. What a thing to have to be concerned about on top of everything else.

posted by TAPS. on December 6, 2006 at 10:02 AM | link to this | reply

bel, I would surely miss you if you go, you know that. I don't know who's harassing you. Can't you just block them after you tell them where to go. Several of our friends seem to be bothered by these bothersome people. You know I've had some horrific blogs written pointing a finger at me and you know who that blogger is. Justi seems to be bothered by some. We used to just have nice clean fun on here, but everybody's going crazy. Just plain nasty people. I wish they'd get a life. Please don't get stressed out by them, they simply are not worth it. You are.

posted by MaggieMae on December 6, 2006 at 9:30 AM | link to this | reply

bel, I think that what you need more today is to Smile one of your

beautiful ones and then see for yourself how this war zone gets transformed into a love zone. C'mawn....Cheer Up, dear.

posted by Bhaskar.ing on December 6, 2006 at 8:16 AM | link to this | reply

LadyC

That is my plan. As long as it stays out of my blog, I'll be fine. This has always been a fun place to be, but it seems lately that climate has changed. I would hate to be a new person coming in and seeing this kind of crap.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 7:48 AM | link to this | reply

i got caught in the web a few days ago

but my personal life is more important - and so is yours. i keep blogit at a distance now and only read what cheers me up.

posted by ladychardonnay on December 6, 2006 at 7:46 AM | link to this | reply

Lovely

Thank you so very much.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 7:45 AM | link to this | reply

Bel,

I completely understand your need for sanctuary, and if blogit no longer serves as such for you, perhaps it is best for you to leave us. Much as I hate to see you go.

Please know that you and your family have my love, thoughts and prayers. You're welcome to email me if you like.

posted by lovelyladymonk on December 6, 2006 at 7:44 AM | link to this | reply

Pat

I often wonder how different is must be for a parent or grandparent of our troops. I remember before Carl's unit left in 04, I went for a walk in the park next to the armory and I notice a very old man sitting on bench wearing a hat from the VFW. The VFW had been so good to our unit I wanted to thank him. We sat and talked and I discovered his grandson was one of our boys going. I sat there and hugged the man as he sobbed. There are many memories that will fade in time, but that one will always live with me.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 7:12 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, I have two comments.

1) Take good care of yourself - you're valuable and necessary to your family and looks like you'll keep on dealing with scary sh*t. If you need to drop Blogit to do that, so be it. I am frequently inspired by how you handle what life has thrown at you, that you keep going in the face of powerful situations. I'd miss you, but support your decision 100%.

2) I'm keeping my fingers crossed that Carl is not deployed again - he's done his share, but we all know that has nothing to do with the brass's decisions. I'm hoping Rumsfeld's departure, etc. will bring most of the troops home in the forseeable future. Meanwhile, I hope you all stay safe.

I just found out my grandson's due for deployment in Feb. You know how I feel about that.

posted by Pat_B on December 6, 2006 at 7:07 AM | link to this | reply

Corbin

I deeply apprecaite your thoughts and support, but I have to also consider my own well being here. When I avoid my own blog, things have gone too far.

Right now it's scuttlebutt and I have a friend with some pretty good rank checking into it for me to give me a definitive answer.

What I know is this. The middle of the month my subscription runs out as I only signed up for one when I came back to see how things go. If something doesn't change around here, I will move on. I can't and won't continue to do this.

posted by bel_1965 on December 6, 2006 at 6:31 AM | link to this | reply

Bel....

Just ignore it and don't participate in it......if in any way I have caused you any stress, please accept my apology and forgive my shortcomings........I consider you a friend...and wouldn't want to to anything to give you grief.

Is what you mentioned scuttlebutt or hard copy? I visited your site above just so I would know where it was......in case you split from here.....

Which is the greater factor here Bel? The pettiness here or the latest about Carl? You have every right to be upset....but remember you have a hell of a lot of people here and 99% of them aren't even involved in the mess. And 99% of them are here to offer you support.....ranging from problems with your dryer....to the uncertainty facing Carl. Think about that before you made the decision to leave.......................