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Thanks Spitfire and Ceemarie
She definitely has a problem and it appears to be with me. I appreciate the comments and support!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on April 26, 2006 at 6:52 PM
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Sophis,
It sounds like she is feeling a bit defensive about something. I bet that's why she's trying to point the negative attention toward you. She obviously knows you're doing better work than she is and can't handle it. Don't back down. Stand your ground cause you've done nothing wrong. Sometimes, IMO, actions do speak louder than words.
posted by
SpitFire70
on April 24, 2006 at 7:58 PM
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Continue to be the broken record-Being
assertive will demonstrate that you are in control. Bullies use hostile, aggresive behavior to gain power and control. The only way to treat such a person is to do just what you did!! It shows you have class and manners. You retain your dignity and your power.
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on April 24, 2006 at 3:20 PM
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Thanks Ms. Bradrock..
There are bullies here in Blogit!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on April 24, 2006 at 1:03 PM
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BlackPearl1
I agree totally. I am like you also. I can spot a bully and am known as a rebel for I will not back down from a bully. Often, they will keep coming and a change to address them can be essential. All I can say is " You Go Girl"!!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on April 24, 2006 at 1:02 PM
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Sohpistie,
So, this is what being away does...I return to find a name I do not recognize in my favorites. 
Blessings still abound here on Blogit...I'm happy to see that you are still here.
posted by
ms_bradrock
on April 24, 2006 at 6:42 AM
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Hi, Sophistie,
I went through a similar situation with someone at my job. Very similar. This person and I had clashed publicly several times, and we clearly have differences of opinions. On a particular occasion, I put him on blast for putting down another co-worker in front of me, and then going on to say, that because she (the other co-worker) didn't hear him, I shouldn't have told everyone, and that he was trying to "motivate" me. He went on to accuse me of trying exert some kind of mind control over my fellow workers, to turn them against him. Okay, mind control wasn't the expression he used, but he did say that I was trying to turn the others against him. Come on! These are all other adults. All over 25, some closer to 40, with mind and opinions of their own. And these people certainly didn't/don't need any help from me to decide whether or not they like/dislike someone.
Anyway, I wasn't in a position to slap the hell out of him, but I did give him a piece of my mind,and it seems to frustrate him that I won't be bullied by him or his position. You know what they say is the best thing to do about bullies. Stand up to them. Expose them, and see if they don't back off. I think, most of the time they will back off, until they feel like they can try you again. And you know, some will keep trying you.
Also, I don't think bullies are necessarily ignorant, or at least they're not ignorant about being bullies. They may be ignorant about the issue about which they are bullying you, but they certainly know they are bullying you. Bullies seem to want to show dominance and power. As for me, I refuse to yield. Some would say that makes me a rebel. I don't mind that. Maybe becoming rebellious is just an over flow of learning to stand up for myself. My rebellious streak can be controlled when I choose to control it. That works for me. Sorry for the long answer. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on April 23, 2006 at 6:17 AM
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