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Gomedome, What I've found is that when someone really does not want to
get what you're trying to say, they will project that back onto you and make it your problem. I can explain in as simple, one-syllable words, short sentences what I am trying to say, and they still prefer to "play dumb" and make it my problem. It sounds like you've had similar experiences. I guess it's more fun to have something to write about, because otherwise they don't have much.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 27, 2006 at 7:12 PM
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Blanche.-- I find it amazing as well how some people can transfer blame
so easily.
If an individual is interacting with someone, commenting on their posts etc. prior to being blocked, you would think that they might take a little glimpse into the mirror instead of instantly blaming the blocker.. I had one instance where a person whom I had blocked began a little pity party amongst their friends over the blocking. And the real kicker was when this person began their whoa is me act they opened with "I was going to leave my usual sarcastic comment when I realized that I was blocked.".....not one of this person's friends said "hey wait a minute, I thought you said you didn't know why you were blocked?"
posted by
gomedome
on September 27, 2006 at 7:06 PM
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Gomedome, what I find funny about the whole blocking thing
is when someone I've blocked for being a pest, or in one case, sending me a lurid sexual email, will write a post griping about being blocked. It almost seems like they not only did not get the point, which I had tried to explain until I was sick of the subject, but rather enjoyed the whole drama, which I would have preferred to remain a private matter. After all, if somemone doesn't write about being blocked, the whole site doesn't need to know.
With the exception of lurid email sex guy, who I think lurks around here occasionally still, I've unblocked everyone. I just got tired of explaining my point.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 27, 2006 at 6:52 PM
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Schatz - that is one of the positives drawn from these types of experiences
If nothing else, these folks demonstrate for us exactly how we do not want to be.
posted by
gomedome
on September 27, 2006 at 6:43 PM
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schatz
we i think have a blocking blogger in common jusding from what you have said.
and probably a dozen others
posted by
Xeno-x
on September 27, 2006 at 3:33 PM
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I hope I can see it as funny. Right now I see it as kind of disgusting.
However, good has come of it. I have started reading people I never would've if I hadn't been forced out of my comfort zone. I was in a rut. I was reading people based on things other than common interests and the level of competency their writing shows. I have remedied the situation. I don't read anyone whose posts exhibit smallmindedness (which, I realize is not a word, but I like it). I was mad, but simmered down in a day and started expanding my favorites list. I've found such insight since then!
posted by
Schatz
on September 27, 2006 at 3:19 PM
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Schatz - I actually witnessed what you are speaking of
I don't often read that person's blogs but followed a comment title into the situation you speak of. You will have to excuse me for finding humor in the situation, I do know that it is not humorous for those involved in such things but once the shock and anger dissipates, what else can you do but sit back and laugh at the irony? And it is ironic, this group of people that are claiming to be disciples or followers of Christ are some of the most obtuse and comical people that I have ever met. They seem to be no smarter than gerbils. When you think about it, they are supposedly following teachings that should have them emulating the epitome of the highest level of human qualities that a person can achieve. In other words; Christ's message is clearly centered around self betterment pertaining to interactions and dealings with others. "Love they neighbor as thyself" is his follower's very own mantra. This phrase somehow also means:
be foul mouthed and ignorant towards anyone you disagree with, impose your beliefs on all whom you can and use whatever means available to ostracize, censure and generally annoy anyone that you don't like....they do make me laugh. I hope that you will eventually see it in the humorous light that I do.
posted by
gomedome
on September 27, 2006 at 1:45 PM
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I've just recently been blocked for the first time. You know the reason
why, I'm sure....because I don't attack people who badmouth Christians. But I don't think I badmouth
anyone. And I stood up and said that I didn't understand how someone could follow the teachings of Jesus, (who as he was crucified forgave all for their ignorance and general weasely-ness) could be so scathingly calling people names and seeking out posts where she could argue with people. So she told me to stop coming around and blocked me, which I found out when I went back to the post I lashed out at her in to apologize. Not for what I said but for the fact that I got so angry. Whatever. The funny thing is, I was just trying to tell her that I was worried about her. I guess if someone wants to block me, I don't want to talk to them anyway.
posted by
Schatz
on September 27, 2006 at 1:24 PM
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OFFBEATS - that's the point of the blocking utility in the first place
....aside from offering a level of protection from those who would harass another blogger, if they are getting on your nerves (and each individual determines what constitutes actions that get on their nerves), they are ruining the blogging experience for you.....It is keeping this in mind that makes it no big deal when someone blocks me, I don't want to ruin anyone's fun.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 5:54 PM
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I probably have been, but then again, I don't for sure..Sometimes I do block people if they really get on my nerves. I mean leave a comment not a documentary...
