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- Go to MAYBE I SHOULD JUST GO ON BENEFITS AS THEY GET MORE PRIORITIES!!!!!!!!!!!!
ahhhh thanks so much for your lovely comment.....Justi
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_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:52 AM
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Whacky
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:51 AM
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Thanks strat ...
all the online courses I have searched are far to expensive...maybe I am missing something so I will search again....
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:51 AM
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Blanche01 Thanks so much....
I am not going to give up, I am going to look into other ways on how I can do it....I am going to search the internet later - in hope that there is an answer - if not then I will think of other ways....I refuse to give up!
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:50 AM
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LOL......Passionflower ...I thought in order to say these positive things
they are meant to be true?
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:48 AM
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Thanks so much MaggieMae ...
I am financially ok, so I don't need to go on benifits - I just cant afford the great things in life, like paying to study at home, or expensive clothes each week and so on....but my kids don't want for anything. so I guess I will juat have to wait
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_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:47 AM
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Thanks Azur
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:45 AM
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Marshallengraved
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:44 AM
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Wiley.Coyote Thank you for your comment...
But the only thing he contributes to - is messing their little heads up...
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_Symphony_
on June 20, 2006 at 2:44 AM
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Symphony, p.s.
Listen to strat too. Check out all the online helps and courses, avenues of aid whatever.
DON'T GIVE UP YOU ARE THE WINNER NOT THE OTHER WAY 'ROUND.
posted by
Justi
on June 20, 2006 at 12:11 AM
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Symphony
I believe you might ask around. I am going to do some checking into some people who may be able to help there. email me so I can go into it more with you. You are entitled to a life. The life you are seeking is only better for them, there will be a way. Don't get bumbed out on yourself. I am your other mum you know and I am telling you there is a solution to this problem. We will find it. Be blessed little one.
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Justi
on June 20, 2006 at 12:10 AM
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posted by
Whacky
on June 19, 2006 at 10:57 PM
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There ought to be online coursework you could do
at least until the kids are a little older and you can get away more.
Don't worry. It's hard to believe, but there is time for all this.
posted by
strat
on June 19, 2006 at 8:16 PM
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Symphony,
I hope you get this sorted out. If it's anything like it here in the States then you 100% right that those who are "in the system" probably get the first slots, they have case managers and social workers to put their names in for them, social workers who know the system and how to work it. Maybe you need to start making some phone calls to some agencies to see if some agency can help you out. Otherwise, I hope the suggestion below that somebody had about trading day care with another mom in school might work out for you. Don't give up!
posted by
Blanche.
on June 19, 2006 at 7:08 PM
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Ah yes, but it isn't true!
You're young and beautiful and rich and famous!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!
YOU are ONE HOT MAMA!!!!!! Now I expect you to say that to yourself OUT LOUD every time you're feeling blue!!! Okay????
posted by
Passionflower
on June 19, 2006 at 6:48 PM
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Symphony, I feel for you dear and you will find a solution.....
My daughter is in a somewhat same situation. She's a single mother raising two children, they are 11 and 9. She sometimes feels the same as you do today, but it does pass and you realize that you had your children and while they are with you, you owe it to them to do what you have to do to make things work, that includes making sacrifices.
Of course, you need your time too, and you have to work that out. Symphony, I know you're a very bright girl and can figure it out. Maybe the answer is to go on benefits. There's nothing wrong with that until you can get your education and find the job you want. By then, your little boy will be in school all day. Then, you'll have the world by the tail. It's only for a short while now, maybe a year, huh? That will pass in no time.
Good luck, Sweetie, and take a deep breath. You'll feel better and the blood pressure will go down. haha
posted by
MaggieMae
on June 19, 2006 at 6:15 PM
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Symphony
If you are entitled to benefits there is no shame in that. Don't give up. try to find another solution to the child care.
posted by
Azur
on June 19, 2006 at 1:15 PM
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Symphony...
I replied to your mail
Thank you 
posted by
Marshallengraved
on June 19, 2006 at 12:07 PM
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SYMPHONY
Why can't he take the children for 3 months of the year then luv, or something like that? I had my 5 most of the time, so my ex could make her way after years of raising them
posted by
WileyJohn
on June 19, 2006 at 12:05 PM
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ahhhh thank you so much Passionflower .....
I already feel old, tired and unappreciated!
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 11:09 AM
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Thanks for sharing, and relating...Marshallengraved
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 11:07 AM
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FactorFiction ....I am so glad you can relate - as well as sorry too...
isn't it frustrating?!!!
I don't really know what else to say...but if you want to carry on ranting with me then please do...$"£$%"£%
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 11:06 AM
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Thanks A-and-B
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_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 11:04 AM
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That is a grand idea, bel_1965 ....
I just wish I knew somebody with the same age child as me (and needs this as much as I do) and who would be willing to do that - as my friend's children either already go to school or nursey, or their family looks after them whilst they work....blah blah...
but thank you so much anyway...
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 11:03 AM
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I treasure all the time - MandaLee
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 19, 2006 at 10:54 AM
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Every mother will understand your frustration...
It's like you're expected to put your life on hold till the kids are grown. You don't matter - only them. But it's not true. You try to find some time for yourself each week. Your needs are important.
You deserve a relaxing massage or a trip to get your nails done. Try to find some way to relax and have fun on a regular basis. Too much time running after kids will make you feel old and tired and unappreciated.
We love you here and if I lived closer, I'd come around and pick up the children so you could have a day to yourself.
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Passionflower
on June 19, 2006 at 10:54 AM
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Symphony...
I have sacrificed a lot for my kids when they were little...but i start thinking more about myself...got a life to live too...i really understand where you're coming from...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on June 19, 2006 at 10:41 AM
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Oh, yeah, I understand...
You love them so much, but you are very restricted in what you can do... In September, my younger son starts kindergarten, but I am withholding my excitement since kindergarten is only a couple of hours a day. That won't allow for too much time for self-improvement...
I'll spend the whole time deciding which to do first...exercise...shower...haircut...cook real food... oops, they're home! Who has time to figure out a career move?
posted by
FactorFiction
on June 19, 2006 at 6:22 AM
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Hope you can find a solution or wait it out.
(A)
posted by
A-and-B
on June 19, 2006 at 5:44 AM
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Symphony
Is there another mother who might like a break as well? Maybe the two of you can do some kind of trade, you take the children one day, she takes them the other. Seriously, I would ask around you might be surprised who is willing to work with you on this.
I know here in the US there are many programs to help single mothers go back to school, they even provide help with childcare. I don't know what they UK might have, but it never hurts to go back to the school and ask them if they have any kind of assisstance of the sort.
Best of luck to you dear!
posted by
bel_1965
on June 19, 2006 at 5:37 AM
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SYMPHONY,
Treasure this time, it goes by fast!
posted by
Amanda__
on June 19, 2006 at 5:35 AM
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