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Indeed it must be a very difficult and depressive moment seeing your years of efforts gnawed by the fire
posted by
adventurer02
on February 23, 2016 at 2:44 AM
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Blackpearl
Thanks! I hope for her kids she will make some changes and soon!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 8:06 PM
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Wow, bel,
Good for you. I think it's true what they say about what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
I'm sorry to hear about the neighbors' situation, and about the house, too. It's too bad the lady neighbor isn't as strong as you. I pray she gets some help and self-esteem soon, before the situation brings any (more) harm to the children. And I agree. Her husband sounds like a cowardly bully. Shame on him. :(
posted by
BlackPearl1
on July 25, 2006 at 8:02 PM
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LOL Maggie
As I said small men do not scare me. Besides, I pity any fool who ever tries to harm me if Carl gets his hands on him!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 7:52 PM
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Justi
It is a very sad situation.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 7:51 PM
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I can imagine the house burning...how horrible. I hope your neighbor takes advantage to get rid of her abusive husband.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on July 25, 2006 at 7:31 PM
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LOL, Bel, I have done that too many times to count and I thought afterwards
Duh, I r a college graduate. I can spell, I just can't type (fast).
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 7:22 PM
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Blanche and Passion
Thank you! Only real friends will care enough to tell you when your slip is showing!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 7:20 PM
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Blanche is write...your slip is showing!
posted by
Passionflower
on July 25, 2006 at 6:08 PM
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Bel, you have a typo in your header (that's like telling a friend her slip
is showing).
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 5:26 PM
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That's right bel, beat the stuff outa that bully!
posted by
MaggieMae
on July 25, 2006 at 4:46 PM
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I think we should kick his ass just on principle alone.
I know I'd feel better!
posted by
Passionflower
on July 25, 2006 at 2:07 PM
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bel
Sometimes women like her are so deep into the spousal abuse syndrome they have greater fear of not making it than they do of the abuser. It is a sad sad situation.
posted by
Justi
on July 25, 2006 at 12:52 PM
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Wow, Bel, nobody gets out of life unscathed, for sure.
I saw the results of my stepfather's emotional abuse in my mother and stepsister. Both of them are a mess. I, of course, am perfect (lol). Pam does have a good father image. James is going to have to figure a few things out. Of course, it's a two-way street, a woman has to let herself be mistreated in order to get into that situation, but it's so easy to have a low self-esteem pushed into the ground. It's a downward spiral.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 12:20 PM
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Offbeats
I agree!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 12:14 PM
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Blanche
The best I can do is protect my family. I look at the difference between our two kids. Pamela has spent most of her life with Carl and I. Carl treats me better than I ever imagined a man would treat a woman. Pam has very high standards about men. She detests her step-father because he is an abusive pompus ASS! James has learned to treat women like second class citizens from this man and he is getting one hell of an education in my house.
I have no doubt that Pam will never tolerate a man mistreating her. In fact I pity the men that will come along in her life because filling her daddy's shoes in the way they behave will be a huge order to fill. In James I see a future abuser.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 12:14 PM
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BEL
Men like that shouldn't be allowed to propriae!
posted by
Offy
on July 25, 2006 at 12:04 PM
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You are smart, Bel, she has to want the help she's offered
otherwise, she is a danger to you and your family. You can only toss in a life jacket, if you jump in after someone like that, they'll drag you down, too. I know that firsthand.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 11:51 AM
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Blanche
Yes. I know that story first hand. I feel for her but I don't want them around my kids. Until she realizes that she does NOT need him, she will continue to refuse the assistance that has been offered. For now, the best I can do is if they come back is look out of those kids.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:45 AM
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Oh, God, Bel, this is why I hate men like him so badly,
The psychological damage that they do is as bad if not worse than the physical. He's probably told her over and over that she'd never survive without him, he'd kill her if she left and he'd take the kids. He's probably threatened her with anything and everything,and likewise, kept her so financially dependent, she probably doesn't think she can make it on her own.
Bastards.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 11:43 AM
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Sunny
EXACTLY!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:41 AM
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Bel....
Good for you!
How sad...but I hope those neighbors find their way to another neighborhood....as long as it's not mine. LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 25, 2006 at 11:41 AM
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Blanche
I wish it would work that way. If you recall I wrote a blog about him awhile back. He choked her after the fire and then I discovered he was also abusing the kids. She stays. Everyone has tried to help her, right down to financially and she will not take it.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:34 AM
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Mademoiselle
The Township Supervisor is mad as hell at me because I threw a fit about this at the last township meeting.
This family had 6 kids and all bedrooms are upstairs. Had that happened while they were sleeping it would have been a much worse tragedy than it was.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 25, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Bel, I hear you about abusive bullies
I'm more afraid of losing my temper around one, than I am of them, because I loathe them so badly. That is sad about that old house. Although, in some way, it might be liberating for the wife, maybe she can make a new start and find the courage to leave him.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 25, 2006 at 11:31 AM
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Good for you!
Horrible about that house, however.
I never understood why so many counties' fire departments are solely staffed with volunteers. Doesn't make much sense to me, considering how important their job is.
I mean, I volunteer at the main library here (where my mother works), so I can say with some certainty that (most) volunteers are lazy as hell.
Phobiaphobia (n): Fear of being afraid.
posted by
Mademoiselle
on July 25, 2006 at 11:24 AM
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