Go to MY PERCEPTIVE REFLECTION!!
- Add a comment
- Go to BOYS SHOULD NOT PLAY WITH GIRLS TOYS!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you very much for sharing, OFFBEATS
I have gave him a kiss from you. and he gives one back. I have no idea why parents do that to their children....let them find their own fears for goodness sake....LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 3:53 AM
| link to this | reply
SYMPHONY
I totally agree with you on this...what the heck is she thinking? My son's kiss each other while they are shaking hands ( not an on the lips type of kiss) and I see nothing wrong with that...I have no idea why people do that. Some people install fear into their children because of their own fears ( Like flying, swimming, etc)...I don't get it! Good post Symphony and I hope Jamie continues to be a kisser, in fact, give him a kiss from me!!
posted by
Offy
on March 16, 2006 at 3:30 AM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much abhilasha
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 2:04 AM
| link to this | reply
hii
jamie is lucky to have you as mother !!
posted by
abhilasha
on March 16, 2006 at 1:58 AM
| link to this | reply
hahahaha Jack_Flash
I loved your comment....made me laugh!
....thanks
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 1:34 AM
| link to this | reply
symph,
Don't worry about protecting children from toys of the opposite gender, or about protecting them from showing affection to either sex. Worry about protecting them from the people you talked about who are so full of stupid ideas.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on March 16, 2006 at 1:21 AM
| link to this | reply
hahahaha Whacky
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 1:04 AM
| link to this | reply
I completely agree!
I just wish my creepy cousins hadn't broken my easy bake oven... I could use it some days.
posted by
Whacky
on March 16, 2006 at 12:16 AM
| link to this | reply
Well done you ms_bradrock thank you for sharing. great job you done!
That is exactley how I would like Jamie to be,....tough - but can get in touch with his sensitive side.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:06 AM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much Justsouno
Yes it is a shame how others think and bring up their sons....I am not saying I am doing the perfect job...because I am not....but I plan to do my best as that is all I can do.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:05 AM
| link to this | reply
Thanks for sharing, mira1
isn't it awful when a mother takes a toy away from a child?...especially as they don't understand.....well I would never do that.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:03 AM
| link to this | reply
hahahaha anthony1wiley
you made me laugh.....and its only early (8am) I don't usually laugh to I had had a few cuppa teas around 9am....hahaha
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:02 AM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much Jazwolf
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:01 AM
| link to this | reply
hehehe thank you so much MysticGmekeepr.
I have to admit I am shocked with all these comments....it seems that everybody agrees with me....which is good unless those that don't are hiding...LOL....Thanks for sharing.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 16, 2006 at 12:01 AM
| link to this | reply
Symphony,
Sensitivity is a very important part of what makes a man who he is...My boys--25 and 27--are certainly not wimps, but they shed real tears, express real emotions, and they love deep! Blessings...
posted by
ms_bradrock
on March 15, 2006 at 11:04 PM
| link to this | reply
Symphony, so sad. I wonder if this mom will know what happened when
the little boy becomes a husband for the fifth time because he has no compassion or gentleness oh my my. The most manly men I have known were those who were able to be the most gentle. You go Mum you are right on!
posted by
Justi
on March 15, 2006 at 9:45 PM
| link to this | reply
Symphony,
I agree with you, as a kid I had various toys - cars, guns, teddy bears and dolls, of course. I felt better in boys' company - I adored running, playing football - though I also liked playing with girls. When I was in the kindergarten, someone told my Mum that I spent too much time with two boys - and it may be dangerous!!! Fortunately, my Mum has been a wise woman.
Take care.
posted by
mira1
on March 15, 2006 at 9:17 PM
| link to this | reply
SYMPHONY
What on earth is up with you girl? How do you expect men to learn to kill, belong to a gang, smack their wives around, all that good stuff, if you've raised them to play with prams, hand out roses,
and kiss other boys. Sheesh
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 15, 2006 at 7:07 PM
| link to this | reply
Symphony--- We need more mothers--- and fathers--- like you.
posted by
Jazwolf
on March 15, 2006 at 7:06 PM
| link to this | reply
Hi Sweet Symphony
Being politically correct has become INSANE. That crazy mother is apt to have a kid that grows up wanting to kiss boys because she has made it a taboo...why is it different for a kid Jamie's age to kiss another child boy or girl ? We are far too hung up on that silly stuff. Keep your kid loving and affectionate, and without fear of societies manufactured taboos. I'm so busy and so overwhelmed i'm losing the small piece of my mind i had left
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on March 15, 2006 at 4:55 PM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much for sharing, katray
it probably is the men who have more of a problem with it for how ever they were bought up...it is a shame! I wish everything could be about equal opportunities...I am not sure it will ever change though...
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 3:08 PM
| link to this | reply
Excellent points & post Symphony
I was thinking about this earlier today - how sad in this day and age our culture is still so gender rigid. Especially for males.
My little grandson Dakota has been rebuffed by parents, just like your Jamie, for wanting to express his affection with hugs and kisses. How pathetic and warped. And Dakota's dad has not always been happy with my toy purchases. (Mr. Macho - arghh!!) Too bad!
