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Tell me bel,
How did you come to know that the bimbo at Iraq told Carl that he could take a dip into her vat of imfection if he so chose? The narrative style is impressive. A good post.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on August 6, 2006 at 5:46 AM
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Bel
Sounds like you have a healthy loving and trusting relationship.
Carl is a great man! You two remind me of Faith Hill and Tim Mcgraw......how sweet! 
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on August 5, 2006 at 10:34 PM
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Avant
That is a good rule. I tend to hug my soldier's but they are family and it seems I am saying good-bye all too often. I will hug my friends husband and they mine but the bond we share after last year makes it so nobody ever worries or wonders what the intent might be.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:34 PM
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Blanche
There are people that will never understand how we do things, but we know in our hearts that it is about respect for the person that we love. Even if we don't care what other people think, they WILL think it and it makes our partner look foolish. I respect Carl too much to do that to him.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:31 PM
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Taps
Thanks so much! I agree if we don't trust the other to do the right thing no matter what, there is no relationship to be had.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:29 PM
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Offbeats
I agree!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 12:28 PM
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bel
I like that rule; there's no room for temptation. I have an unwritten rule that I don't touch other women- only my wife. Now, granted, if it's an older lady that I've done some work for, I'll give them a hug. There's just no reason to put my hands on another female. I think women would have raised eyebrows if they knew what went on in most men's minds.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 5, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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Bel, for someone to make that statement, like the one the woman made on
Dr. Phil is to ignore the obvious. You're right. I've always just shaken my head when I hear about two women going at it over a guy. The guy is the one who screwed around, but she is screaming at this other woman as if she is the only one who did anything wrong. She needs to take it up with him.
And, your rules and Carl's rules sound very common sense. I got some raised eyebrows when I explained to some people iin the coffee shop that Gideon and I have an understanding. It's fine to chat with guys there, but not take it any further, no going out elsewhere, to hear music, drinking, or whatever. Not that I would, but it's just understood.
As for him, he can take female colleagues out for lunch or coffee and talk business, but he tells me about it, and I trust him.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 5, 2006 at 10:06 AM
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Bel, there has to be trust between a husband and wife or it is no good at all. Good for you two. Keep on keeping on.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 5, 2006 at 9:58 AM
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bel
I trust everyone until they give me reason not to. If you don't have trust you may as well throw the marriage or friendship out the window...
posted by
Offy
on August 5, 2006 at 8:06 AM
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Thanks Rumored!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 8:01 AM
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not old fashioned at all, bel...very wise....
posted by
Rumor
on August 5, 2006 at 7:58 AM
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LOL Factor!
I'll try to get at that one later.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 7:50 AM
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OMG
Toooo funny...you have GOT to write a post!
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 5, 2006 at 7:46 AM
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Oh yeah!
The final results were this: He hid from Carl for 3 months and when Carl found him he simply explained that I was owed an apology and he needed to be more afraid of me than him at that moment. Something about asking the wife of someone you might relying upon for your life to take a photo of your penis is a bit too much!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 7:42 AM
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sounds like a story there...
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 5, 2006 at 7:40 AM
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Factor
Repair people don't count, the are there to do a job. We aren't ridiculous about it but given neither of us are overly social we don't usually have a lot of people dropping by. I had made an exception to that rule for awhile because we had soldier's coming by all the time when the Armory was near the house. This was at Carl's request. When I ended up thowing the unit's male whore out of my house, I made the choice to put it in place again.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 7:39 AM
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But how do you get a repair_woman_
to come if you are there alone? Sounds difficult sometimes...
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 5, 2006 at 7:32 AM
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Temple
As one of the LT's commented while they were in Iraq "There is just too much sex going on around here!" LOL!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 7:07 AM
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I have too many male friends...
And he has too many Marine friends with female friends, but we do have trust there. We both got it out of our system before we got together, and really, it's not worth it just for curiosity sake when we both know what it's all about. Gotta love them Iraqi barracks hos! Man, the stories I hear at Camp Pendleton just FREAK me out.... eeeesh....
posted by
Temple
on August 5, 2006 at 6:52 AM
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Blackcat
Thakns! It works quite well too!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 6:40 AM
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great post. I don't think it's backwards... I think it's practical and
smart. Stay out of potentially dangerous situations and you will stay out of trouble.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 5, 2006 at 6:38 AM
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Nana, Ariala and Afzal
Thanks so much!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on August 5, 2006 at 6:35 AM
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I agree with you.
posted by
afzal50
on August 5, 2006 at 6:32 AM
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Good post!
posted by
Ariala
on August 5, 2006 at 6:30 AM
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Bel
Bravo!! Well said!
posted by
Nanaroo
on August 5, 2006 at 6:25 AM
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