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Wow, Thank you ever so much for your wonderful comments and advice
very much appreciated....I never expected all these comments...
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 10, 2006 at 2:52 AM
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I think you are doing the right things.
It will just take time.
posted by
Whacky
on October 9, 2006 at 7:23 PM
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SYMPHONY, With all this good advice from everyone, it will be interesting to see how it turns out. Keep us up on it.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 9, 2006 at 7:02 PM
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Mrs Tanga and Divine have said it all I think Symph...
...sometimes they are reacting to insecurities and then I think they need that extra attention and comfort but also leading Jamie back to bed and letting him know you are just in the other room takes persistence but does work...I had a lil boy just like that. At some point it just clicked and he stopped coming to our bed. Of course he was 13 by then!
Haha..just kidding..it all happened when he was 2/3.
posted by
ginnieb
on October 9, 2006 at 2:32 PM
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SYMPHONY
Have you tried Valerian? It is a very useful herb that works great on children. It might just be a life saver for you. I've seen it in extracts that you put in a drink.
posted by
avant-garde
on October 9, 2006 at 1:13 PM
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As Mrs. Tanga commented
It is not easy. Sometimes one just needs to let the little ones work through their own insecurities. Make no mistake it is taxing. A good sign is that he has started going to bed in his own room. I am sure it will not be long and the nightly trips to your room will stop. Good luck
posted by
Tanga
on October 9, 2006 at 12:43 PM
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Maybe he's still somewhat afraid he'll have to go back into hospital? I really don't know, love. I don't have any children of my own, so the best advice I can give you is to just be patient and keep perservering.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on October 9, 2006 at 12:35 PM
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Hi Sweet Symphony
Oh GOd, I remember those days. I would wake up in the morning with 3 little kids in between me and my husband...and of course a wet bed too. The 4th kid from the 2nd marriage never slept with us:-) and always went to bed well. It will pass, everything does. Keep persevering
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on October 9, 2006 at 12:12 PM
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SYMPHONY
Well, I was more the disciplinarian type, that's what I would think the situation called for. However, we are all different and you seem to have a great deal more tolerance than I had luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on October 9, 2006 at 10:09 AM
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A stage to get through
I think many kids this age go through this Symph, so not to worry. He probably is feeling a bit clingy to you what with all that has been happening and his hospital stay.
One thing I did with my son at that age was to put him in his own bed at bedtime and after a story, reassure him several times that I am just outside and can hear him if he needs anything. I actually sat not far from his room so he could hear my voice the first time he called out. I wouldn't stay in his room until he fell asleep because he needed to learn to soothe himself to sleep. He seemed to be able to do that once he had the comfort of knowing I wasn't far away. He only called out once or twice (I would go into his room for only 20 seconds or just reassure him without even going in). This only lasted not even two weeks, then he was fine to go to bed, have a story and then off to sleep he would go.
Consistency is the key though Symph, if he came out of his room, he always was taken back to his own bed. It was tough, especially in the middle of the night, but the 'sleeping in Mommy's bed' is a hard habit to break.
Good luck!
posted by
DivineDiva
on October 9, 2006 at 8:52 AM
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You put a small electric current through the stair gate
That usually stops the climbing thing.
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on October 9, 2006 at 8:05 AM
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it will be. sorry about his eczema.
posted by
Amanda__
on October 9, 2006 at 6:21 AM
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Thankfully, we have never had that problem...
I am sorry to hear Jamie's eczema (okay not sure how that's spelled) was so bad! Poor kid...
posted by
FactorFiction
on October 9, 2006 at 5:55 AM
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Persistent reinforcement will do it. : )
posted by
A-and-B
on October 9, 2006 at 4:30 AM
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Dear Symphony
How old is Jamie again... 3/4 hey? Well, I had the same thing with my boy but not as bad. I personally think it is all the sad things that are going on there in your life that is affecting you at the moment and obviously is affecting Jamie. He feels your emotions and that is why, I think, he is becoming clingy. I notice as soon as there is some difference to our every day life, extra worries, extra sadness, whatever, the kids act up because they feel there is something wrong with mommy and daddy. Then they start to feel insecure and they need that extra love and comfort. Just be patient with him and tell him that everything is going to be ok, and that you are ok. Comfort him when he needs it and sometimes it isn't all bad for your child to come to your bed. Give him that comfort if he needs it at that moment! Good luck! 
Mrs Tanga
posted by
Tanga
on October 9, 2006 at 4:28 AM
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