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Pat
Thank you so very much.  The military may regret that my husband was one because what they will find with me is that I DO NOT go away nor do I accept "can't be done" as an answer.

posted by bel_1965 on August 27, 2006 at 7:19 PM | link to this | reply

The more posts I read of yours, the more I am

thankful for the sacrifice that you (as well as your soldier husband) have made for the sake of my freedom. I'm sorry you had to endure all the sh*t that goes with after-service. And I sympathize with your frustration with the bureaucrats who seem uninterested in doing their jobs, let alone going an extra inch or two to be really helpful. :)pat

 

posted by Pat_B on August 27, 2006 at 10:31 AM | link to this | reply

Sunny
I appreciate it thank you.  There is not alot to be said, I simply have to do something.

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:39 AM | link to this | reply

Fourcats
I am not sure about strength but I am madder than hell and for me that gives me strength. When I realize how close  we both came to doing permanant harm to our relationship and having some understanding on my end of what was happening could have avoided a hell of a lot of resentment, I am furious.  Things will change one way or another.

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:38 AM | link to this | reply

Tanga
Certain things make me very angry.  One of my biggest pet peeves is allowing problems to occur when they could be prevented or limited. 

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:35 AM | link to this | reply

Blonde
No need to apologize, I am grateful for the input.

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:34 AM | link to this | reply

Avant
That is my hope.

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:33 AM | link to this | reply

Rumored
I am DETERMINED to get the information out there.  Even if I have to write it all myself and donate it to the military.  SOMEBODY has to do something to help these troops and their families.  We have the technology and the ability but it has to matter enough to someone to do it.  It matters to me!

posted by bel_1965 on August 26, 2006 at 9:32 AM | link to this | reply

bel, no need to apologize for being mad as hell...you should be..you
wouldn't be human if you weren't...and as you take the bull by the horns in this very serious issue, here's hoping you find open ears and open minds....

posted by Rumor on August 26, 2006 at 3:51 AM | link to this | reply

bel
It sounds like you are in a great position to raise awareness of these things. Perhaps, by your voice others will be better prepared.

posted by avant-garde on August 26, 2006 at 3:02 AM | link to this | reply

Bel

Yes, you are right. I can relate as a civilian facing all of these things overseas in 4 different danger zones.....I feel that I could never relate to most people about my experiences much less on an intimate level in a relationship with someone.

I can understand how hard it is for a couple that is married. I can see where you would want to know everything and have some sort of an idea of what Carl was and has experienced while in Iraq.

I can see how frustrating it could be for Carl as well because it is hard to explain the emotions that one goes through.......sometimes it is depressing, sometimes you feel joy and a sense of pride and sometimes you just feel plain guilty.

It is hard to communicate those feelings. It is also hard to explain things you are going through when you can barely understand them yourself at times.

I use to feel and still feel that the harder I work and travel around the easier it is to block things out and not deal with things that I need to deal with. This is my number one obstacle in having a heathly relationship.

You and Carl are very special people. I'm glad that you were able to overcome those obstacles and I'm sure you two will be able to take on anything in the future that comes your way.

Sorry for writing a blog inside of your blog!

posted by BlondeAmbition007 on August 26, 2006 at 2:49 AM | link to this | reply

You have has an awful lot to
deal with and I think the message you are sending is clear. Good for you!

posted by Tanga on August 26, 2006 at 12:16 AM | link to this | reply

this is a very powerful post, bel. certainly, you sound like the type of
person that can take this kind of task on.  it is daunting, there is no doubt, but it is doable because you're right, lives are being expended callously, care is not being taken to protect the very people that lay their lives on the line for us.   you impress me with your strength and resolve.

posted by fourcats on August 25, 2006 at 10:49 PM | link to this | reply

Bel
That sounds like a whole lot to deal with. I'm sorry you and your family had and have to go through this.
I don't know what to say except that I agree with you.
 

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on August 25, 2006 at 9:25 PM | link to this | reply