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Blanche
The best friend sounds like a nightmare!

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:54 AM | link to this | reply

Writersblok
That is a wonderful way to look at it!

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:52 AM | link to this | reply

Thank you Avant!

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:40 AM | link to this | reply

I agree Pat

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:39 AM | link to this | reply

Dave
I believe you are right.  The if's and but's never change a thing.

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:37 AM | link to this | reply

Runs At Dawn
Thank you so much!

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:36 AM | link to this | reply

LOL Strat!!!
The problem is you would morph back into now and you would ache like hell from that beating.

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:34 AM | link to this | reply

Mrs.C
you are so very right!!!

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:32 AM | link to this | reply

Corbin
I suspect that will be a question for the ages.

posted by bel_1965 on August 3, 2006 at 9:31 AM | link to this | reply

There been lots of books and movies made on this very topic..........is it pre-ordained or chance?

posted by Corbin_Dallas on August 3, 2006 at 7:47 AM | link to this | reply

Hard Truth
It is difficult to see how helpful distressing events can be in the moment they are occuring, but it is a hard truth that was doesn't kill us, only makes us stronger. 

posted by TheNewMrs.C on August 2, 2006 at 8:42 PM | link to this | reply

I refuse to regret or second guess.
I occasionally want to go back in time to find my 21 year old self and beat the crap out of me, just for drill, but it probably wouldn't do any good. My life's just sailing, and I don't and won't regret anything.

posted by strat on August 2, 2006 at 7:06 PM | link to this | reply

What a great attitude!

posted by Runs_at_dawn on August 2, 2006 at 6:24 PM | link to this | reply

Oh yes, the path not taken, by ourselves, by others. Frost's poem says it
all for me. How often we think such thoughts. The ifs and buts of life.

posted by _dave_says_ack_ on August 2, 2006 at 2:07 PM | link to this | reply

Speculating on what would have changed if only
you'd done one thing instead of the other -- the main story line for all those time travel yarns.  Boils down to "so soon old, so late smart."

posted by Pat_B on August 2, 2006 at 2:05 PM | link to this | reply

bel
It's good to reflect, and realize that in no other way could you be where you are. Nicely done.

posted by avant-garde on August 2, 2006 at 1:16 PM | link to this | reply

Bel,
I believe my past mistakes have made me a much better person today and boy am I glad I didn't marry any of those old boyfriends! :-)

posted by WritersBlok on August 2, 2006 at 11:56 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, I think they would get along. The could play Blitzkrieg or Axis and
Allies or Squad Leader, and we could go shopping or sit and talk.  I don't think they would hate each other, I feel bad that MG doesn't have any buddies.  His best friend married a woman who can't stand him and vice versa. She's a socail cliamber and a wannabe snob.  That is so not us. 

posted by Blanche. on August 2, 2006 at 11:55 AM | link to this | reply

Bel

I totally agree with that.

I am truly grateful for my past even for the mistakes that I have made because it has brought me to where I am today.

Thanks for the reminder.

posted by BlondeAmbition007 on August 2, 2006 at 11:26 AM | link to this | reply

Oh our two men should either get along famously
or hate one another!  Carl is a Leo! 

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 11:06 AM | link to this | reply

Nope, not me, never Gideon is the essential Taurus, he even plants his
feet and refuses to be budged.  If I ask or make a fairly reasonable argument, he'll usually come around, but he won't be bullied, badgered, and he doesn't see the logic in faith. 

posted by Blanche. on August 2, 2006 at 11:03 AM | link to this | reply

LOL Blanche!
Hard headed, impossible to move and of course even on occasion WRONG!  Of course we would never be like that.

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:59 AM | link to this | reply

Stubborn is a nice word for it, Bel

posted by Blanche. on August 2, 2006 at 10:52 AM | link to this | reply

Passion
I have seen the difference in you since you started.  Shoot, you are even getting a hurricane out of it!

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:51 AM | link to this | reply

I've been gving thanks for the past 2 weeks
And it really is helping with my outlook and attitude.

posted by Passionflower on August 2, 2006 at 10:50 AM | link to this | reply

Blanche
Yes, I do understand very well.  Men are so damn stubborn!!!!

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:44 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, I wonder if Gideon will ever see that? I hope so. I don't force it
on him.  I couldn't, he's too leery, but I hope that after years it will open his eyes. Yes, you know, don't you? 

posted by Blanche. on August 2, 2006 at 10:43 AM | link to this | reply

Blanche
I am with you.  There was certainly something much larger than ourselves at work when Carl and I came together.

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:37 AM | link to this | reply

Bel, I think that same thing many times when I'm tempted to get mad or

wallow in the self-pity about the past.  Life is so good now.  Gideon and I talk about that, would we appreciate each other half as much if we hadn't had our psycho exes and messed up families?  Probably not.  We have it good and we know it.  How sweet it is.

Also, he doesn't believe in divine intervention or grace, but I do.  I know that he is a gift from God, that the love he has for me is a real gift, the way he treats me, the life we've made together, it's all a gift.  I appreciate it so much. 

posted by Blanche. on August 2, 2006 at 10:34 AM | link to this | reply

Sunny
Good for you!!!!

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:32 AM | link to this | reply

Bel....I agree
It's easy to wish you could change the pain of the past, or mistakes you've made, but every different turn could have led us to a different place from where we are now.
I'm happy to be who I am today. I wouldn't change a thing!  

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on August 2, 2006 at 10:28 AM | link to this | reply

Thank you LLM
I hope you are doing better today.

posted by bel_1965 on August 2, 2006 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

posted by lovelyladymonk on August 2, 2006 at 10:21 AM | link to this | reply