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So, you are asking how to change your thoughts, right?
But, I find it impossible to change my thoughts, so I force myself to do stuffs that would help in benefiting my ideal reality. After a while, my reality becomes better as a result, and those bad thoughts just don't seem as real anymore. But, of course, people get happy and sad and happy and sad, I simply try to enjoy sadness when it comes.
So, I would say, change your reality first, then your thoughts, if possible.
posted by
bandanafish
on August 24, 2006 at 2:00 PM
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Hi, Mysteria. I love your name.
Something I have found helpful is to question my negative thoughts. Here's an example:
Thought: "I'm not good enough."
Is that true? Really? That I'm not good enough?
Well, sometimes I don't feel good enough.
Can I absolutely know for sure that I'm not good enough?
No, I can't know anything for sure.
How does it feel when I believe that I'm not good enough?
I feel weak, hopeless, helpless. I feel cut off, alone. I give up. I stop trying.
Does that thought help me in any way? That I'm not good enough?
It reminds me to not try things beyond my capability, to not take unnecessary risks. But there are more positive ways to do that. Believing I'm not good enough just paralyzes and makes me feel awful. No. It doesn't help. It doesn't contribute anything positive that I can't get in another way that feels better.
Who would I be if I were unable to think that thought?
I'd be good enough! I wouldn't be plagued by doubts. I'd be free. I could walk through my life in comfort, easily, happily.
How would I turn that thought around? "I'm not good enough."
I AM good enough.
I am good enough for my life.
My life is good enough for me.
Do any of those feel as true or truer than the original thought?
Yes. They all feel more true. I like "I am good enough for my life," and "My life is good enough for me." I'm going to keep those.
posted by
HsanNedgo_
on August 23, 2006 at 11:04 AM
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Bad proofreader...
should be, "it is hard to let go..."
posted by
food4thought
on August 22, 2006 at 8:55 PM
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food 4 your thoughts...
My thoughts control me too tightly. I is sometimes hard to just let go. At times I cut loose but only when I percieve it is ok, otherwise my lingering shyness and repression reign me in way too tight. Of course, here on Blogit, I can control when I cut loose and it isn't a face to face interaction. If I were to meet you in person, you might think me stuck up becasue I am so shy. So, it is tough to change and it comes slowly, but keep trying, every little victory helps. I am way less shy than I used to be.
posted by
food4thought
on August 22, 2006 at 8:54 PM
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Along the lines of PF--read Rick Warren's PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE, and
may I suggest a few ideas--
1. Tell yourself YOU are bigger than any problem, any difficulty or opportunity. You will not be bowed because opportunities were created for you. All I need to do is rise to the opportunity.
2. All thoughts are MINE--there is no separation in the Universe-- there are no original ideas only recycled ones. So, why recycle bad thoughts back t me. Let me enjoy others' syuccesses because it is really me that is part of the whole---the Humanity in me is the enjoyer, the winner, though it may have a nother name and passport.
here's an inpsiration--
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 22, 2006 at 8:01 PM
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Each day when you wake up, say these things out loud:::
If you'll type them up on a piece of paper and stick them on the wall, you won't forget.
- I am the head and not the tail
- I am above and not beneath
- I am blessed in the city and blessed in the country
- Everything I set my hand to do is blessed
- God loves me and has a good plan for my life
- Out of my belly flows rivers of life-giving waters
- I have the wisdom of God
- God is a good god
I've got a bunch more I could send you. If you'll type them up in BIG LETTERS, then you won't forget to say them. I guarantee you that this will work. It's God's word and it always works because there's supernatural power in God's word.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 22, 2006 at 8:32 AM
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mysteria
It is extremely difficult to change adult thinking, you have to make a conscious effort. I don't know you all that well, but I never saw you as a person who does not think logically. Some of your thoughts in your posts are quite profound and always give me something to think about....Good Luck Lady, you can do anything!
posted by
Offy
on August 22, 2006 at 6:10 AM
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I figure that since we have a great deal over what happens to us
It's best to be optimistic. If I'm going to have a self fulfilling prophecy, I want it to be a good one. =)
posted by
SuccessWarrior
on August 21, 2006 at 9:59 PM
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Dear Mysteria,
The phrase gets it wrong only because it describes what is, not what might be, which is what you're asking. You can change your reality by changing your thoughts, more specifically, your interpretations of events. Here's how it works, and it does work--I've helped others do it, and I've done it myself.
Our senses bring in everything directly to eyes, ears, etc., between the senses and our consciousness, our brains interpret the sensations as perceptions. For ecample, our eye has a hole in its center where the light hits the optic nerve, but we nver perceive that, our brain scans in overlapping patterns to erase the hole. Sounds basic, but that happens at all levels of our perception. Over time, we establish expectations about what we will perceive and sense, affecting us futher. Just try holding an ice cube out towards someone in one hand, have them cose their eyes, then touch them with the other hand. They'll likely jump and act as if you touched them with the ice cube because it's what they expect. Those expectations over time become reinforced as beliefs. What you are describing, is the beliefs you've developed over time from reinforced perceptions and expectations.
There's a great book on changing these called Learned Optimism (no I don't get a kick-back). In a nutshell the guy who is as much an expert as we can find, points out how neutral events get interpreted negatively in three ways when you tend towards pessimism, a possiblilty given what you've said. Here they are: pessimists tend to see situations where things go badly as permanent (it'll always happen this way), internalized (it's my fault it happens like this), and global (it'll happen like that across all or most situations), so why try.
Changing your thoughts means recogninzing that you have actively perceived them in a certain way, and you can choose to change that perception. Then acting on that recognition any way you can. Outside help comes in handy here. Then it's practice, practice, practice.
Sorry this comment went so long, hope it's helpful.
posted by
Thor_Jasmine
on August 21, 2006 at 5:21 PM
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