Go to MY PERCEPTIVE REFLECTION!!
- Add a comment
- Go to I WISH IT WAS YOU THAT WAS DEAD NOT MY SON!!!!!! - NO MORE CANNABIS!!!!
Everything will work out. Praying for you. Welcome back.
posted by
Amanda__
on May 4, 2006 at 3:31 PM
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SYMPHONY
I read this yesterday and could not comment because my heart was sad. I can't imagine a mother saying such a thing no matter how much she misses the one that has gone. I saw that movie once with Mary Tyler Moore where she said that to the younger son after the older one had died. It is such a hurtful thing to say, that in its own way it causes death, death of feelings, relationships. It seems that you are able to look at it objectively, yet I'm sure that there will be times when the hurt will show its face and you will feel it repeatedly. I'm sure that there will be times that she will regret ever having said such a thing.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 27, 2006 at 5:41 AM
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Thank you very much for all your comments.....very much appreciated!!
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 27, 2006 at 5:01 AM
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Hi, Symphony,
You sound like a very strong, and brave woman with a very big heart. Bless you, that you're always so sweet and pleasant in your posts. I hope things will be better for you soon. You're in my thoughts and prayers, also. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on April 26, 2006 at 6:39 PM
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Hi Symphony, sounds like you're doing very well among all this
commotion. Congrats on kickin' the green dragon too.
posted by
Jomei
on April 26, 2006 at 4:12 PM
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SYMPHONY
I hope you are doing well. Watching the baby, so I must sign off now.
posted by
avant-garde
on April 26, 2006 at 3:16 PM
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Hi SYMPHONY! ..let's hang in there... come May 5 I'm clean for
a year... it can be done... and your life and your head just gets clearer and clearer day by day.... I can relate to everything in your post... let's hang in there, pal....
posted by
MasonGarrett
on April 26, 2006 at 1:39 PM
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Where's the blogger again?
posted by
A-and-B
on April 26, 2006 at 1:28 PM
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I could not even begin to know where to start, Just know 'Symphony'
that you are in my thoughts and 'prayers', for whatever that's worth.
Stay strong
HFATP, WWP
posted by
WWPiMM
on April 26, 2006 at 9:49 AM
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Symphony...
happy to see you back
yea that shit with Proof is real sad and it affects a lot of ppl who are very much into hip hop...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on April 26, 2006 at 6:34 AM
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crazy ex
You are so very strong, dear. I thought my ex-bf was bad because he won't call or show. Good job of kicking weed. Tobacco isn't as a bad but keep your kids away from the second hand smoke.
posted by
missjohn316
on April 25, 2006 at 11:33 PM
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Isn't your head a lot clearer now?
posted by
JasonScyte
on April 25, 2006 at 7:33 PM
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symph,
I am very happy to hear you say that. I have known so many people who have let weed take the place of doing something with their problems that it really refreshes me to see that you have decided to take charge. You still have more than enough to take care of, but it's always easier to fix things when you aren't working in a cloud of smoke. Good luck with everything, leaky roof, cranky mum, and all. And do whatever you can to get the ex out of your life. I know that isn't easy, but many tiny pushes move even the biggest problems.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on April 25, 2006 at 6:08 PM
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Thanks Jack_Flash
everything you say is right...I have been smoking it a long time now...three weeks off from it - already I see the improvement!!!!!
No more will it get the better of me...not ever!
so thank you....
I don't need to go into it...as it is no longer a part of my life!!
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 5:41 PM
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symphony,
With all of the things that are going on with you, weed isn't too hard to understand. If you stay away from it, you will find that everything turns much better. It's usually an escape thing, but I always thought it only made things worse. It increases anxiety and accentuates depression. Not only that, it keeps you from thinking clearly. You sure don't need that when you have other problems to solve.
Addiction to that crap is nearly 100% psychological. There is really no significant physical addiction, so just dump the stuff. The health problems that smoking weed causes are much worse than cigarettes. The way people suck pot smoke straight down has got to be ten times worse than smoking tobacco. Stay away from it. I promise you will see improvements in your life from that alone.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on April 25, 2006 at 5:37 PM
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Azur .....thank you!!!
you always have that way about you that always make me think properly...or should I say more clearly...
it is 12.45am......I am wide awake....but it feels so nice to get out how I feel.
I can never tell you how I really feel...but to write it - comes easy...
so thank you...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 4:44 PM
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I am so glad to hear that - Blanche01...that really made me smile.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 4:41 PM
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Symphony
Well done you for weaning yourself from the weed. As for your mother, yes that was an awful thing to say and I guess she must be in a very bad place to say such a thing. I suppose I would say that you have to put it in context of your entire relationship with her. In other words, although it was an incredibly cruel thing to say and you can't overlook it, don't let that one thing she said define your whole relationship. She should know how that made you feel. But then move on.
