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Quirky-
Your brother sounds like he was wise. I am trying to tell the story of a failed romance, my own, and through the writing about it, am figuring out what happened. Mike said it's like putting together a giant jigsaw puzzle. Piece by piece, I am seeing little pictures develop and someday the whole picture will emerge.
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on March 11, 2006 at 7:06 PM
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Quirky
My mom is like that to some degree. It seems almost absurd to deal with things, when they only bring pain and sorrow; yet, that is precisely how they are weakened and abolished.
I miss reading about Samuel. That's my oldest boy's name.
I can't imagine what you all have gone through with this.
posted by
avant-garde
on March 10, 2006 at 2:53 AM
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We need to unload the burdens of our past not dwell on them maybe.
Well put, Quirky
posted by
Straightforward
on March 9, 2006 at 3:19 PM
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Quirky,
I also think that writing (and talking) are the most therapeutic releases a person can have. Bottling it up hurts more, I think. Thanks for sharing. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on March 9, 2006 at 3:18 PM
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Deep wisdom Quirky
I suppose it is human nature to bury what we can't comprehend or deal with, but some things are too powerful for soil. A situation such as this imho, must have some kind of light to allow glimmers of understanding through for illumination and healing.
The last paragraph is especially strong and wise - Thank you for sharing.
posted by
Katray2
on March 9, 2006 at 9:20 AM
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Hi Quirks.....You are one bright woman.....
And again, these words are nicely strung together. I think our moms and dads came from a generation where they kept things swept under the rug. That is unfortunately, how they were also raised. 'Don't trust many, keep your dirty linen to yourself.' I hate that reasoning. It accomplishes little. I hope your mom can continue to express herself without having to suppress her feelings.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on March 8, 2006 at 12:32 PM
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Quirky
I agree with you luv, let it all hang out has always been my way. Bottling things up just eats humans up from the inside. Good for you in being able to get it out luv.You're my kinda person
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 8, 2006 at 12:10 PM
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Quirkyalone...
Bottling up our feelings and emotions is not the answer. We need to share our grief with those who care, for it helps us release all the tension and heartache within. I am always willing to listen and give comfort if possible.
I am glad you are there for your mother.
posted by
jacentaOld
on March 8, 2006 at 8:50 AM
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Quirky, if it helps you to blog about it then that is what you should do. You are not hurting any of us and most of us will listen when you wish to share your pain or the pain of your mother. Take Care!
posted by
BrightIrish
on March 7, 2006 at 10:32 PM
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I agree with lovelylady...a mother loves her children no matter what, and asking her to stop talking about her son would be downright impossible and only serve to make the pain fester...God bless you and your mother for having the courage to continue on and face up to this haunting past despite what others say and do!
posted by
Tandra
on March 7, 2006 at 9:03 PM
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Quirky,
God bless your poor mother...It was just plain wrong of your aunts to expect her to make a pact like that. No matter what he had done, your brother was...and always will be her son. I'm glad that she was at least able to share her thoughts about this tragedy with you. You were a wonderful daughter to her.
God bless you, my friend....
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on March 7, 2006 at 4:32 PM
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Write What You Feel...
posted by
Dr_JPT
on March 7, 2006 at 4:15 PM
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I hope you aunts will break this pact if not for your mom for themslves.
posted by
Whacky
on March 7, 2006 at 2:38 PM
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I Think...
should feel free to talk about it with whomever she likes. Maybe your aunts were more uncomfortable with the topic than your mother was?
The only way we understand things is by talking and thinking and then talking some more. Otherwise, our mind stagnates and eventually putrefies.
DM
posted by
Dennison..Mann
on March 7, 2006 at 2:05 PM
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