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ceemarie53
There are those certain men that are hard to be deleted from your memory, my last guy has only been in my life since Dec., but there was that special connection. He must not had the same feelings I did or he would be back in my life. I am just a memory for him lost in with the others
I still think of him and hope to hear from him, but most men have said they wouldnt come back, except for one guy told me if he enjoyed the sex he would be back. I hope so
posted by
Lanetay
on March 14, 2006 at 8:24 PM
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Thanks, Lilane-
Yes, it has been a roller coaster ride, and one I'd never want to repeat. I did bring him a gift - he found his true Self. He's found out who HE really is now and yes, I sort of feel like the old wrapping paper and pretty ribbons cast aside. He's creating new experiences with his wife and helping her to find her Self, too, I think. He said she had never recognized ME as a gift (I've just been "the other woman"). He admitted she may never get it, although she's heard it 2 or 3 times from others.) She asked him never to contact me again and out of respect for her wishes, he hasn't. Not since Jan. 31, 2006.
I have always had Jay in my life while I've known Mike. He told me last fall, when he was still upset with me (because I started the breakup) that my whole life, it had always been Jay and not Mike. So when you said,
"They can never leave the wife, especially if he feels she can't survive without him," he must feel that way. His feelings were dead for her for a while because he thought she felt dead for him inside, too. Then when she said otherwise, I never had a chance.
He felt that Jay was always going to come between us, too, and there were no rivals for his wife's affections. She doesn't click with him as easily as Mike and I do, nor do Jay and I click together as easily as I did with Mike. I feel that God wants each of us to help our original mates find their real Selfs. We should have married back in the 70s if we were going to at all. Our "gift" to the spouses has not been completed and it will probably be
till death us do part -- neither one of them may get to that point of finding their true "Self". It's probably the only way Mike and I will ever join again; the deaths of both of our spouses. That's pretty much improbable odds. So the next place we meet is on the other side, where it will be okay -- allowed. (Whew)
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on March 13, 2006 at 10:17 AM
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ceemarie53
I wish the best for you. I don't know what it is like to have another man in my life while married or in any relationship but I do know what it is like to be with one whose heart is not totally not free. I had one ask me to marry him many years ago, he is still married. They can never leave the wife, especially if he feels she cant survive without him.
posted by
Lanetay
on March 13, 2006 at 6:56 AM
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Oooh, Maggie, I'm so glad you stopped by!
God speed through this surgery and many prayers are going up for you from this community, I know, on Monday morning to guides the hands of your surgical team. How exciting for you! Soon the pain will be no longer, at least from that worn out old knee! Hope you sleep through a lot of the first few days. The yellow forsythias and jonquils are popping out all over where I live! I hope nature brings you lots of blooms to enjoy as you recover! And thanks for reading my "hot post."
Blessings, dear friend, and here's to a speedy recovery!
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on March 11, 2006 at 5:25 PM
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Oh, Cee....
You are hot stuff! oooh, baby! lol 
I just came over to tell you that Monday is the day - I will go into the hospital tomorrow night and my surgery is first on Monday morning. I don't know how long I'll be gone, but don't forget me, ok? Check Offbeats posts (she's my sister) and she'll keep you updated. Till I return, Sweetie, take care, stay warm, and God bless. 
posted by
MaggieMae
on March 11, 2006 at 3:54 PM
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Oh Lilane,
That is just what happened. But he'd bought my airline ticket to shop for apartments. He bought me an air number bed because it's what I was used to. He bought me a laptop computer, the iBook I wanted, so that I could continue writing when I moved out there. He truly believed his marriage was over but his wife thought otherwise. He felt as long as there was a breath of life left in his marriage he owed it to his kids and wife to try again. It breaks my heart still as I type this. He has now said goodbye and meant it as a final goodbye.
My husband and I are working to rebuild the intimacy in our marriage (I wrote about it in my Spirituality Blog today.) We left this in God's hands and we have returned to our original hearth and home. But I left a big chunk of my heart living in Mike's heart, and so there I live and here I live.
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on March 11, 2006 at 1:36 PM
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Mikes Love
Dont be like me and give into him he will use you until he has used all he wants, he will never leave his wife and he needs to concentrate more on her.
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2006 at 9:56 AM
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