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Catching up with your posts Bel...
How horrible and outraging! Thoughts and prayers for Pam, you and family.
posted by
Katray2
on July 27, 2006 at 10:33 AM
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Tanga
I am so sorry for what your child has been put through. These monsters should not be allowed to walk the face of the earth.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:24 AM
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Avant
Social services is useless around here. They will be involved but I am basically going over their head to someone who can do something!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:23 AM
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Blonde
He will get his! I am talking to a family attorney who is also a child advocate. She seems to have some very good ideas!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:22 AM
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Maggie
After doing a bit of work this morning it may work out much easier than I expected. Thanks sweetie!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 26, 2006 at 6:21 AM
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I sure don't blame you for doing that, bel. Hide her if you have to. No child needs to be treated that way. I know that makes you angry. I know it would me.
Poor baby! Good luck.
posted by
MaggieMae
on July 26, 2006 at 4:54 AM
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Bel
I hope this turns out O.K....I know that these kinda of things can get nasty and dragged out. I'm so sorry this happened. She is a little girl....how can anyone be so disgusting? I swear he can't be human.
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on July 26, 2006 at 4:09 AM
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bel
I'm sorry to hear this. Can you not report this to social services?
posted by
avant-garde
on July 26, 2006 at 12:07 AM
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This is scary.
What a sick man. Keep you precious daughter safe at all costs. My sister was abused by my grandfather and it has scarred her for life. I hate these types of people and they should rot in hell!!
posted by
Tanga
on July 25, 2006 at 11:20 PM
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Rumored
I'd like to believe that might happen but you know when someone who cons their way into a 30 day sentence for six felony convictions including larceny and embezzlement, I don't have much faith he will do any time for this!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 9:17 PM
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Blanche
I agree!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 9:13 PM
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bel, good idea..keep her close..and belt this man if he comes close...
enough.....I hope some way some how he gets put away....
posted by
Rumor
on July 25, 2006 at 9:12 PM
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Bel, I believe "overly sensitive" is a phrase that bullies frequently use
to disempower and silence anyone who questions their tactics. Mind games are part of their stock iin trade, and it's part of the lasting damage, as I'm sure you know. It's a good thing Pam has you as an advocate, or her self-esteem would be damaged.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 9:02 PM
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Blanche
I hate the phrase overly sensitive in these matters. I do believe it makes us hyper sensitive because we know EXACTLY what it is like and the kind of damage it inflicts.
Pam is a self confident and beautiful young lady and I will be damned if that scum is going to take that away from her.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:58 PM
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Good for you, Bel. I hear too much about being overly sensitive
to our pasts, but if it does some good, like training us to look for warning signals that others might miss, then maybe that's part of God's plan. It makes you a good advocate. It might do so for me as well.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:55 PM
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Blanche
I understand this all hits way to close to home for me! I am an over protective parent (everyone says so LOL) and much of that comes from my own history and a determination to make sure Pam does not grow up with the same garbage.
If the court doesn't take care of this, I will see that the news media does!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:53 PM
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Amen to bullies fearing real men, Bel. Too bad there weren't any in my
family.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:50 PM
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Bel, what a relief. I was ready to hop a flight to Michigan.
and find some Russian sailors to work this jerk over. (Okay, I'm only slightly kidding here, but only about the Russian sailors. They work cheap.
However, all kidding aside, I was worried that Pam was still in their house. I hope that all things considered the courts believe you and Pam and do whatever is necessary to get both of them out of there. I can believe that this piece of human excrement, this excuse for a man, would only prey on someone physically weaker than himself. However, her mother has some responsibility for this as well, to protect her children. Grr. I have so many strong feelings about this. I am lucky, very lucky that my mother married my own jerk stepfather when I was an adult. However, it was small consolation to witness the damage he did and be unable to stop it or help.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:49 PM
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Blanche
They are 300 miles away so that limits the oppurtunity. We meet in a mutual place and he does not come anywhere NEAR Carl. Funny thing about bullies, they tend to fear real men!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:46 PM
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Blanche
Pam is here and her mother doesn't have visitation again with her until Christmas, which gives us the time to get paperwork in motion.
From what I got by talking to both kids is that this man only seems to hit and assault women. Then again James is one hell of a lot bigger than the step-father. I'll do what I have to do if her mother isn't willing to do it. One way or another the kids will be protected from this asshole!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:44 PM
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Bel, I am SERIOUS, do not let Carl go there alone. Take cops with you, if
you have to.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:42 PM
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Blackpearl
That is the one good thing about them being 300 miles away right now. Carl can't just get in the car and deal with it!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:41 PM
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Where is Pam right now, Bel?
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:40 PM
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Offbeats
I can't even begin to explain just how angry I am at the moment.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:40 PM
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Ariala
I am understanding it all to well tonight!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:38 PM
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Both of you must be mad as all hell, Bel, try not to do anything that will
give this piece of human garbage the upper hand. I hope and pray you can Pam (and James) away from this monster, and if his mother doesn't have the stones (pardon the phrase) to protect her own child, that the courts will do what is right and necessary.
But as mad as you or Carl get, and as justified as that is, bullies work best at provoking strong reactions from their opponenents. Give him an inch, and he will take a mile and use it against you, in court, and make you both look like the aggressors. It's in the bully handbook, there must be one, because it is almost a universal strategy. God and strength be with you. I hope justice prevails.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:37 PM
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oh, bel,
I'm sorry to hear about that. Another cowardly bully among you, it sounds like. I pray that the law works in favor of protecting Pam, and that Carl won't be tempted to take the law into his own hands. You're in my thoughts and prayers on this. Bless you all.
posted by
BlackPearl1
on July 25, 2006 at 8:33 PM
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Blanche
One would think so, but first we have to PROVE abuse!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:32 PM
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bel
That is horrible..and very sad...
Good luck tomorrow! No child deserves that!!
posted by
Offy
on July 25, 2006 at 8:18 PM
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Bel, I hope Carl gets his Amicus Curiae motion approved
Just out of curioisity, why does he need to go that route, if he's Pam's dad? I would think that any signs of abuse would automatically revert custody back to him.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 8:09 PM
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Wow, that's horrible! Now I understand why people take the law into their
own hands!
posted by
Ariala
on July 25, 2006 at 8:04 PM
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