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Rcky
Thank you very much. I am going to purchase a tool sharpening business, and also a stump grinder. Both transactions have occurred in a very smooth and organized way, so they both feel right.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 19, 2006 at 11:55 AM
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Good Morning Avant.......
I think that is a wonderful idea and it appears that the universe is working in that direction for you. It sounds like you will have your hands full but you'll love every minute of it. What kind of business are you planning on running? If it feels right and things fall into place...that is exactly when you should be doing. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on July 18, 2006 at 5:09 AM
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I don't know about calmly, AG, but I am always observing
posted by
Blanche.
on July 18, 2006 at 2:19 AM
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Blanche
Being in the middle of it everyday, I appreciate someone who can look on calmly and observe.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 18, 2006 at 1:57 AM
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No criticism implied or intended, Avant-Garde, i can only imagine that
you are a wonderful dad, very caring and attentive to your sons' needs. As for objectivity, well, I do try.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 4:17 PM
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Cringe
Thanks. Yes, it's pretty close to that here, too. Where we are moving, it's a little higher than normal, because it's near the ocean.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 4:11 PM
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Blanche
Advice is best given from an objective point of view. If you were criticizing, well... that's another matter altogether.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 4:10 PM
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Just so I know for when I move Stateside what's the going rate?
It's the equivalent of about $150 for the first child here, and maybe and additional $75 after that.
posted by
Cringe
on July 17, 2006 at 3:23 PM
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Well done Avant.
Kids grow up so fast. I became a mother at 20, now I'm 31, and Leone is going to be 11 soon, I don't know where the time is gone and I feel like I'm just catching up with the fact that she was 10, and now another birthday is coming.
We spend a lot of time worrying about what we can offer them, and bettering what we had ourselves (well - at least me anyhow), the best gift is your time.
posted by
Cringe
on July 17, 2006 at 3:21 PM
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A balance i'm sure you have a good handle on, Avant Garde,
This is rich, me giving childrearing advice!
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 3:17 PM
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Isa
I read once where it is said that a person who makes a living doing what he loves insists on doing so.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 3:16 PM
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Mason
Thanks a bunch.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 3:15 PM
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Passionflower
Thank you. Your words are heartening.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 3:15 PM
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Blanche
Yes, there must be a balance. It involves giving of oneself, but not too much. You must let them try things, make mistakes, and learn for themselves.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 3:15 PM
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Factor
Okay. It'll be just between us housekeepers.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 3:14 PM
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avant garde...
what i'd like most...would be to work from home...making my articles and getting paid for them...it would just be wonderful!
posted by
Marshallengraved
on July 17, 2006 at 2:36 PM
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..go for it! ...good luck!
posted by
MasonGarrett
on July 17, 2006 at 2:33 PM
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Good for you...it always takes sacrifice if we're to have
Anything worthwhile in life.
posted by
Passionflower
on July 17, 2006 at 2:21 PM
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Well, taking care of your own seems like a natural thing to do, AG
I had a friend in college, a very well-educated woman with a Masters in Operational Psychology, had a very good job working for a hospital in Personnel, and when her son was born, she's stayed home to raise him. She said, "Would I rather be dependent on a corporation, who is indifferent to my wellbeing and capicious in their hiring and firing, or on a husband who loves me?"
I think she went a little far with the home schooling, but that's a whole different issue, her son may have trouble cutting the ties, and actually getting out into the world.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 1:26 PM
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hmmm Yes, I do gripe a lot about the mental and physical effort
required to take care of my kids. BUT I would not have it any other way.
Shhh don't let that out...
posted by
FactorFiction
on July 17, 2006 at 1:22 PM
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Blanche
I'm definitely getting the nudge to do this. I'm tired of spending all my energy taking care of many people who do not care about themselves, and use the system to their advantage. Why not invest in something much more valuable, and with much longer lasting results?
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 1:17 PM
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Avant-Garde, I don't think God necessarily speaks in words, if the
circumstances seem to be leading you in a particular direction, such as staying at home because the EMS jobs are not opening up right now, then maybe that's your clue. As for the rest, the forbearance, well, take it as it comes, one minute at a time, as so many of us do. You'll survive.
