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Thanks for sharing...
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 2:15 PM
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Interesting questions.
1) I would keep them separate.
2) It is awkward to keep any friend's ex as a close friend. Sorry, I'll keep away.
(B)
posted by
A-and-B
on March 31, 2006 at 2:11 PM
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This was an excellent comment, DivineDiva...
Thank you very much for sharing....I guess asking two questions....asks more questions...(if you know what I mean)
- take care...
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 10:06 AM
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Friends and boyfriends
This is trickier than it looks because there could be so many things involved here. Is the b'friend jealous of a woman's friends because he's insecure and doesn't want her out of his sight/influence? Or maybe he's afraid that she'll do things with her single friends he doesn't want her to?
Does the woman have a friend that she connects with only on certain parts of her personality? And since the b'friend is probably connecting on more levels, their not liking each other would make sense. I have a good friend that is kind and thoughtful but also very conservative, very thrifty and quite shy. If I were with a man that was outgoing and liked to have fun by spending $200 on dinner out, they would definitely not connect with each other.
Always best to examine and talk about things like this with the friends and the boyfriend to really understand what is at the bottom of it all.
Take care Symph,
posted by
DivineDiva
on March 31, 2006 at 9:55 AM
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hahaha thanks for sharing, Passionflower
and no...I would not dream of it....LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 9:41 AM
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Maybe you could sit down and discuss WHY
You don't like So and So - Work thru the problems enough so that it isn't an issue anymore. (don't even think about going back to your ex, you hear me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
posted by
Passionflower
on March 31, 2006 at 9:32 AM
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Thank you ever so much for sharing, Lensman
I just love reading what others have got to say...this is where I learn about other peoples opinons ...sometimes I agree other times I don't...but whatever it doesn't matter as questions like this...show us for what we really are...or should I say....reveal our real opinions...
I remember asking the question about cheating...
if you found somebody cheating would you tell.
and if it were you would you be told.
well I was shocked...many wanted to be told...but would not be the one to tell......funny old world....LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 8:59 AM
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Hi Symphony
Well, you know how they say love is blind.... I'm sure that's behind this kind of situation where your friends don't like your partner. When we're in love, we tend to idolize and idealize thanks to our happy hormones. Our friends aren't caught up in this, though, so they're free to find the person irritating or whatever. In this situation, if the partner doesn't like the friends in return, it's likely because he's sensing their dislike of him. As for remaining friends with an ex's family...that's a tough one. I don't know of too many cases where such friendships surive the divorce, but it does happen. I think it depends on all the personalities involved. I do know that one of my brother's ex-girlfriends is still a good friend of our family. My parents even went to visit her in Australia after she moved there. Good, thought-provoking hypotheticals, Symphony
posted by
Lensman
on March 31, 2006 at 8:51 AM
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hahaha thanks for sharing, ThomasFranklin
and so nice to see you...I do hope you will be writing a story...you know I love your stories.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 8:50 AM
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I was going to answer this question but I got too wordy. I was going to give some advice like somebody really cared. We make choices as an adult-sometimes our decisions force us to become adults. When you're an adult-you don't care what others think because in the long run....you are alone anyway. Alone and responsible for your own choices. Damn. I said it anyway.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on March 31, 2006 at 8:47 AM
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posted by
anglofinspirtion
on March 31, 2006 at 8:33 AM
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Good point - anglofinspirtion.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 8:32 AM
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scriber ....hehehe thanks for sharing....
But it isn't a real question...I just like to READ what others would think if they were in the situation.
SORRY FOR THE MIS-UNDERSTANDING.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 8:32 AM
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No, I don't think it would work in either case... it wouldn't be worth the
headache of trying to make everyone happy!
posted by
anglofinspirtion
on March 31, 2006 at 8:28 AM
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Symp--in the first instance, give it a try and see if things work out.
Often with a little more knowledge, people start to get along. If it becomes a problem and he doesn't make an effort, then u have to wonder why and think about dropping him like a hot rock. In the second instance, don't try to hide it.
posted by
scriber
on March 31, 2006 at 8:27 AM
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hehehe thanks for sharing, RckyMtnActivist
but it is ok, I am not going through it....I just wanted to ask the questions.
I did have a relationship with my best friend brother...and when I split up with him and found a new partner....there were difficultites for me seeing my friend.....in the end I chose my best friend and got rid of my partner "then".... and I think thats the way it should be.
so I was wondering what other opinons are....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 31, 2006 at 8:26 AM
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Symphony.....
Since our friends are usually just looking out for us, I would ask them why they don't like him? And the same with your new boyfriend...why doesn't he like your friends? You may not be seeing what your friends are seeing in him because of your attraction to him. This is a tough situaton, let us know how it turns out. 
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on March 31, 2006 at 8:22 AM
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