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bel, I lost your email when my son set up my email address while I was in the hospital. He said he sent the new one to everybody, but your's got lost in the shuffle. If you wouldn't mind, could you send it to me again.? Lots of times I have things I think you would appreciate. If you don't want me to have it, that's ok too. I'll still read ya. lol
posted by
MaggieMae
on November 22, 2006 at 1:52 PM
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Bel, I got your email, I'll respond more fully later.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 22, 2006 at 4:39 AM
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OMG Bel
I can't believe they allowed something like that to take place. Are they nuts? That should have sent up red flags all over the place.
I would have to think about pressing some serious charges.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on November 21, 2006 at 9:01 PM
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Offbeats
This woman has made a habit of getting around laws, rules, etc.. for a lifetime. What she is failing to understand is that when it involves minors the court system is not understanding given her record.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:45 PM
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Thanks Whacky
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:44 PM
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Maggie
In most cases Grandma's are harmless. My mother in law is far from harmless including using our daughter at one time so she could pull off a theft in a department store. Believe me cutting her off from Pam was not a decision we took lightly but we made it in the best interest of Pam.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:43 PM
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Avant
Due to the extreme circumstances we are taking every legal option possible at this point.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:41 PM
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Taps
Pam was distrubed but her comment was "We all know Grandma is nuts." Sadly, she is accustomed to the insanity and it seems the more we try to keep it away from her, the more extreme they get.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:40 PM
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Shelly
The situation is a bit more than I have written here and realistically you can't stop a parent but a grandparent does not have the legal right to be there especially when they have been told by the police to stay away from our child. At this point, I believe we have a stalking charge against her.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:39 PM
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Blanche
That is the plan for monday morning.
posted by
bel_1965
on November 21, 2006 at 8:37 PM
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bel
I can't say as I blame you...I woud be pissed too. She didn't even have to check in at the office first? Did you have a list of who can and can not visit at school? I know there is something like that around here. Like my G/children have who can come and have lunch,etc...
posted by
Offy
on November 21, 2006 at 7:50 PM
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Bel, I hope and pray you got this resolved. As Avant said below, sometimes
you do have to remind people not to overstep their boundaries, even if they are family,. In the best interests of your daughter, so as not to put her in danger, if your MIL, will not respect your wishes, and she's showing up at Pam's school (for what purpose, I wonder, that doesn't sound good?), I'd say make her sit up and take notice.
Contact the school, someone in admin or a teacher you trust, tell them what you're doing, and ask them to contact you and/or Carl and the police the instant the woman sets foot on school property. When it comes to your kids, you can't afford to take chances, family or not
Pam has to come first. My prayers are with you. I got more info on the VA, but M is not ready to proceed, it's up to him.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 21, 2006 at 7:46 PM
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Sounds like a good start.
Good luck!
posted by
Whacky
on November 21, 2006 at 6:19 PM
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Wow, bel, that's a toughie. I'm not sure there is much you can do. I know myself, being a grandmother, would not like being cut off from my grandchild. Has Carl ever instructed the school that she have no visitors or what people she can, rather can't have, visit her while she's in school? It does look as if you're going to have to have a restraining order to keep her grandmother away and do you have a reason? I know you're said her mother is bad news, but what about the grandmother?I know we've gone to the school and visited our grandchildren, but not without reason.
posted by
MaggieMae
on November 21, 2006 at 5:15 PM
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bel
Sometimes, you have to remind people what the law is. I've had to do it a time or two myself.
posted by
avant-garde
on November 21, 2006 at 3:32 PM
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Bel, what an awful situation for all of you. Was Pam upset by this visit?
posted by
TAPS.
on November 21, 2006 at 3:25 PM
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At our school, there isn't much we can do WITHOUT a restraining order..
I know...it stinks!!
posted by
shelly_b
on November 21, 2006 at 3:00 PM
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Two words, Bel: Restraining Order, ASAP. File it TODAY
posted by
Blanche.
on November 21, 2006 at 1:22 PM
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