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Pat
Blood does have it point but Pam has been with me as long as she can remember except for 2 years. There was a conversation we had not too long ago and she asked me about being pregnant for her. I had to remind her that I did not give birth to her.
I don't know what will happen but for now the best I can do is deal with what is in front of me.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 3:46 PM
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A person who starts out as a selfish jerk
will often remain a selfish, insensitive jerk even after their children come along. You're so wise to let your daughter vent and just listen to you. It must be hard to keep your mouth shut, but even if you're just being sympathetic, she'll eventually feel bad toward you when her mother finally acts like a person. Blood is thicker... :) She's lucky you've given her a soft haven.
posted by
Pat_B
on August 23, 2006 at 2:48 PM
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Tanga
Thank you
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 7:15 AM
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Mystic
I am so sorry to hear that your parent's have made such a foolish choice.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 7:07 AM
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Justi
I suspect what you will find over time is that no matter what other harm has been done to them by other people the deepest hurt and the most damage will have been caused by parent's.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 7:03 AM
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Jim
thank you
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 6:58 AM
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Corbin
I just do what I think is best for her. Thank you.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 6:56 AM
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Root
It does seem that way.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 6:55 AM
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Factor
I hope so.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 6:44 AM
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Wiley
It's interesting to realize how many mother's are selective in which children they want.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 23, 2006 at 6:44 AM
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bel 1965
Your post brings back a lot of bad memories for me luv, I had custody of my kids until about 5 years later my ex wanted our youngest with her again.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 23, 2006 at 6:42 AM
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Poor Pam.
Having parents who DO want her with them and who support her (even if one is not biological) will override the pains of rejections. You all just keep showing her love and the hurt will fade.
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 23, 2006 at 6:33 AM
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Some mother's just don't have a clue. Sick eh?
posted by
Root05
on August 23, 2006 at 6:31 AM
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Pam is so lucky.....
to have you there.......You're the rock that she will be able to tie up to....... to hold her steady. Without you she would face the prospect of becoming what her mother is......as happens with so many abused children.
You're sumptin else........you know that???
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on August 23, 2006 at 6:11 AM
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May the light of love eventually burn through
the darkness of human ignorance. We are so fragile, us humans. But, we are also resilient, so may love prevail.
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on August 23, 2006 at 3:04 AM
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Bel
I am so glad you are there for her. I was so devastated today the first day with my new ladies. I had no idea parents could be as these have been. The terror some children go through is beyond my comprehension. What it does to the children all of their lives is incredible. May God bless you lady.
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Justi
on August 23, 2006 at 1:07 AM
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Thoughts with you
It is hard for her to be going through that. I have not experniced when I was young. However once I got involved with my husband both my father and mother do not want to have anything to do with me. I feel sorry my son because they never will know him. All you can do is be there for her and it will work out in the end.
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mysticj1
on August 22, 2006 at 10:48 PM
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I feel for Pam
It must be so difficult for a young child to deal with that sort of rejection from a biological parent. I am glad as I believe she is better off with you and Carl and I am sure that she will have a much better, fuller life than if she was with her biological mother! I am sure she appreciates the support you so freely offer.
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Tanga
on August 22, 2006 at 10:39 PM
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Julia
you are so right. Sadly, there seems to be more and more of them.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 22, 2006 at 10:16 PM
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you know what, I think there are just some people
who should not ever have children, and she sounds like one of them. Pam is lucky to have the two of you.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2006 at 10:15 PM
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Shelly
I believe she is.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 22, 2006 at 10:06 PM
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wow, that bites.
I'm sure it hurts Pam, but I'm sure she is happy that she has a family, that cares and loves her.
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shelly_b
on August 22, 2006 at 9:57 PM
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