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Thank you all so much for your wonderful thought-out comments....
there is so many comments, I want to answer indivually, but my mind is elsewhere at the moment, I will try and answer you all later....
Thanks again...
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 11, 2006 at 4:20 AM
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SYMPHONY
I think a lot of it is due to how we really view ourselves. We tend to notice what we focus on unconsciously.
I notice that when I stop finding flaws in others, I can accept myself much more readily.
posted by
avant-garde
on September 11, 2006 at 3:09 AM
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Human nature is a puzzle
we will never decipher
posted by
Tanga
on September 11, 2006 at 12:15 AM
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Why? Well, it is a negitive world we live in.
At least that is the way it seems.
posted by
Whacky
on September 10, 2006 at 10:19 PM
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Symphony
I have done that, got a compliment that had a hanger on the end that was more or less like I am going to compliment you but don't feel to good about yourself I want you to know you are still..... Well I will never leave you a two sided comment like that, lady. You are great! I am glad I get to read you! Be blessed.
posted by
Justi
on September 10, 2006 at 8:27 PM
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Hi, Symphony,
I've had these same thoughts and questions, sometimes. I guess people just offer opinions because we think we're being helpful, profound or enlightening. Sometimes, it helps. Other times, it backfires and hurts someone's feelings. That's when it's bad to offer one's opinion so much. Thanks. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on September 10, 2006 at 4:40 PM
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Readers offer opinions because we're supposed to comment on something? Lol.
(A)
posted by
A-and-B
on September 10, 2006 at 2:34 PM
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You do make some very good points...have a great day.
posted by
steeler_fan
on September 10, 2006 at 2:28 PM
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Symphony, good questions,
My boyfriend and I talk about the "lobster pot syndrome" all the time, that some (not all, but a few) people are like lobsters in a boiling pot. As soon as they see someone trying to climb out of the pot, and get ahead a little, they want to latch onto them and bring them back into the pot. As opposed to climbing out themselves. Not all people are like that, of course, but it's been our experience enough when we were tryingn to get our lives together, that people around us, who knew we had as little as they, would get very upset, if someone who had almost nothing, had even so much as a slice of pizza that they felt they were entitled or owed, not thinking about how that person would eat, if they gave away their own food.
So, it's all about who you surround yourself with, I guess. And, we've lost friends since we climbed out of the pot, it seemed like people who we thought would really like to see us do well, get a new place, have a good relationship (with each other), and for him to get really good job, and start to make good money selling furniture, suddenly don't come around anymore, after they were very supportive and commisserating during the hard times. It is very strange.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 10, 2006 at 2:16 PM
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Hey this is gr8. I recently blogged about a 'positive mental attitude' as the foundation of success. Be Positive! and stay the course; as for the crowd just give them the Dixie word "Not Ready to Make Nice"!
posted by
Sabsline
on September 10, 2006 at 11:39 AM
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Symphony
Now... Symph... you could have done better than that?.... Ha Ha.. don't worry .. I am only joking. A good post to think about. These questions does make you think and you realise how strange we humans really are, because everybody just seem to pay attention to negative comments. But I suppose that is how we are, we always want to better ourselves and don't want to hear negative things about ourselves.
Mrs Tanga
posted by
Tanga
on September 10, 2006 at 11:28 AM
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Wow.
Questions like that could keep me awake all night. No wonder I try not to think about them!
Interesting stuff, Symph!
posted by
strat
on September 10, 2006 at 10:33 AM
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Symphony
we are strange creatures that is for sure!
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on September 10, 2006 at 10:30 AM
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Good questions. And sometimes when you are sad and self conscious, people still want to take you down a peg or two. That's the part I don't understand.
posted by
babe_rocks
on September 10, 2006 at 10:23 AM
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SYMPHONY
I don't know but they do it all the time!!
posted by
Offy
on September 10, 2006 at 9:50 AM
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