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Bel, I've been worried about you! There's not a lot I can to from here,
but I am glad to see you survived the night.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 6, 2006 at 12:49 PM
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Glad to hear you got James out of your house!
I'm sure it's gonna take some time before your household settles back down again. So don't stress over all the negative energy that still lingers from his visit.
I'm leaving you this LINK for when you get some time and some sleep - It's Episode 26 of the Road Trip Sagas.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 6, 2006 at 12:49 PM
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Thanks everyone!
I will catch up later in the day but I have work that MUST be done before I start playing today. James is home with his mother, Pam is feeling very betrayed by her mother and I am running on about 3 hours sleep wiht a great deal to tell everyone but first I must work!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 6, 2006 at 8:16 AM
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Someone needs to teach that kid...
not to pick on people that can't defend themselves. With that size difference he could just "sit" on her or something. My daughter escapes (often to the bathroom...) when her little brother gets to be too much. Hope you guys can work something out to keep everyone safe.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on August 6, 2006 at 8:10 AM
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you did the right thing, bel, no question about that...
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posted by
Rumor
on August 6, 2006 at 7:45 AM
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If you're lucky, he'll figure out that discipline is part of love. This boy needs help and a whole lot of love, bel. It'll be tough, but he's worth saving, isn't he? I wish you and Carl the best of luck.
posted by
MaggieMae
on August 6, 2006 at 4:26 AM
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Bel
Looks like James has picked up some really bad habits from his Step Dad.
I can't stand that Pam has to suffer for this type of Neanderthal behavior. I really feel for her and you at this difficult time.
No one deserves that kind of abuse. 
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on August 5, 2006 at 10:38 PM
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CLICK NUMBER ONE! WOW! THAT SOUNDS LIKE NO FUN AT ALL. SORRY!
posted by
swftfox
on August 5, 2006 at 9:40 PM
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Bel, I'm so sorry that you are having this scary problem when I know that you love them both so much.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 5, 2006 at 4:52 PM
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bel
I am so sorry for what you are going through. You have taken on a very large job. You are doing well with it. I know you would rather things were different with the children. The problems lie in what his standard is, for some reason he believes he has a right or he would not have said that to the police. He needs to know it is wrong, totally wrong without discussion, James you don't hit girls and women! There is no right for his actions. Just be careful. Do what you have to do and be safe. Be good to yourself. Do you mind if I pray for your family now?
posted by
Justi
on August 5, 2006 at 4:47 PM
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I have never had to cope with violence directly and I don't know what I would do, but it sounds like you are making the wise decisions. Best of luck to you.
posted by
babe_rocks
on August 5, 2006 at 4:32 PM
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bel
You made the right choice. I'm glad no one was seriously hurt. I think it best if you kept him away from now on.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 5, 2006 at 4:08 PM
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Bel, I hope you're okay
posted by
Blanche.
on August 5, 2006 at 4:00 PM
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Oh God, I'm so sorry...
Apparently alot of damage has beeen done to James in the past that will take a long time to "Fix"--- IN the meantime, you're very wise to protect yourself and Pam from his violence.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 5, 2006 at 3:26 PM
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No way should you feel guilty, James is not THAT young, he's not a child
like you said, he has 100 lb. on you and his sister. If he is already a man, he has to learn to deal with the consequences of his actions.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 5, 2006 at 12:53 PM
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Whacky
His anger terrifies me and it terrifies Pam. I feel bad that I feel this way, it never occured to me that I would fear a 13 year old. Even worse one that at one time was a very sweet and loving little boy.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:52 PM
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Bel, you did the right thing, James has got to learn that he cannot use
violence, and he already has a bad role model in his stepfather. This has got to be nipped in the bud. Granted, Pam taunted him, but that is no excuse, he can learn to reason and talk to settle a conflict. I hope Carl can make him understand. You should not have to put up with this.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 5, 2006 at 12:52 PM
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Sounds like a scarey encounter! Glad you kept you head.
Take it easy.
posted by
Whacky
on August 5, 2006 at 12:48 PM
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Why do I feel so guilty LLM?
I know this is best until he learns to control his temper but I feel so awful guilty for not being able to make this right.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:37 PM
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Bel,
You have every right not to put up with this. I hope your daughter will be all right and that this young man gets the help he so obviously needs...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 5, 2006 at 12:33 PM
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