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thanks for your reply.
I never meant you did anything reckless, you are too savvy for that. I meant emotionally vulnerable. I say, you will meet the right person when the time is right, you put yourself out there, and get on with the business of living until something happens. I admire your confidence and optimism. It is inspiring, there are a lot of broken people out there looking for a quick fix, (sounds like me) but until you have healed properly nothing ever works. Sad but true, not speaking about you here.
I prefer the company of safe friends I know, or books or whatever, I find it hard to cope in some social situations with people I don't know because .... well it is a long story. Keep writing I enjoy your blogs.
posted by
marieclaire66
on August 5, 2006 at 10:15 PM
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Hi Marieclaire
Why do I do it? Hmmmm...I'm a painfreak? I'm singleminded and don't give up easily? It's become a hobby? I'm an incurable optimist? It's better than saying home in the evening sitting on the computer? Perhaps all of the above.
I'm not sure what you mean about making myself vulnerable. If you feel that what I'm doing is dangerous, I beg to differ; it's a whole lot safer than meeting drunken men at a bar (which seems to be the way singles do it in Wisconsin), and I do vet the men I meet. Plus I trust that people are basically good. If you mean emotionally vulnerable, well, life's about pain and disappointment and learning to live with it and still be happy. A lot worse things than heartbreak can happen. Besides, I've learned to keep a bit of distance, to hold a piece of myself close to my chest. This doesn't mean I can't release for the right person, it just means I don't splat it all over every eligible guy.
Gee, I wrote a lot, maybe I should make this into a blog.
Thanks for reading!
posted by
jentoblues101
on August 5, 2006 at 5:11 PM
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pretty sharp comments.
You had those men sussed in record time. If you don't mind me asking, why drives you to date like that? Is is it an observation game, a passtime or a genuine search or all of the above?
why make yourself vulnerable again and again, computer is a great place to "hide and seek for me" but I am a brave coward, say a lot but never show your face, any thing that might lead to real encounters. No go zone, too painful. contradictions.
posted by
marieclaire66
on August 5, 2006 at 4:55 PM
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Thanks Jazwolf!
I knew you'd come through in my time of grammatical need.....
posted by
jentoblues101
on August 3, 2006 at 6:52 PM
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Jen--- Oops. He was married three times, not four. Still too many for me.
posted by
Jazwolf
on August 3, 2006 at 6:35 PM
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Jen--- "Whom" is correct. Wow, divorced four times. Sounds as if you pegged
him right, in that he must be desperate for love. Others marry many times, I think, because they just don't take the commitment that seriously. I simply can't imagine going through that kind of trauma multiple times.
posted by
Jazwolf
on August 3, 2006 at 6:33 PM
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