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Katray
LOL! I was actually blessed to raise a fine young man before I met Carl. My phone never stopped and they were always girls. Michael grew up to be a wonderful man whom I am so proud of. I don't know if it is different with girls or if it just that Pam is my last child but it's breaking my heart!
I have no doubt she will find a very nice young man as she has a wonderful example in her Daddy but there are days I wish she would stay my little girl forever.
Thanks so much!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 7:20 PM
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Well, I've raised two boys and...
one girl. Mixed feelings here, lol. Teenage boys do have feelings too, other than the obvious, but those raging hormones surely can dominate their..umm, brains...;)
Touching post Bel.
posted by
Katray2
on July 30, 2006 at 7:15 PM
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bel 1965
A very loving post
posted by
Justi
on July 30, 2006 at 6:46 PM
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Isn't that what we keep them around for Blanche
Carl is my best material!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:46 PM
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Thank you, thank you very much, I'll appearing nightly at the Lizard Lounge
don't forget to tip your waiters and waitresses (and you can thank MG for the analogy). He complains I steal his best material and screw it up, lol.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 5:44 PM
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ROFLMAO Blanche!!!!
Now that was one hell of an analogy!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:43 PM
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There's a useful technique, Bel, I'll have to remember that one, Thanks!
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 5:42 PM
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I knew Passion would understand!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:42 PM
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Blanche
I did some of that during my own therapy (journaling). One of the most emotional assignments I had was to write a letter to my mother using my non-dominant hand. The writing appeared as if a 6 year old had written it and by the time I was done, I had pretty well gone back to the age of 6. It started out in adult language and ended in child's language. It was rough but it was very, very useful.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:41 PM
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Bel (and Passionflower),
If they're not evil, they're at least obsessed with sex. MG says all it takes for a teenaged boy to get a stiffy is a good stiff breeze, lol. Which is what is amazing about the number of female teachers who think it is cool to sleep with their teenaged boy students. It's not exactly a compliment that they think she's hot, they'd think a knothole was hot!
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 5:39 PM
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You've made a wise decision!
ALL teen-age boys ARE evil!!!
posted by
Passionflower
on July 30, 2006 at 5:36 PM
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EXACTLY, Bel!!! You said it, getting to the heart of the person to me is
much more critical. I'm not saying that list-making and practical functioning isn't important, but far more people are good at that, than getting to the core of the healing process, and that is what is exceting to me about the healing possibiliities of writing, drawing, even collage, introducing all kinds of story-telling aspects, and forming a support network for people who tend to isolate, out of shame, guilt, depression, etc.
Pete said his mom used journaling herself. I hope to get him to give me her phone no. or introduce me when she comes in to see the twin boys, which by the way are so cute and getting so grown up. I volunteered to babysit for them because between the business and the boys he and their Mom are looking pretty tired.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 5:34 PM
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Blanche
Making lists SUCK!!!!! When I write about other people I have a need to get to the core of their heart. It doesn't matter to me if they are marketing a product or humanitarian of the year, I want to know the PERSON. Getting to the emotions will give you that and to me that sounds a great deal more rewarding!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:30 PM
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Um, there are some people of course I would NOT want to give any ideas to!
I was talking to the owner of the coffee shop today, and I really want to meet his mom. He said she had a hard time mentally and emotoinally when he and his brothers and sisters were young, a very hard time, but she managed to come back from that and get an MSW and has now been a counselor for 20 years.
He has a BASW, but he got burned out. I definitely want to avoid that, it was the case load and the bureaucracy that did him in. I'd like to find a niche of my own and not work as a social worker. That's not my thing, teaching people how to function, like making to do lists of how to organize their time, etc. I'd like to get more into the emotional healing.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 5:27 PM
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Hehehehehehe Blanche
Yep, you will make an awesome councelor!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 5:22 PM
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I like to use creative visualization, Bel, as a tool,
Relax, close your eyes, breathe deep. Now, imagine that clip sliding into the magazine. Okay, open your eyes, don't you feel better? (You do know I'm joking, right?)
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 4:56 PM
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I knew you would understand Blanche!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:55 PM
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Azur
Can't I just skip this phase? OR how about I send her into a convent?
Honestly, it was just a bit of a shock to realize she was old enough for boys to be looking.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:54 PM
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She will still want you to watch her
as for the boys, you will like some of them I'm sure. From my observations, the parents who handle that phase well are the ones who make the boys feel welcome and
almost part of the family
posted by
Azur
on July 30, 2006 at 4:50 PM
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Fools! LOL. You could be patrolling the front porch right now!
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 4:41 PM
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Avant
I suspect it's probably even harder on the daddies then it is on mom.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:40 PM
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Blanche
Yes they made him turn it in.
Obviously they don't understand he has a daughter to protect from evil teenage boys!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:39 PM
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BrightIrish
I can't even think that far yet. I wonder if I lock her in a closet until she is about 40........
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:38 PM
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Maggie
But she is not a boy, she is my baby! If she were a boy I would hate all teenage girls!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 4:37 PM
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Would you say that if Pam were a boy? Girls look too, you know? hahaha
She's just growing up, bel. They all do.
posted by
MaggieMae
on July 30, 2006 at 4:17 PM
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Bel
You are giving her the love and guidence she needs in order for you both to survive those teenage years. I felt the same way about my girls and now I am watching some of there girls enter those teenage years. .
posted by
BrightIrish
on July 30, 2006 at 4:11 PM
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Bel, she'll be fighting them off with sticks soon. (or maybe you will be).
Um, speaking of that, are you armed? I am seriously worried for any teenaged boy who comes around your hourse, lol! Carl did turn in his M-16 right?
posted by
Blanche.
on July 30, 2006 at 3:38 PM
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bel
I'm relieved to not have to put up with teenage boys looking at my girls; unless, of course, we have one down the line.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 30, 2006 at 12:27 PM
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Maggie
My plans are to introduce those boys to her Daddy who happens to be a heck of a good shot!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 7:56 AM
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LOL Corbin
I will. But I wouldn't count on those boys surviving.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 7:50 AM
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Rumored
They are just trying to keep you out of trouble.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 7:50 AM
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Blonde
Thank you so much. I hope I have a had a positive impact on her life.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 30, 2006 at 7:48 AM
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Bel
You do deserve some of the credit Bel. You are a terrific role model for her and a stable figure. That is just not a given anymore in today's society. I didn't have that. Thank God for my best friend's mother in High School, I can only imagine how I could have ended up.
I believe that when you have a positive impact on a child's life.......it has a ripple effect on the rest of the world......you will see......she will do great things!
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on July 30, 2006 at 7:03 AM
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bel..lol...they do grow up way too fast..now my daughters tell ME what..
to do..but thats ok..they're just looking out for their dad..
..(yep, all teenage boys need to be watched like a hawk)
posted by
Rumor
on July 30, 2006 at 6:31 AM
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To Paraphrase Bette Davis as
Margo Channing in All About Eve......
"Fasten your seatbelts, it's going to be a bumpy few years......"
But you'll survive...
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on July 30, 2006 at 6:24 AM
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I can tell you, bel, that's never going to work. You can never keep their eyes from roaming. hahaha
So, what are your other plans? lol
posted by
MaggieMae
on July 30, 2006 at 6:02 AM
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