posted by
Offy
on September 26, 2006 at 5:43 PM
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Xeno-x - I've only ever blocked 3 people
If I mentioned the names, I am sure that you would see why. I can handle just about anything that someone may say in a comment but there is a limit as to how much crap anyone will tolerate from someone. Especially when considering that any of the 3 that I blocked would be whimpering like babies if they ever put up with the nonsense from me that I have from them. I don't bother blocking those who have blocked me, as I mentioned in this post, not once have I ever been blocked for my behaviour. It has always been because the blocker doesn't like my opinion.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 5:37 PM
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m just not a nice guy -- although cantey-1975 seems to think so.
so we have a clique of like minds blocking me -- and a few others -- can't count the ways of how do they love me.
but i do not reciprocate. a person can leave the nastiest comment in the world on my posts and i won't block them -- i might copy it and quote it word for word in a complaint to the Blogit godhead.
but -- other than that -- i welcome the conversation, the discussion, the dispute, the discourse.
we discover something from such.
posted by
Xeno-x
on September 26, 2006 at 2:14 PM
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sannhet - I think Blogit is adding the "Dumb Ass" button next year
Just click on it and those who desperately need a good whuppin up side the head, get it from their CD drives shooting out of their computers at them.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 1:46 PM
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Gome -
While I've never blocked anyone, I'd be lying if I said that there were a couple of times I wished I could wack someone up side the head and yell "Dumb Ass!"
posted by
sannhet
on September 26, 2006 at 1:23 PM
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TVBlogger - guilt by association is pretty sad in a forum such as this
....but to a certain extent I guess we all practice this to some degree. I know that if I read a post where someone writes an opinion that is completely misinformed or out to lunch and then I read comments from people that support that nonsensical opinion, I tend to avoid those people. ...
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 11:56 AM
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As far as I know...
...I've never been blocked. I have lost a couple of readers when they decided they didn't like some of my opinions. I lost a few readers when I started posting my opinions here. Thanks alot Gome!
Actually I'm fine with it. I am who I am and if you don't like it, go read someone else who's different. But blocked... not that I know of. I just don't go around trying to stir up that much trouble.
posted by
TVBlogger
on September 26, 2006 at 11:42 AM
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cantey_1975 - I think that you being blocked shows what happens when
some people are empowered.
Even a simple little utility such as blocking can swell the wrong person's sense of self importance.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 10:41 AM
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I think I got blocked once by some clown
way back in the olden days.
posted by
calmcantey75
on September 26, 2006 at 10:34 AM
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SuccessWarrior -- I had an Orkin man come into my bar a few years back
to rid us of a cockroach problem.
There was no doubt about it, the man was probably on acid himself or suffering the effects of inhaling too many pesticides.....but yeah, I'm sure they could handle it.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 10:31 AM
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Does the Orkin man take care of carpenter ants on acid?
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on September 26, 2006 at 10:14 AM
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gome
I have to agree with SuccessWarrior. That was too funny. I hope there are none of those lurking around waiting for me.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 26, 2006 at 9:48 AM
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Gome, that had me laughing
A carpenter ant on acid. Maybe the carpenter ant's son.
I have really been lucky so far. Hardly a rude comment and no one blocking me that I know of.
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on September 26, 2006 at 9:44 AM
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SuccessWarrior - it is only a matter of time for you
Somewhere, hidden away from society and completely shielded from reality, there is an individual that will come staggering out of the woodwork like a carpenter ant on acid, to see your blog as the work of the devil. .....It is inevitable.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:32 AM
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Sunnybeach7 - I've only ever blocked 3 people
All religious folks using an "attack the blog author" strategy. None of them were capable of backing their own contentions or saying anything even marginally compelling to refute anything that I had written. Every one of them also felt they had some kind of right to continue insulting me and I am certain of one thing. None of them would tolerate my behaviour of the roles were reversed.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:28 AM
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strat - you're too nice of a guy as well
You just have to accept that you may never wear the being blocked crown.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:23 AM
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Ariala - you have to laugh at those instances
Especially the first one...uh-oh, low cut jeans...I'm gonna block you now that I know that. It really is too funny, I didn't realize that mennonites are into blogging these days. Like where else can a person be coming from to use that as a qualifier but from a regressive mind set?
