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vicki-
I kind of hit this when I'm able to cope with it. Or when it helps me TO cope with it. I do want to tell some of how romantic the whole thing was. We were like two little love birds; a fairy tale couple if ever there was one. My husband would roll his eyes, I'm sure.
I was watching a chic-flic, When Black Women Get Mad, or some such title, one of the characters is soooooo romantic and my daughter is saying no one is that romantic and Mike was still a secret and her friend knew there are some out there that ARE that romantic, and I sat there with a Mona Lisa smile, because Mike was a romantic and a half. We were saying to my daughter, "Oh yes there arrrrrree.........."
Good, then, I don't have to apologize to his wife because he has already done that over and over I'm sure. It was very awkward. Thanks for saying it's the pain of never knowing what might have been. How true that statement is.
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on May 5, 2006 at 7:37 AM
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Excellent piece Cee ...
I think this is a great way to deal with what you are going through. I have to disagree with his wife being your first choice to make amends to -- that would be her husband's place. With the exception of losing a spouse or lover through death, there is nothing worse than the nagging pain of not knowing what might have been. Fortunately it does dull as time goes by. I am looking forward to your follow-up blogs on this. xoxox vp
posted by
VictoriaP
on May 4, 2006 at 11:07 PM
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love
There are too many of us ladies from love. Isn't it suppose to feel good? The feelings are definitely addicting
posted by
Lanetay
on May 4, 2006 at 7:55 PM
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Cee ~
Diggin the feedback on this one
HELLO Qween are ya takin note!
posted by
ALWAYSALOVER
on May 4, 2006 at 7:30 PM
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Hi Frankly-
Thanks for your ramble! I love your blog and your writing; I've got more to add to this blog. I concede you are on to the part of me that misses the being wanted and being desired, just like that bottle of wine. Mike and I always had a good sex thing and the fact that his marriage wasn't sexual for 5 years just made our meeting that much more. He had posed the question about whether or not he was in it just for the sex or was there more. Oh yes, there was more and it was mutual filling of big holes in our marriages. I've got more for ya' tomorrow. And any man who will say they were glad to see some feminists were still left is a pretty neat guy, IMO. (One of your replies to someone else.) So tune in for the next installment of my angsty weekend blog-not. Thanks again!
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on May 4, 2006 at 2:02 PM
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it aint love babe...
...at least I don;t think so....the addiction, the wanting ...is not what you miss the feeling of being wanted? of being desired, even if it was just sexual for him? (I've been on this road before...:) Is it not more like the extra marital man/woman affair thing all over again, where the feelings and the definition of love is very different between the sexes?
Men (and I am not a chauvinist...actually consider myself a very modern man...and not a metro neutero, either) associate sex with love...Do you love me? Sure do baby. I do. Let's go to bed. (I paraphrase) This is not love to a woman, but it is an integral part of the love connection that a man feels for a woman. Then, there's the simply sex thing for men too...very very few women could have sex for the sake of sex alone...men can, empty and unrewarding as it may be, they still do it every day...sorry to ramble
posted by
FranklyMydear1
on May 4, 2006 at 1:37 PM
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