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                    Expectations
                
                I've gotten far more than I ever expected from the community at Blogit and look forward to much more enlightenment! 
                
                    posted by
                    TheNewMrs.C
                     on February 10, 2006 at 4:52 PM
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                    I am glad you are not disappointed...
                
                I am not either.
                
                    posted by
                    _Symphony_
                     on February 9, 2006 at 5:23 AM
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                    nanaroo
                
                in case you didn't see my answer to your question in my column...
  snowball, clutch cargo, xila purrfle and candy caine.  four of the best friends i've ever had.  my name is in honor of their exquisite love.
                
                    posted by
                    fourcats
                     on February 8, 2006 at 10:59 PM
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                    Nana
                
                You make us that way!! I am glad your here too!!
                
                    posted by
                    Offy
                     on February 8, 2006 at 8:11 PM
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                     Nanaroo...
                
                I am glad you joined Blogit and it is terrific that you are not disappointed.
        BTW.   "Never count on anything until it actually happens."  That is what I
   always tell myself and my family about anything that they are looking forward
  to. I don't feel I am pessimistic, only reality based.  hahaha   
  Thanks for your visit!!!!!!!
  
                
                    posted by
                    jacentaOld
                     on February 8, 2006 at 8:09 PM
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                    joleen!
                
                thanks!  I was just on my way to visit you!
                
                    posted by
                    Nanaroo
                     on February 8, 2006 at 5:22 PM
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                    awww nanaroo...
                
                you made me soften, thank you sweetness. i agree with your observations. 
                
                    posted by
                    joleen
                     on February 8, 2006 at 5:20 PM
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                    so true
                
                ex. vs real. - so true.  i worked in the retail record industry for ten years,  purchaser for a large record chain.  because of my position i was always getting back stage passes, going on boat cruises, anything to grease me into buying someone's stuff.  i've met some of the world's biggest music stars as a result and i have to say a lot of visions got shattered.  people whose music had been so inspiring to me only to turn out to be the biggest jerks.  happily the opposite also held true.  politeness and gracious behavior from some of the least expected.
  like patricia arquette's character 'alabama' says in the movie 'true romance', " that's the way it goes.  but sometimes it goes the other way, too."
                
                    posted by
                    fourcats
                     on February 8, 2006 at 3:24 PM
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                    And the similarities mount
                
                IT IS SO STRANGE THAT YOU WROTE ABOUT THIS... It is how I named my  blog(I know this much is true) It is what I have found in the space  between expectation and reality-- my truth!!!!   
                
                    posted by
                    doxbaby444
                     on February 8, 2006 at 3:21 PM
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                    Nanaroo
                
                I have a saying that I use a lot. I've been using it so long I'm really not sure if I heard it or it's my own - no matter - here it is.
Disappointment is always caused by inaccurate expectations.Please not that I didn't say unreasonable or unfair or unjustified. I said inaccurate.  
Once you accept that the key to not being disappointed is to put a lot of thought into forming an accurate expectation. 
If it's about how someone in your life is going to respond to something forming an accurate expectation is really quite simple. Just do what people do in business forecasting - use history.  If someone has acted a certain way in similar situations in the past you can bet your bippy that they'll do the same this time.  
What often underlies this inaccurate expectation is that we confuse expectations with desires.  Wishing for an outcome doesn't increase the likelihood of realizing it - unless you happen to have a genie.
                
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                    Omni
                     on February 8, 2006 at 2:15 PM
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                    Nanaroo, 
                
                A very profound truth, so well expressed.  If I change my expectations, I change my attitude, and if I change my attitude, I can see people for who they are, accept that and not be hung up on the way "should be".  
                
                    posted by
                    Blanche.
                     on February 8, 2006 at 1:05 PM
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                    Nan ~
                
                I agree...
                
                    posted by
                    AC_Allyn
                     on February 8, 2006 at 11:50 AM
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                    NAN
                
                Neither am I......if anything I have been pleasantly surprised.
                
                    posted by
                    ALWAYSALOVER
                     on February 8, 2006 at 11:25 AM
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                    I love this Nanaroo!
                
                Little pockets of community...yes..we are that!  Diverse.
                
                    posted by
                    ginnieb
                     on February 8, 2006 at 11:06 AM
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                Well thats good lol....
...i agree...have most problems with this gap in my relationships 
                
                    posted by
                    Leafonariver
                     on February 8, 2006 at 10:27 AM
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