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:22 AM
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Sunnybeach7 - that seems par for the course
I always get a kick out of the folks that get caught up in it as if this site has life and death importance. It always seems to be the same type of person that does these things, or at least they all share common traits. They seem to have some serious life problems and an inability to deal with them (which may be the root cause of their serious life problems)......
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:13 AM
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I don't know that I've ever been blocked then.
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on September 26, 2006 at 8:12 AM
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I don't know that I've ever been blocked,
and I know I've never blocked anyone. But hey; the day's still young...
posted by
strat
on September 26, 2006 at 8:11 AM
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gome
Oh, and I have one person currently blocked. They had made a slanderous comment to one of my posts that was very SPECIFICALLY wrote for someone else and was no concern of theirs. I wasn't in the best of moods and got tired of arguing with them, so I blocked them. It's the only time I've ever blocked someone that didn't have me blocked.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 26, 2006 at 8:10 AM
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Gome, speaking of jealousy...they were all three women, so maybe you're
right?
I think my sense of humor isn't understood by some and they take offense... so much for being a sweetheart?
posted by
Ariala
on September 26, 2006 at 8:10 AM
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Gome, you might get a kick out of knowing that
one of the persons blocked me because I wrote that I wore low cut jeans sometimes...this lady didn't like that and blocked me LOL Another blocked me because she thought I hated lesbians, which I don't...I made the mistake of leaving her a comment with the word "disgusting" in it after reading something very explicit that she wrote. I had a "LOL" in it afterwards just to show that it was hard for a straight woman to understand what she was writing, but that I was trying...well, that turned into a war against me and then I found out (through her observation) that I was really a lesbian hahaha...oh well, I apologized for the misunderstanding, but nothing worked. The third blogger blocked me because of guilt by association...
posted by
Ariala
on September 26, 2006 at 8:08 AM
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gome
I have been blocked twice that I know of. One of those times was an "accident" so I was told. Haha.
The other just is jealous and hates me.
I don't hesitate to block someone when I find out they've blocked me. I think it's only fair.
And yes, I've still had some who had blocked me say things about me in other's posts, maybe not TO me directly. Also they have made many posts, not using my name but implying things about me, as well.
Oh well.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 26, 2006 at 8:06 AM
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Ariala -- now I'm shocked ---- you have actually been blocked?
A sweetheart such as yourself? ......there has to be more to this story. Other factors have to have been in play....jealousy maybe? Or someone attempting to garner a few clicks from it?....I'm still in shock.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:04 AM
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Talion - you're too nice a guy to be blocked
One thing you will never see me do is complain about being blocked by someone. In this category and considering the nature of this blog, it comes with the turf. Where I do question their maturity upon ocassions where the blocking has been simply over divergent opinions, I actually feel sorry for anyone whos only means of making their point is absolute censure.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 8:01 AM
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I've been blocked three times...each time I was caught by surprise as to
why I was being blocked. LOL It made me laugh, but it's not fair to block someone and then the person who blocks you writes terrible, slanderous posts about you and doesn't give you the chance to defend yourself. Currently, I'm not blocked by anyone (that I know of). Two of the three bloggers who blocked me are gone.
posted by
Ariala
on September 26, 2006 at 7:58 AM
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SuccessWarrior -there is only one way to find out and that is by attempting
to leave a comment.
In all of the cases where I have been blocked; an interaction began with the blocking blogger, quite often with them writing a scathing post about my contentions, or even about me and when I attempted to refute what they had said, I found that I was blocked. I have had a couple of instances where I went to comment on a post of a blogger that I had never commented on before and found myself blocked. I have also been blocked by some folks that I had commented on very rarely. A couple of times completely out of the blue, at least from my perspective. They obviously read something that I had written and made their blocking decisions based on my blog content. This has never bothered me, I have always viewed it as part and parcel of posting in a public forum but I do find it telling, especially in the cases where it is clearly due to not liking my opinion. This tells me that I won't miss dialogue with these people.
posted by
gomedome
on September 26, 2006 at 7:57 AM
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gomedome
I've never blocked anyone nor to my knowledge have I been blocked. Of course, I intentionally shy away from the more controversial arenas of politics and religion where like the gladitorial coliseums of ancient Rome, the blood is destined to flow in rivers. Another thing I've learned from my experiences here is if you tell a fool what a complete fool he is, all you get is a fool that's mad at you. Who needs that?
posted by
Talion
on September 26, 2006 at 7:54 AM
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How do you know if you've been blocked?
I blocked one person as a joke a couple of years ago but I don't have anyone blocked now.
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on September 26, 2006 at 7:46 AM
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