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I see nothing wrong...
With electing not to have children. Face it, there are some that just don't want that, I don't think they should feel guilty at all. And yes, watching your own children being born is without a doubt the greatest high one will ever know, but one has to want that in the first place.
It is, after all, strictly your choice, stick by it.
posted by
food4thought
on October 15, 2006 at 9:34 PM
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I was happy for that woman who gave birth at age 66...if that's what she really wanted.
posted by
babe_rocks
on October 15, 2006 at 8:20 PM
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I remember that character and it reminded me of people I've worked with
I remember a guy I worked with who used to say that he and his taxes should not pay for other people's children but I think he forgot that it will those other people's children who will be treating him in hospital or serving him in restaurants and a million other things as he and millions of other baby boomers move towards retirement.
So what has that to do with your post? Well, I think it is only a character and people who are fanatical about cleaning their houses (not me;-) could equally say that the Bree character shows them in a bad light. As for being childless by choice well you may change your mind or not. It doesn't matter. Just enjoy who you are now and let the future bring what it brings.
posted by
Azur
on October 15, 2006 at 5:58 PM
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Kathu, I loved having children and grandchildren, but I have never felt that someone else should just because I did. Why sould anyone else care if a woman chooses not to have children?
posted by
TAPS.
on October 15, 2006 at 5:39 PM
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i am glad that you all feel that way
i never wanted children - but had my surprise baby at 20. but i feel bad for my sister right now because she regrets not having at least one child. i have three. she made her husband's choice - not hers. what can i say to her now? she is having a small breakdown now since she turned 50. someone please tell me what to say to her.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on October 15, 2006 at 4:15 PM
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Dear Kathu,
I am also childless by choice, and have never regretted it for a moment. I am too selfish and free-spirited to devote myself to raising children attentively, yet friends have always said they could see me as a great mother. Sure, i'm great around kids, because they aren't mine! I have always said that I sincerely love children tremendously. Honestly I do. I love them all the more when they go home! Really I do love them, being a mother just isn't for me.
posted by
Moxie_Maven
on October 15, 2006 at 4:08 PM
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my oldest sister is 51
and childless by the choice of her husband - now she has regrets. i would never presume to say that someone should have a child - i just want to tell you that there is no other feeling in the world than seeing a child come out of your body.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on October 15, 2006 at 4:01 PM
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Good for you. At least you know your own mind.
Don't let anyone change it for you. Now You've got me to wondering which caracter you are thinking about on "Housewives."
posted by
Whacky
on October 15, 2006 at 3:20 PM
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I don't have children, either...by choice.
My nephews and the kids I teach everyday are enough for me!
posted by
shelly_b
on October 15, 2006 at 3:13 PM
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