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Shatz, I'm a little bit behind in reading this blog post, but I find it very interesting. One thing that I have noticed is that other's perceptions of me tend to be based on how they themselves would react under the same circumstances and they usually are way off base.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 3, 2006 at 1:08 PM
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I like how you put that link to those comments...
Exactly to those comments...very clever!
posted by
Passionflower
on July 24, 2006 at 7:19 PM
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Thank you charice and Passionflower,
It's hard-won knowledge, but I am so grateful for it that I feel like it is up to me to set people f r e e of themselves whenever I can. Maybe it's my true calling in life.....Much love to you both. Yes, make posters that say those two phrases, plus two more that praise some part of me that I love, or can't love but want to.
Here's a link to what Passion and I are talking about...
posted by
Schatz
on July 24, 2006 at 7:05 PM
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I just dropped by to tell you that I enjoyed that comment you left me...
And that I'd like to see more ... then I come over here and find that you've written a whole post...how funny! Anyway, we should write some posters for the walls so we don't forget.
You know alot about life.
posted by
Passionflower
on July 24, 2006 at 5:27 PM
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This post is well documented
My life started changing when I chose to think differently on a daily basis. I was in a state of depression b/c a bunch of people hurted me so bad I didn't think worthy of myself. How I came out of depression, I had to stop talking about the people that hurt me and stop thinking about them too. Daily, still hurtful thoughts come, but I tell myself I Don't Care Anymore or I Choose Not To Think About This. It works for me. I realize my bondage come from talking about what my enemies had done to me, giving them glory, instead of letting it go by moving on with my life and everytime something went wrong I immediately though my enemies are preventing from succeeding. That was poor thinking on my part. Now, I rarely think of those people, I've come a long way but I still have far to go. I promised myself that I will try to think differently but becareful who I choose who I call a Friend. Your document is well written.-my opinion-angelle
posted by
charice
on July 24, 2006 at 3:08 PM
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Good for you. It's good to be free.
posted by
Schatz
on July 24, 2006 at 3:04 PM
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Mother was a perfectionist
because she was afraid she'd never be good enough. Her house had to be spotless, we had to sit down to supper exactly on time, mind our manners and get perfect grades so we would be a good reflection on her. There was lots of pressure, and since nothing really is ever perfect, she was often disappointed. I can't tell you how many years I emulated her and my perfectionism disturbed folks around me. These days I expect things to be good, not perfect, and they are. :)
posted by
Pat_B
on July 24, 2006 at 2:54 PM
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I'm confused. I didn't use the word perfect. I talked about change and
spiritual connection and light. I don't ever say I'm perfect, unless I'm saying, 'I'm perfect for John.' Because I am.
As far as (being unhealthy by) thinking one is perfect, yes, I agree, because it's a delusion. Exactly the kind I think we'd all be better off shining some light on. NO ONE is perfect.
I also said, "Life is full of people who'd like to suck the life right out of others by the sheer force of their needs."
This covers the category of people who fish for complements by saying things like, 'I usually look like shit, but I think this dress looks okay on me....', thus prompting you to say, 'No, you don't look bad. You're beautiful.'
There are all kinds in life. (With the exception of perfect kinds.
) The point of the post is you can choose the kind you want to be, and be it.
posted by
Schatz
on July 24, 2006 at 1:52 PM
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Well said ...
Through therapy, however, I'm come to realize that perceiving oneself as "pretty much perfect in every way" is not necessarily healthy. Or, the best way to maintain successful longterm relationships.
Man lives in the sunlit world
of what he believes to be reality.
But, there is, unseen by most, an underworld,
a place that is just as real,
but not as brightly lit...
posted by
Mademoiselle
on July 24, 2006 at 12:43 PM
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Schatz
Your post is precisely what so many of us need to be reminded of... Me especially, several times, daily, upside the noggin' LoL! Seriously though, like the native indians are quoted as saying...'what the people believe is true'...
posted by
mysteria
on July 24, 2006 at 12:34 PM
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Schatz
Yes, perception is everything. It will make or break us. It's all in the view.
If we perceive things as being difficult, they will be. If we percieve that we are happy, despite outside factors, we are.
Good post!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on July 24, 2006 at 12:30 PM
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