Lol. When he's here, we play whatever he chooses - and often that is playing with a big collection of stuffed animals and yes dolls and various accessories. He's a very good caretaker and housekeeper. ;)
Great post!
posted by
Katray2
on March 15, 2006 at 2:57 PM
| link to this | reply
Thanks for your wonderful comment brettnik
I agree ....I love children's innocence...I wish we could keep their innocence forever ...but we have to let them grow up and make their own choices....but for how long they are to be as they want to be (without peer pressure...etc) then I will forever encouage it.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 2:52 PM
| link to this | reply
LOL....FactorFiction
I have never heard of that...it is amazing what we sterotype.....tell me more!...LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 2:49 PM
| link to this | reply
Thank you for sharing Dennison_Mann ...
(Ben was just kidding) but I agree with everything you said.....oh and by the way I love blue jeans, I have many pairs...hahaha
Yes you are right...about having to explain to Jamie about other boys not wanting to show affection...etc...I guess I will have to teach "different strokes for different folks" or something like that.
Thank you for your comment...take care.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 2:47 PM
| link to this | reply
There will be enough pressure for them to be boyz in the
cultural sense later. I agree with you, let them be humans for as long as possible. And, if you're very lucky and you have a strong boy that you've raised the way you're obviously raising him, he'll raise his own boys the same way. Kudos to you!!!!! My 9 year old proudly told his friend this week that he watches Arthur because it's a good show and he still holds my hand when I pick him up from school. Let them keep that stuff as long as they can!
posted by
brettnik
on March 15, 2006 at 2:46 PM
| link to this | reply
okay I have no problem with little boys
playing with whatever they want to play with...actually it might be a nice change of pace
However, what will people think of a "kissy" Brit?? I thought you were all supposed to be stuffy, cold handsoff types. This just will not do. Have you no pride in your stereotype?
posted by
FactorFiction
on March 15, 2006 at 2:40 PM
| link to this | reply
That Ben Even Used The Term...
"Crossdressing" distresses me.
I wonder if he views Ann in her blue jeans and says, "Ann, I'll not have you crossdressing in our home!"
(Blue jeans, after all, were once the exclusive domain of rugged gold mining men in San Francisco until some courageous "crossdressing" woman said to herself, "Y'know, them thar blue denimy jeans that the menfolk wears look maghty comfurtuble and practical-like. I think I'll wears me a pair no matter who thinks I'm 'crossdressing!")
That we even place gender values on fabrics, styles, colors, scents, and specific patterns just baffles me. Who decided that men can't wear lacey blouses? (Take a look at your one dollar bill. That aint no Megadeth T-shirt ol' George Washington wore to his sitting for that portrait. That's a ruffled blouse likely made of the finest silk from China!)
We've got to stop passing this gender ignorance down the generational chain. Stop training boys to be aggressive brutes and stop training girls to be submissive dependents.
One thing, though, you will now have to explain to your son that not everybody is like him. When he asks why he can't kiss certain boys then just explain that some people express their love differently than he does. Good luck...this could get complicated for you!
DM
posted by
Dennison..Mann
on March 15, 2006 at 2:38 PM
| link to this | reply
Thanks fourfive
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 2:26 PM
| link to this | reply
i just saw your thought to my entry thanks, that's my point, i'll be back to read your blog again
posted by
fourfive
on March 15, 2006 at 2:24 PM
| link to this | reply
Thanks for reading and sharing, fourfive ...I am on my way back to you.
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 2:15 PM
| link to this | reply
kids should remain the free sprits they are, not sure if you got to read my new entry, but thanks for stopping by
posted by
fourfive
on March 15, 2006 at 2:14 PM
| link to this | reply
hahaha well Jamie likes to put on my high heels, A-and-B
and his sisters shoes....but he is only two years old...he will be three in June
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 1:29 PM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much David1Spirit
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 1:28 PM
| link to this | reply
Thank you so much for sharing, ginnieb.
the comment that Laura made is cute....I bet you were very proud....thank you for saying I am doing a fine job....its nice to hear that now and again....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 1:27 PM
| link to this | reply
I agree, babe_rocks
and I wanted a car garage thingy...but got a dress up doll....
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 1:25 PM
| link to this | reply
Thanks blackcat30
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 15, 2006 at 1:25 PM
| link to this | reply
Unisex playing should be safe. Cross dressing is another matter. Lol.
(B)
posted by
A-and-B
on March 15, 2006 at 1:01 PM
| link to this | reply
Kids should do as they wish
It's when parents "suppress" a child that eventually leads to trouble. Yours will be just fine.
posted by
David1Spirit
on March 15, 2006 at 12:21 PM
| link to this | reply
I'm with you 100%!!!
What a ridiculous comment that mother made...her son will have his share of issues when he grows up and puts his misguided ways to use. I was always totally against the 'girls' toys/'boys' toys idea! MerryAnne wrote a post about this the other day. When my youngest daughter was in grade 1 and her teacher made a comment about the boys playing with their toys and the girls playing with theirs, Laura put her hand up and said 'that's a sexist comment!' The teacher laughed when she told us about it but boy, was I proud! You are doing a great job Symphony...keep up the good work!!
posted by
ginnieb
on March 15, 2006 at 12:16 PM
| link to this | reply
Kids should play with any toys that fit their individual interests. I always wanted a farm set but I got a dollhouse instead. :(
posted by
babe_rocks
on March 15, 2006 at 12:13 PM
| link to this | reply
you make very good points...
posted by
-blackcat
on March 15, 2006 at 12:07 PM
| link to this | reply