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Thank you all so very much for your comments.
I have now updated.
I appreciate all your comments.
Bullying should be STOPPED. Something needs to be DONE.
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 3, 2006 at 12:00 PM
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Symphony
Don't stop until the school does something about bullying. All schools all over the world should take a look at bullying, it is terrorizing the smaller, less able and is animal behavior. Give her a hug for me. I will pray for her.
posted by
Justi
on November 3, 2006 at 11:19 AM
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Symphony
Bullying has risen to unfathomable levels within both grade schools and high schools. Parents get caught between a rock and a hard place because going to the authorities within the school will ultimately result in the bigger kids finding out they’ve been “ratted out” and sometimes the bullying escalates. (I hope this doesn’t happen to your daughter, by the way). My point is (or maybe I’m not sure what my point is) that kids are learning some strange behaviors and in all probability it comes from the home. When this happened to my daughter some number of years back, I approached the kids themselves and threatened to beat the living sh—t out of them if they ever did it again. This is not a recommended approach because unfortunately in this day and age, I would have had some sort of harassment charge filed against me. It worked for a while though…..
posted by
Troosha
on November 3, 2006 at 11:15 AM
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OMG Symphony,
I used to go to school with a boy who bullied me this same way. Eventually, my parents caught on and so did the school staff. Several years later, he attempted to apologise, but I'm not having any of it.
Please give Shannon my love...I feel for you both.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on November 3, 2006 at 9:58 AM
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Bullies are awful and I think what these girls did to your daughter was unbelievable. You've done the right thing, not stooping to their level. It's good to talk to someone who is in control of the situtation, ie the principle or a teacher or whoever. I hope these girls stop doing this to your daughter.
posted by
Kasthu
on November 3, 2006 at 9:44 AM
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i wonder what makes a bully anyway?
a future abuser i guess. i got in trouble in elementary school for falling asleep in class and daydreaming. what a success story!!!
posted by
ladychardonnay
on November 3, 2006 at 7:38 AM
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You did right going this route first
Keep the other as Plan B
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on November 3, 2006 at 7:30 AM
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You did right.
posted by
A-and-B
on November 3, 2006 at 5:30 AM
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My daughter got punched in the stomach at school one day.
We talked about ways to deal with it herself, and then I spoke to her teacher by note. She immediately called me and spoke to me about it. I explained that she felt that if she shouted at him to stay clear of her the next time, that her teacher might be upset with her for yelling!!! She talked to the class, and then to the boy. She said he admitted it straight away and that she talked to his mom. The next day his mom sent home two notes: One apology from her, professing that they didn't raise him that way, and that he would be punished when his dad got home. The other one was a note that he wrote to me in his cute little six year old handwriting (Dear Mia's Mom, I am sorry I punched Mia in the stomach....) I know how angry and hurt I was that day, and that was a kid her own age who just got over excited and carried away. They are still impulsive at that age. Bullying older girls I would want to smack myself. I get mad just thinking about older girls putting their hands on my baby....
Chin up. Your response is good. Some mothers would say nothing or do nothing. Some kids would be afraid to even tell their parents. I was as a kid. I had such low self esteem that I didn't think my parents would care. Good that she trusts you and wants your help in being independent.
Be well. 
posted by
Schatz
on November 3, 2006 at 5:18 AM
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i got upset just reading it
my son got into alot of scrapes - some mother called me and told me that my son was hitting her son over the head with his book bag after school. i knew that an older boy was bullying MY son - so he was probably retaliating on this kid. I hid in the bushes and sure enough he was hitting this little pee-wee over the head. guess what i did - i hit him over the head with his book bag the whole way home and asked him how he liked it!!! when we got home he asked me to call the bully's mother and i did and everything was settled. very hard for us mom's NOT to get upset.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on November 3, 2006 at 4:37 AM
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I think you've done everything right so far. The Head should be able to
sort it out with some stern words. They are only 10 after all, the bullies.
Hope it gets sorted. I think the freedom-giving is good. During the close-watch period once the bullies have been spoken to, if she still wants to walk home on her own, perhaps you could cover the blind spot by 'accidentally' returning home with some shopping at a distance where you can see her, but she can't see you. Then when she arrives at your door, catch her up immediately with something like "God, I thought I was going to be late back, then." Then you have the option to play the cavalry if the bullies go for her again.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on November 3, 2006 at 4:34 AM
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Symphony
how distressing. Did the head teacher say she would be in touch with those girl's parents? She should. My son was punched by a boy and his head teacher called me and told me that they boy would receive a brief suspension.
I think it is best not to focus on other people but to give our own children the best help we can in how to face such situations because sadly we meet bullies from time to time
posted by
Azur
on November 3, 2006 at 2:54 AM
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Bullies are awful and remain bullies
the rest of their lives if nothing is done about it. Try getting in contact with their parents and explain the situation. You are right - protecting ones children is priority number one
posted by
Tanga
on November 3, 2006 at 2:27 AM
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