Stay on the case about the repairs. A polite phone call every day - eventually they will get sick of hearing from you.
posted by
Azur
on April 25, 2006 at 4:37 PM
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Symph,
I have a positive feeling (underneath all of my anxiety worrying at my mind like a dog with a bone) that all will turn out well. I'm so very lucky (or blessed, depending on how you look at it), to have a very supportive boyfriend. Don't let it all wear you down. Take care of yourself.
posted by
Blanche.
on April 25, 2006 at 4:24 PM
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I am sorry for your crap too....Blanche01.
Thank you for your comment and everything......take care and all the best...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 4:14 PM
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OMG, Symphony!
What a load of crap you've had to deal with! Mothers!!!! That was an unbeleivably horrible thing to say and no, you cannot "take it back" (especially over text mail!) and expect everything to be all right! Awful.
Keep your chin up. I hope you get your housing situation sorted out. I'm pulling my hair out dealing with what sounds like the American counterpart of your agency. Great. They act like it's their money. .
posted by
Blanche.
on April 25, 2006 at 3:58 PM
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I hope I have answered all.....if not make a point of telling me please...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:44 PM
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ok Azur ...that is fine.....love ya....take care.
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:44 PM
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Thank you so much brisbane_artist
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:43 PM
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Thanks so much SilverMoon7...
I have not always dealt with things like this...but I guess you learn too when things go this way as they have for me often.....but honestly I am fine...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:42 PM
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Thank you ever so much littlemspickles
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:41 PM
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Thank you ever so much MaggieMae for your comment
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:40 PM
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Thank you ever so much MedusaNextDoor
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:40 PM
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Symphony
I have read but I want to make a good response and will be back
posted by
Azur
on April 25, 2006 at 3:39 PM
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Thank you ever so much....lovelyladymonk
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:37 PM
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Thank you so much Lensman
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 3:36 PM
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I will read all ofthis more slowly
and then come back to comment - it looks like it needs a serious listening heart!
take care, (You are strong)
Jo
posted by
brisbane_artist
on April 25, 2006 at 3:07 PM
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I hope you have an idea
of just how strong you are. Good for you, Symphony!
posted by
SilverMoon7
on April 25, 2006 at 1:51 PM
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hi symphony - wow is about all I can say...
well done you for being able to cope with all that is happening and doing something about it all. Hope the house thing is sorted out soon. Good for you getting off the weed and getting back in contact with your sis. Re: Your mum, it'll be hard and as you said you'll probably never get the relationship back to where it was, but hopefully you'll reach a middle ground with her somewhere.
posted by
littlemspickles
on April 25, 2006 at 12:31 PM
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Dear Symphony
It sounds like you've had a rough row to hoe, Sweetie, but are determined to get your life in order and for the better. I'm sorry your mom has been so hard on you and has hurt you so. I think the problem lies with Mom and not you. I'm proud of you for giving up the drug and you can kick the cigarettes too. You only have to want to.
Sorry you've been hurt. Hang in there and things will get better. Kiss the babies. 
posted by
MaggieMae
on April 25, 2006 at 12:29 PM
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Hi Symphony....Wow, what a time you've had....
First, I think it is good that you stopped smoking weed. I think you are setting a fine example for your children....I hope the roof is fixed by your little boy's room...As far as your mom, I felt badly reading this, but even parents can say hurtful, rotten things to the people they love when they feel cornered or threatened or what have you. Take some time away from her...but don't forget, you can always re-build your relationship. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it can get better with your mom.....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on April 25, 2006 at 11:59 AM
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Hello Love...
Goodness, what a time you've had!! I hope someone comes by to fix that roof soon. As for your mum...What a horrible, wicked, cruel thing to say!! I think she has issues of her own that need working out before she points out yours to you. Just my opinion, mind you...
Good for you for kicking that filthy habit!! I'm so proud of you!!...Stay strong and be proud of yourself for all you've accomplished...Email me...God bless you...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on April 25, 2006 at 11:50 AM
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Symphony
Well done, you! :-) Good move, knocking of the pot. That'll save you some cash, plus you'll feel better. Well, you've already said you're feeling better, so I was right :-)
That stuff with your mom has got to hurt. There must be something else going on with her to say something like that. Most people would feel terrible later, after they've cooled down, so hopefully she'll come around on that.
Hope all this stuff soon settles, Symphony. Glad you managed to have a good Easter, anyway.
posted by
Lensman
on April 25, 2006 at 11:26 AM
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Thank you so much....RckyMtnActivist
I will sure to let you know...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:49 AM
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Hello....ThomasFranklin...its been a while since I have "seen" you...
