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taffy000
with places costing so much a lot of divorcing couples are living this way
posted by
Lanetay
on July 23, 2006 at 11:50 PM
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Interesting Post
I think there are lots of factors to consider and not simply whether or not the couple is affectionate. This couple you're describing sounds like a couple I know. This woman confessed to me that her marriage was exactly as you described. I thought how sad for her personally not being fulfilled emotionally. From what I see of her children I don't feel they've "suffered" at having witnessed a loveless couple. One thing I can say about this woman is she's been loyal to her husband. Now she fears he's extremely sick yet she still won't leave. Would things be better if she just packed up? I don't know.
One always has to consider finances. If this woman truly depends on her husband's income then it is not so easy for her to pack up because her marriage isn't all she feels it should be. I think there's a dirty little secret about marriages and relationships. None are perfect or 100% fulfilling all of the time. Modeling loyalty to your children is never a bad thing. Of course I agree with you to model an unhealthy relationship isn't good. There's so much to think about here. Thanks for bringing it up.
posted by
Taffy000
on July 23, 2006 at 3:50 PM
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ceemarie53
sorry about all the typos I am using a lap top and I am not use to it, I know no excuses
posted by
Lanetay
on July 20, 2006 at 9:21 PM
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ceemarie53
I am not maried bu this is somethihng that happened to myh lover, but I really dont know what they did with the baby, if they aborted or she lost it or she is still pregnant. To me it doesnt matter I care too much for him
posted by
Lanetay
on July 20, 2006 at 9:20 PM
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lilane-
Your post brings many thoughts to the forefront. I had a similar experience last year but I'm past child-bearing years. Just middle-aged and broke. But it was some of the greatest sex my husband and I had experienced for a long time. I think it felt like we were always doing it just one more time and each time was quite emotional, like it was always the last time we'd ever be together. My lover and his wife went back together after fives of drought. They had a whole new relationship (after a pretty sexless marriage of 25 years). I should have known that 1), if he'd stayed with her 25 years, and 2), never having sex except to conceive two kids (by the chart) or on their anniversary, and 3), she made him pull out early because she refused to use any kind of birth control and the condoms would have gone to waste from age, that he loved her regardless of not having sex with him. It took his taking a lover for her to appreciate what she'd had all along. So if you are serious about getting a divorce, you should just make a clean break and move in together (if you're divorcing to be with another, that is.)
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on July 19, 2006 at 9:30 PM
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afzal50
Kids are smarter than we give them credit for
posted by
Lanetay
on July 19, 2006 at 7:40 PM
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Good post . Lilane , I knew you are a serious and thoughtful lady.
posted by
afzal50
on July 19, 2006 at 7:21 PM
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