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Corbin
I'm sorry to say that you are right.  Right now he is probably safer over there than here given Carl wants to wring his scrawny little neck.

posted by bel_1965 on July 9, 2006 at 4:49 AM | link to this | reply

Bel....
Well, at least tha's a good thing......

posted by Corbin_Dallas on July 9, 2006 at 4:46 AM | link to this | reply

Corbin
The tour is scheduled for 18 months but that is how most orders read from Michigan.  Carl's unit was scheduled for 18 months and was quickly reduced to 12 months.  So I am guessing about another year.  The baby will be here before he gets back and then I hope he simply leaves them both alone.

posted by bel_1965 on July 9, 2006 at 4:43 AM | link to this | reply

How much longer will he be
over in Iraq?   

posted by Corbin_Dallas on July 9, 2006 at 4:41 AM | link to this | reply

Justi
Will do!  Thanks!

posted by bel_1965 on July 9, 2006 at 4:38 AM | link to this | reply

Azur
She tried with all that she had.  Now I just want to see her get through this pregnancy with as little craziness from him as possible.

posted by bel_1965 on July 9, 2006 at 4:38 AM | link to this | reply

Avant
That is the way I see it as well.

posted by bel_1965 on July 9, 2006 at 4:37 AM | link to this | reply

bel
It is a hard thing to consider giving up on. But, I think in some cases everyone is better off apart. She won't be healthy around him, and now she has a child to tend to.

posted by avant-garde on July 9, 2006 at 2:43 AM | link to this | reply

No one can blame her for having the courage to try to make it work
but it is tough.  A  first pregnancy is scary enough without all of this

posted by Azur on July 9, 2006 at 1:58 AM | link to this | reply

Bel
I am so sorry. I will be praying for her. e mail me and let me know her name if that is okay and I will put her on some prayer lists. Terrible situation.

posted by Justi on July 8, 2006 at 11:07 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche
you may be right about that rite of passage.

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 9:36 PM | link to this | reply

Passion
Of course she has family...just because he is lowlife doesn't negate that she is an Army wife.  We take care of our own!

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 9:35 PM | link to this | reply

BlackPearl
Thank you so much!

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 9:34 PM | link to this | reply

Rumored

Given he hasn't bothered to be in touch with his wife...which means he doesn't know she is pregnant it is likely that he is either in Kuwait or Iraq by now.  This man gives my troops a bad name which only further pisses me off. 

As for weird:  I like your kind of weird!

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 9:33 PM | link to this | reply

where is this guy who has the nerve to call himself a man???

if he's within driving distance, I'd like to have a few words with him.....grrr!

am I weird being married to my wife for 38 years? No!

posted by Rumor on July 8, 2006 at 8:39 PM | link to this | reply

bel,
I will say a prayer for your friend and her situation.  I'm sure it's tough, and that she has many mixed feelings.  God bless her through it all.

posted by BlackPearl1 on July 8, 2006 at 8:34 PM | link to this | reply

Poor girl!
God bless her...I hope she has family to help out.

posted by Passionflower on July 8, 2006 at 7:42 PM | link to this | reply

Loving but misunderstood, sensitive guy? Seen it, fell for it, bought the
meorial tshirt.  Sometimes I think it's almost a rite of passage.  They should give Academy Awards for the biggest Scum of the Year. .

posted by Blanche. on July 8, 2006 at 6:07 PM | link to this | reply

Timmy
Scum says it quite well.  She is young and has not exactly had an ideal life.  He comes across as the loving but misunderstood man.  Personally, Carl wants to misunderstand his a$$ with the steel toe end of his boot.

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 5:52 PM | link to this | reply

bel
She sat back and gave him support while he cheated??? SCUM

posted by TIMMYTALES on July 8, 2006 at 5:50 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche
The loser almost had ME convinced and I knew better.  He sat in front of me with those big watery green eyes and a quivering lip.  I almost wanted to hug him and promise him it would be OK.  Something in my gut told me better, but even someone who has been around was darn near sucked in. 

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 5:46 PM | link to this | reply

Bel, you're an angel to this girl,
Yes, I've met the kind of predator who preys on women like that.  Some are more suave and harder to spot than others. I don't know how about this guy, but some come on really charming, especially when they promise to change.  It's all b.s.

posted by Blanche. on July 8, 2006 at 5:43 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche

She has been through her own kind of hell before she met him.  In an odd way he was kind of what I call the "natural course of things".   He saw a vulnerable woman who wanted some to love her and he took FULL advantage.

So for the moment I have tried to put a lighter note on the whole and told everyone I am the daddy and that other guys was just our beard.  It cracked her up so I guess it was good thing.  Both she and that baby will have all the love they can handle and Uncle Carl is already hoping for a boy so he can teach him bad habits.

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 5:30 PM | link to this | reply

Bel, that's a tough situation for her

I know how manipulative people can really play with someone's mind, so I don't blame her at all for staying and wanting to make it work. I think we women especially are prone to wanting to try to fix what can't be fixed.  I will surely keep her in my thoughts and prayers, with a baby on the way, she's going to need love and support.  I hope she finds her own faith to strengthen and comforrt her through all this.

As for him, well, least said the best probably there. There are all kinds of messed up people in the world.

posted by Blanche. on July 8, 2006 at 5:17 PM | link to this | reply

Maggie
That is a nicer word than I used for him.

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 4:27 PM | link to this | reply

Homegirl
I don't disagree but knowing her history is it par for the course.

posted by bel_1965 on July 8, 2006 at 4:26 PM | link to this | reply

her acceptance of his shit
is the result of having a father who is at least verbally and emotionally abusive....  she doesn't know any better

posted by homegirl on July 8, 2006 at 4:25 PM | link to this | reply

That's really tragic for her. Some men (and women) can be so rotten,

can't they?  She ought to take him for everything she can, when she has the opportunity.  He's a rat!

I see, he's in Iraq serving in the military, but he's still a rat!

posted by MaggieMae on July 8, 2006 at 4:14 PM | link to this | reply