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YP-Wow, you said a mouthful!
I mean that in the nicest way, too. I thank you for sharing and for the helpful words of support. It never hurts to be reminded of one's blessings. His mercies to behold! I really appreciate it, my friend. (and I just can't get fern-ly inspired tonight......)
LadyCee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 7, 2006 at 2:38 AM
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I took your advice, Lustor-
I just starred him down! (my husband that is) Our pillow talk tonight: I kept telling him all the ways I appreciated him including what he'd done today that had shown me he loved me and cared if I live or die. He kept opening his eyes and I was always looking at him with a genuine loving smile. I told him I was "taking him in" until I fell asleep. He was probably thinking "she's getting weird on me again" - lol! I hope you find someone to love soon. "Likes" attract so filling your heart with love to give may attract someone else who has also a heart filled with love to give. I consider myself doubly blessed.
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 7, 2006 at 2:33 AM
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I can give advise but I dont do too well myself. I am a very lonely lady and would love to have a man like your husband, you should know how lucky you are.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 6:29 PM
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Lady C, it takes strength to walk away w/ your self-esteem intact.U opened
your heart and life--all the futur and beyond-- for this special love. I cannot know the depths of your hurt. Once in Africa, I stayed away from a young woman I had broken with with, because I could not persuade her it was me & my family, not SHE, that caused the split. If I continued to see her, I would have committed adultery & other sins....so I pray at times for her to forgive me still. We love U & Jay is no consolation prize--he is whom God has chosen for you. Marriages are made in heaven, no matter how rocky. Shalom
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on September 6, 2006 at 3:20 PM
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I swear, Lustor,
You MUST be a MC in real life.
"And forsaking all others, take him only unto yourself for as long as ye both shall live"
CeeMarie
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 6, 2006 at 3:05 PM
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ceemarie53
just tell him daily what it means to have his support, if its true and you love this man, forget any others and make him your main purpose for living
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 1:16 PM
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OK - I lived without romance all these years-
I need a kick to the curb of reality. I called my Jay and he got my voice message I sent HIM and said, "Ahhh." He is my reality now. Thanks, girls, I am crawling out of the phog pit, I am.
CeeMarie
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 6, 2006 at 11:12 AM
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ceemarie53
As romantic as you are you need to focus that romance on the man that is real, not the one that lives in the fantasy land with his wife. He may not be happy with his decision but he is with her no matter. Keep your chin up, and move away from the romance and show the same strength as your husband has shown you.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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I do believe it, CeeMarie. Under that heap of romantic desire is a very intelligent and wise woman.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 6, 2006 at 10:09 AM
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Lustorlove,
You don't happen to be Mike and wife's Marriage Counsellor? LOL
God has taken me through this and is waiting for me to reach up and grab His hand and pull myself up, again! I just got lost in the phog and need to return to the warmth and safety of my husband's cloak; to get out of the phog where there are many dangers. I teetered on the cliff and Mike let go of my hand and let me fall, not sticking around to see if I lived or not. I let my cloak disintegrate in Mike's light. It's dark where I am, and I get lost when I look at the calendar. Thanks for your wise words. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. I will never find another Jay.
CeeMarie
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 6, 2006 at 10:09 AM
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Taps-
Believe it or not, I've used the same analogy in my arguments to myself! Thanks for the encouragement. I am giving him up, for the upteenth time. I HAVE a lover, a good man! A stronger man, and I don't want him to walk away saying, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 6, 2006 at 10:01 AM
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ceemarie53
many men cant live up to the challenge and it appears your husband is proving he is. don't mess that up with memories of a anniversary. Just keep it as that and forget him. I know its hard as I too hang on to something way too long, but its been years since anyone has declared their love to me and he is dead now. You never know when that love one will be taken from you so hold on to him dearly.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 10:01 AM
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Thanks, Lustorlove,
You know, you're right. I need to make it an effort to forget. I get caught on the snags. He's forgotten me. It hurts but he's tried really hard and glass wall or not, he has moved on and doesn't want to be reminded of me.
I do have a husband who cares for me, who does help me and tells me Mike couldn't have held up to the challenges of my health problems. Obviously Mike didn't want to know if I had cancer and it is happening again; my husband said he would prove himself to be the stronger man. I've been keeping him apprised of my little "Mike" anniversaries and my hurts and fogs. We are open about it all; no denial on our side.
As you can see in our photo, we are truly smiling and I keep tha photo in front of me to remind me that my status quo may not be perfect, but he is here, Mike chose not to be.
Thanks!!
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on September 6, 2006 at 9:56 AM
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Oh, Cee, no man is worth the torment you are putting yourself through. Let him go. Count him as dead and gone--only a memory. Let him fade away instead of keeping the memory alive and on fire. Don't be another Scarlet and lose your Rhett by not realizing what he really means to you until its too late.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 6, 2006 at 9:47 AM
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good company
I think this is God's way of telling you your life is with your husband. It hurts to lose a love, but love is true and caring. He feels he belongs with his wife, and many men feel that way if they hang on to the love they once felt for the wife. Hang on to your husband and let him be the one who holds you when you are hurting. Forget Mike as he has forgot you. You are a lucky woman to have such love dont lose it now.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 6, 2006 at 9:23 AM
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