I will read your story....
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:48 AM
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Symphony......I will do the healing on Charlie this afternoon..............
4 pm my time, I think there is about 7 hours difference, so it would be around 11pm your time. Let me know if you notice any changes in her for the next couple of days. Take care!
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on April 25, 2006 at 10:46 AM
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Well, You've been more busy than me. I'v been missing in action too and only recntly wrote another short story. It's good not to be dpendent on anything.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on April 25, 2006 at 10:43 AM
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I have missed you......scriber
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:25 AM
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Marshallengraved Hello...
I hope all is well with you....I heard about proof....D12.....how sad...
I will be over to you soon...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:25 AM
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Thanks so much FactorFiction ....I will check my email in a min....
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:24 AM
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Thank you very much for your lovely comment...Passionflower
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:23 AM
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Thanks ms_bradrock ...I am glad you are back when I am....LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:22 AM
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Thanks Whacky
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:22 AM
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Thank you so much tigerprincess
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:21 AM
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really????....RckyMtnActivist!!!!
you can do that????
I will be over to you as soon as I am finsihed answering comments....thanks so much...much appreciated!
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:21 AM
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Yes ....homegirl...it has killed a few brain cells...
I am hoping they will grow back...
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:20 AM
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Thanks for your comment....A-and-B
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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Thanks shellyb.
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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Well actually Dave...you said it as a joke...but I felt it was a good idea.
thank you for all your advice and for your comments
posted by
_Symphony_
on April 25, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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hi symp. what a life and u handle it pretty good. me, nothing new, same o
write ho.
posted by
scriber
on April 25, 2006 at 9:13 AM
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thanks for sharing all this...
it is not always easy when the landlord doesn't do his job as he should...besides that, i am stopping by to say hello...hope you're doing good...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on April 25, 2006 at 9:10 AM
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Symphony
I will email you...
posted by
FactorFiction
on April 25, 2006 at 8:50 AM
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Wow! You don't usually ramble on like this!
I can see the pain and confusion and hurt inside you though. I'm very sorry to hear about what your mother said and did to you. I guess she's tried to change and do better in the past but you know the old saying, "A leopard can't change its spots."
I think you're best bet is to stay away from her. You and the kids don't need that poisonous influence in your life. You certainly dont need that whacky ex-husband around you or the kids either.
What you and the kids should do is move to America. The way aparment rental works around here is much better. You don't have to file paperwork in order to move property either. We have alot more wide open spaces, property to buy or rent...the area I'm staying in right now is close to downtown Dallas.
There's tons of great jobs starting at around $10 bucks an hour. Lastly, the weather here is not near as depressing.
posted by
Passionflower
on April 25, 2006 at 8:45 AM
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Well Done, You...
I am glad to see you here though I did not realize you were away as I was gone as well. Blessings...
posted by
ms_bradrock
on April 25, 2006 at 6:48 AM
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Glad to see you back!
posted by
Whacky
on April 25, 2006 at 6:40 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that things are going so rough! Hang in there! Good job though on kicking the Cannabis!
posted by
tigerprincess
on April 25, 2006 at 6:36 AM
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Sorry Symphony....
to hear about all your problems...but well done on kicking your habit. I was touched about your dog Charlie. I don't know if you know about Reiki...it is a form of energy healing and it can be done long distance. If you like I can do a long distance healing on Charlie. Even if it is the end of his life the healing will help him make the transition easier, extend his life a bit, or it can heal him. I would just need to know what he looks like and where the cancer or tumors are. If you want me to do this leave the information in my photo blog so I will be sure to get it. God Bless Symphony!
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on April 25, 2006 at 5:35 AM
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wow!
mom would have to stay at arms length... forgiving her does not mean you have to let her abuse you and your kids...
and the weed.... girl.. that stuff kills brain cells... may a few grow back!
posted by
homegirl
on April 25, 2006 at 5:16 AM
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That was an informative update. People say the worst when they're angry. Maybe time will heal.
(B)
posted by
A-and-B
on April 25, 2006 at 5:16 AM
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Symphony!
Welcome back! I was getting a little worried about you.
posted by
shelly_b
on April 25, 2006 at 4:27 AM
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Lots of news there Symph. Glad you're back. Glad you went to the CAB - they have helped out my dad in similar situations. I hope I didn't say withhold the rent as that was wrong. Glad you've restarted it. My advice would always be to pursue it legally whilst still keeping your part of the bargain. If I did say to withhold rent, then sorry, that bit was bad advice.
Glad your Easter was good, sorry to hear about the mum stuff , but well done kicking the Cannabis.
See you around and abouts.
What have you missed? You've missed the new King of Boondogglit...
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on April 25, 2006 at 4:22 AM
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