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Katray
Thank you! Things are looking more and more hopeful today!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 27, 2006 at 11:17 AM
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Definitely justification for anger..
and yes it can pay off. Hope Pam never has to be around such an animal again. Thoughts and prayers sent.
posted by
Katray2
on July 27, 2006 at 10:39 AM
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Sorry to hear the spores and all are attacking...
Are you still doing well with your battle with the nicotine?
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on July 26, 2006 at 3:57 PM
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Blanche
Enjoy that coffee!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 11:25 AM
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I think I'm there, Bel
I've heard that "After all, I am your father" or "I am your mother" line all my life. Well, it cuts both ways. Act like one. Okay, enough ranting. I need my coffee.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 11:24 AM
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Blanche
I know what everyone says to do about your mother. She is your mother blah, blah, BLAH!!! My advice: Quit trying if she wants a relationship with you let HER work for it, otherwise quit putting yourself through hell!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 11:22 AM
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Bel, I am trying so hard with my mother, so I know what you mean about
opening yourself up to more pain. We bought her a beautiful cherry table for her entryway, it is way nicer than any piece of furniture I've ever owned. G bought it with his discount but it still cost some bucks. We are still going back and forth over when she will come and pick it up, and she still acted like she wasn't sure if she wanted it. It's amazing, no one can get to you like your mother.
Anyway, so much for that. I should have known better. I couldn't forgive my stepfather or stepmother if they weren't dead. And then it's only because I don't think about it.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 11:10 AM
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Blanche
I personally will not take a single risk with losing Pam because I lost my temper, but fantasies are nice 
As for forgiving people like that. I fail to see that point in therapy. I tried that once with my mother and got stabbed in the back, stomach and any other place that I had a shred of human emotion.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 11:05 AM
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I know, Bel, that part was too touchy-feely and woowoo for me. There is
that part of "therapy" that I just will never go along with. I can learn to accept some things, but I will never like them, or the person who perpetrated them. There is right and wrong, and good and bad in my world view.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 11:00 AM
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Bel, at some point, this human garbage will face God. It may be cold
comfort now, but vengeance really is God's. You don't want any blood on your hands, so to speak, it would only taint your own conscience. It's a good thing he's 300 miles away.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 10:58 AM
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ROFLMAO
How does one find compassion for those who abuse children. I am just not that kind of person. I can empathasize with pain but I can't feel anything but disgust for people who hurt kids!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 10:58 AM
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Visualize that and smile, a catlike half-smile, that was an exercise we
learned last week. Actually, the exercise was to contemplate the person we hated most, until we felt some compassion for them. I said, "We don't have that kind of time". Maybe the smile will throw them off, though, lol.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 10:56 AM
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True Blanche
but I have to admit right now if I could hit this idiot in the stomach with a belt and leave a bruise I would!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 10:53 AM
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It beats the hell out of actual violence (sometimes)
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 10:52 AM
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LOL Blanche
Obviously I do as well!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 10:48 AM
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Bel, I try to censor myself. It's a family blog.
Otherwise, I swear like a sailor when I'm really pissed.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 10:46 AM
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Blanche
At least your language is nicer than mine was when I was told that!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 10:44 AM
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Bel, what?!!!! That is so messed up, I can barely comprehend it
In Michigan a parent or stepparent can beat their child with a belt as LONG AS IT DOESN'T LEAVE A MAREK? What kind of institutionalized sadism is that?
posted by
Blanche.
on July 26, 2006 at 9:58 AM
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Sure hope that works! Gee talk about useless laws.
Oh I answered your "Eddie" question in my comments section.
posted by
Whacky
on July 26, 2006 at 7:48 AM
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bel
Isosorry!!!!
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 7:31 AM
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Offbeats
You are making me jealous!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:30 AM
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bel
What's you talkin about Willis?
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 7:29 AM
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Offbeats
That is not nice!!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:27 AM
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bel
Last year Roger took me up 12 times. I really loved it because it is a feeling of being totally free (even if Roger was just below me) He always said we would make it up to 21 thousand feet to jump, but we never got clearance for over 17...I think you would love it!!
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 7:25 AM
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Hehehehehe Offbeats
It's your fault...you reminded me. Now Carl is gonna be mad at you because everytime I mention it he gets all nervous.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:23 AM
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bel
Dang woman... I hear ya~LOL
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 7:20 AM
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Offbeats
Cuz Passion said I was yelling when I wasn't. So I just showed her yelling and
I really really really wanna jump!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:13 AM
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bel
That's good news! Now why are you yellin at everyone this morning???? My post almost blew away!!
posted by
Offy
on July 26, 2006 at 7:10 AM
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Blonde
It is a huge relief!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:10 AM
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Hehehehehe Passion
I was just showing you yelling!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 7:09 AM
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Bel
That is great news! Good always wins over evil!
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on July 26, 2006 at 7:08 AM
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I believe you, Bel...
You rattled my office with your yelling in my comments section...LOL! {PS-hope you get feeling better}
posted by
Passionflower
on July 26, 2006 at 7:08 AM
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Passion
He has a good point. Believe me this is not something I will back down on.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:46 AM
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God! This is awful...I'd be pissed too!
You hang in there and see that this works out like it needs to....be tenacious (guess I don't have to tell YOU...LOL!)
LMAO at Dave's answer...his mind works in strange ways.
posted by
Passionflower
on July 26, 2006 at 6:45 AM
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Dave
I suppose I better check into that. This is the most ridiculous law I have ever heard of in my life and believe me Michigan has some seriously DUMB LAWS!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:45 AM
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Shelly
How could I NOT? She is my child.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:43 AM
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Bel, poisoning doesn't leave a mark. Do they allow that?
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on July 26, 2006 at 6:42 AM
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bel, I'm so sorry this is happening to Pam...that's awful!
I'm glad she felt comfortable being able to tell you these things. I hope things work out, it's good to know that you guys are doing SOMETHING about it!
posted by
shelly_b
on July 26, 2006 at 6:40 AM
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