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Thank you and yes...I .liked that too. :~)
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 2:09 PM
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Good post. I like the reader's comment about 2 centers being used. It gives variety for the child.
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posted by
A-and-B
on March 16, 2006 at 2:05 PM
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"that" respect!
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 11:49 AM
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That is brillaint, Azur
it is so nice to hear/read from somebody who actually is getting something from it. (I have never had a good career to go back to work for) so in the respect, I have no room to speak. but working weekends works for me....I think everybody is different....
I guess if I did have a career I would have done it the same way as you (your way sounds a lot more "settled") 
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 11:48 AM
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You're welcome. I don't think there is a right age or wrong age
...it depends on the circumstances. My son went from six months of age for two days a week then it increased at one year when I returned to my job part-time.
My daughter went four days a week from one year of age. Now three she still goes - she goes to two day carers and she learns so much at each, she has friends at each and she loves all the toys and activities. One of her day carers is Japanese and so she is learning a little Japanese without even trying which is great because one of her aunts is Japanese.
As for quality time. We get that. The day care enabled me to make a living and that definitely reduced my stress which helps the whole family.
posted by
Azur
on March 16, 2006 at 11:41 AM
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Thanks for sharing, anthony1wiley
in some cases I agree...
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 11:28 AM
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Hello Azur ...so nice to see you...I hope all is well.
now this is the comment I was just hoping for (where were you when I wrote about girls and boys toys a post or so back) I love your comments.
I agree with everything you said....daycare does offer a lot of benefits...I am all for it (but not before a year old......I actually prefer two and half) but like I say I am talking about my own children. others who need to work (and have a great career) then go for it.....as long as they get their quality time with their child.
I like the idea of somebody looking after your child in your enviroment and becoming freinds...etc.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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SYMPHONY
Well, I come from a time when Mom's stayed home and dad's worked and I think it was better for the children luv
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 16, 2006 at 11:25 AM
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Symphony, there is an oft forgotten advantage of day care.........
In not having kids with them 24/7 day care prevents some parents from going off their heads;-) But seriously I find that people do try to impose guilt on people who use day care. I always chose family day care - ie in the carer's home and in choosing that you have to look at the qualifications and also go with your gut feeling. The environment has to be pleasant. The day carers that my kids had always became and remained valuable friends. I always introduced my kids to it gradually and the kids loved it and they learned how to fit in another environment. Not only that, the kids my son met at day care are still years later among his oldest and closest friends.
I read the article that you linked to and I had to laugh really. The so-called expert works at a college where I studied. The first time I got day care for my son was so I could get some time to attend that very college. Prior to that when my son was too tiny for day care my much loved neighbors cared for him for a few hours every week so I didn't have to drop out of college.
posted by
Azur
on March 16, 2006 at 11:19 AM
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Ginnieb....
I have just found some more links.....I will update the post now.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 11:03 AM
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also ginnieb ....you saying about making a parent feel more guilt.
is a point a lot picked up on. (on TV)
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:57 AM
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Yes you are right....ginnieb
I too think it is a great idea to take a year maternity.....
Yes I am sorry, all I could find was a little article in the daily mail.....on the TV, there was a lot more said.....I wish I could find more to it...
I wonder if I goggle it...anything might come up...well I will give it ago.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:56 AM
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Hey Symph...
..there doesnt' seem to be a lot of data to back up the findings in that report and all it might do is lay the guilt on parents even stronger. I too couldn't have left my kids when they were that young though I certainly understand that some mothers have to. In Canada (and I believe in England?) a mother/father is given a year's maternity leave which can be taken by one parent or the other or split between the two. I think it's a fabulous benefit!
posted by
ginnieb
on March 16, 2006 at 10:52 AM
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hahaha Blanche_DuBois
not sure if I be any good at it.....it is a lot easier teaching and telling your own kids but others....hmmm
I worked in a school a few years back, I found that difficult, I felt I was being walked over by the kids....the key is to be firm but fair...I found myself just being fair...LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:46 AM
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Symphony,
I wish you could be their Nanny 911!
posted by
Blanche.
on March 16, 2006 at 10:41 AM
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ooooh wow I agree there will be problems later, Blanche_DuBois
especially if she carries on getting away with it...my little girl is nearly 8 and I would never have her doing that....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:38 AM
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Yes, it is funny....iSiSeYeSs
Thank you very much for sharing. I agree it is damned if you do and damned if you don't. and yes the cost is far too much.
nice to hear from you....its been a while....LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:36 AM
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Symphony,
I'm sure it's got to be really annoying to get advice, criticism and judgment from people without kids! I only grouse because the little girl next door (who's about 7 or 8, Ithink) runs around screaming at the top of her lungs and her parents don't seem to have a problem with it. I think she's got them wrapped round their little finger and there'll be problems later.
posted by
Blanche.
on March 16, 2006 at 10:31 AM
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Symph,
The problem here in the US (in my humble opininion anyway) is that it seems those who are opposed to daycare are often the same people making it difficult to raise a family on one income. So it's damned if you do and damned if you don't!
I opted not to put my kids in daycare for the most part, but that was mainly because the cost of daycare didn't justify the return to work. In hindsight, I'm glad it turned out that way. Turns out they really needed Mommy at home anyway. Funny how that works isn't it? :)
posted by
myrrhage_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:30 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing - Blanche_DuBois
Yes parents are always made to feel guilty on every path they take...they say kids don't come with a rule book and we should do whatever comes natural....funny how so many are to judge and give opinions......or ...................and....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 10:25 AM
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I don't know what to say, Symphony. I've never had kids, but I know there's people who have to put their kids in day care because they need to work, then there's others I think that want to work. You're right about one thing, parents feel guilty no matter what, so you have to make choices.
I'm leery of generalized studies anyway.
posted by
Blanche.
on March 16, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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