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 1:14 PM
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Justi
Thank you. I think your opinion matters.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 1:13 PM
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Dave
My ability I don't question; rather, it's my forebearance.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 1:12 PM
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Avant Gard
You make decisions together and do what you have to to create family unit you want to have. It is totally unimportant whether it is what someone else would do. You will do well I am sure. Be blessed.
posted by
Justi
on July 17, 2006 at 1:12 PM
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Blanche
I'm sure glad we're having this conversation. I've been praying for God to show me what to do. I had an EMS system call me a little while ago. I started feeling depressed, and talked it over with my wife. I'm sticking to this, I think.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 1:12 PM
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And you will rise to it, A-G, without a doubt.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on July 17, 2006 at 1:08 PM
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Too true, Avant-Garde, I don't have kids, but even I can see that parents
who neglect their kids and drop them off, expecting strangers and play stations to raise them, won't have a hope of having future relationships that are worth a damn. As a friend of mine said in college, about her own estranged dad, who tried to make up to her years after leaving her mother and her and her family, "You lay it down in childhood and reap what you sow."
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 1:01 PM
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Runs at dawn
Hello to you.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 12:49 PM
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SYMPHONY
Thank you. I want to do this, but I'm scared at the same time.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 12:48 PM
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Blanche
You're right. Now, these boys think I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread. I think that handled the right way, they will even have respect for me when they are teenagers. I hope so. Thanks for the encouraging words.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 12:48 PM
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Shamsuddin Jim
Thanks. That's encouraging.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 12:46 PM
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Moon
Thank you. I can feel it working its way here now.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 12:46 PM
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Hey Mr. MOM
posted by
Runs_at_dawn
on July 17, 2006 at 12:44 PM
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Sorry about that.....my computer froze - I did not know if my comment
posted or not...
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 17, 2006 at 11:53 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing.....You are Great!
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 17, 2006 at 11:52 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing.....You are Great!
I read this post and your previous post....
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 17, 2006 at 11:47 AM
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Avant-Garde, that sounds like a wonderful plan for you and the boys!
Especially now when they're little enough that they really need and want you in their lives before they get so independent as teenagers. This is a unique moment in all your lives, and the bond between all of you, I'm sure, can only deepen if you spend this time with them now.
Look at it this way, no one ever looked back at their life and said, "I wish I'd spent more time at work".
posted by
Blanche.
on July 17, 2006 at 10:53 AM
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I have been there and done that
It was a wonderful experience .... I highly recommend it
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on July 17, 2006 at 10:32 AM
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Avant, may the All Pervasive Reality shower blessings on you and your family. Moon_Spirit 
posted by
syzygy
on July 17, 2006 at 10:21 AM
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Rumored
Thank you. That's very kind of you to say.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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Azur
Yes, we have also enlisted a part-time daycare to handle the overflow. Sam is starting kindergarten and so I'll be watching Luke and Noah. Thanks for the information. It is heartening.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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sannhet
I'm hoping that this will lead to places I've never been, and I think it will.
Yes, it did work. There was a couple weeks' delay, but someone just happened to stop by and offered cash, and didn't need an inspection. The real estate agent said it was 'miraculous' and she had never seen anything like it before.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 10:17 AM
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avant- , something tells me you'll have no problem...not to say it...
wont be a challenge, but you'll do it..
..
posted by
Rumor
on July 17, 2006 at 9:55 AM
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We have lived in that way with
one or both of us at home however to get any work done I've always recruited some part-time daycare because childcare and running a business professionally (writing, interviewing mainly in my case) are two jobs. It is impossible to give full attention to children and to work effectively or to work effectively when you have the multifarious and pressing needs of children to cater to.
I have never used a big daycare place but have always found daycare in homes which was successful. My son is spending the next couple of days with a friend he made at daycare 10 or so years ago when he was a toddler. My daughter will have all of her current daycare friends at her birthday this weekend.
posted by
Azur
on July 17, 2006 at 7:32 AM
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Avant -
As I am sure you know, the bigger the challenge, the bigger the reward at the end! Good luck with this. I know it will work out. BTW, did St. Joe work for you in selling your house?
posted by
sannhet
on July 17, 2006 at 7:29 AM
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Vickie
Thanks. I'm an order person, so I'm sure I'll be busy all day long.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 6:45 AM
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Ariala
It will be a challenge, but I'm up for it. Thanks.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 6:45 AM
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Bel
That's my reasoning, too. Daycare workers are not the parents, and don't care nearly as much.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 17, 2006 at 6:44 AM
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It Wouldn't Always be easy...
But wonderful for you, your kids and your wife too!
posted by
VickieJean
on July 17, 2006 at 6:33 AM
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sounds like a wonderful alternative and perfect for you!
posted by
Ariala
on July 17, 2006 at 6:05 AM
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Avant
Daycare is so expensive and honestly your children will be so much better off being raised by a parent versus a daycare worker.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 17, 2006 at 5:47 AM
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