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Thanks Sassy! Glad to see you around again, too!
Just got home from seeing Mom in Chicago. I've literally flown around the U.S. within one week. What time is it now? What time zone am I in?!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 10, 2006 at 11:18 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about this
I went looking for your posts and came upon this sad news. This is never an easy thing to go through, but you do have the support of people who care about you. God bless you and your family.
posted by
Sherri_G
on February 8, 2006 at 10:08 PM
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Blanche,
Thanks. It does really help a lot to have support.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:50 PM
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Spitfire,
I'm glad, because you are missed when you're gone. I don't look forward to having to face this myself, but I am glad you have support and comfort and that helps.
posted by
Blanche.
on February 5, 2006 at 5:39 PM
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Blanche,
Thanks. It's comforting just knowing I have all of you supporting me. I can't express how much it means to me.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:37 PM
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Spitfire,
I'm not sure what to say that can offer comfort, that most haven't said better than I can. I like Diana Krall's line in her song about her mother, "Only the love you gave to me will save me". Peace.
posted by
Blanche.
on February 5, 2006 at 5:30 PM
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Teddy,
You are so thoughtful. Thank you again!!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:24 PM
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DivineD,
What a perfect quote to share with me. True words of a writer there, too. Thank you.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:22 PM
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Mystic,
I know it's hard, but none of us are perfect. We have to accept each other for who we are and love each other regardless. I know that can be difficult sometimes, though!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:20 PM
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Thank you, Jimmy.
I hope I don't have to make those decisions either. I'm meeting with the estate lawyer when I'm in Chicago this week. I'm going to go over whatever details with Mom to make sure I am totally clear of her wishes. She still has all her wits about her so she's still "with it." I hope she stays that way.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:15 PM
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Ariala,
I remember the pain you were experiencing when your mom passed. You two were close like me and Mom are which makes it so much harder to let go. Thank you for your thoughtful comments.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:13 PM
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Crimson,
Thank you so much. You're right about that last part, too!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:11 PM
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Azur,
Thank you and I do hope I've eased her burden a bit.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:10 PM
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HolyG, how sweet of you.
Yeah, it's been one hell of a 6 months for me, huh? I guess it's true what doesn't kill us makes us stronger...but I'll just say
hey! Powers that be! I'm strong enough so you can stop throwing all this crap at me already! But seriously, I guess one has no choice in matters like this but to be strong. Otherwise, I guess we can just fake it and try and trick ourselves into believing we are! Hey, whatever works, right?
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:09 PM
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I'm trying, Whacky! Thank you!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:02 PM
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Taps,
You are already supporting me with your comments. Thank you so much.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 5:00 PM
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RckyMtn,
Sorry I brought back painful memories to you! It is true that we choose our time to go back Home. I believe it's when we've fulfilled what purposes we chose for this life. I just wish I had more time. Mom and I have talked about this recently and she still believes that to be the case. I'll just miss her so much. Thanks for your kind words.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:59 PM
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Factor,
So true!!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:55 PM
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Anglo-
Thank you for that!!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:54 PM
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Teddy,
If any good/positive comes out of this situation, I am so glad to know that it gave that to you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing that with me. It really means more than you know.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:52 PM
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Koriani,
Thank you!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:44 PM
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Muser-
Those are such unbelievably helpful words and wonderful advice. Almost poetic. Thank you so very much. That really does help
a lot.
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:43 PM
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Sir Strat,
Thank you my friend. I truly appreciate your kind words!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 5, 2006 at 4:40 PM
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SF
Just stopping back by to check on you the only way I can think of ...still saying words for you and your Mom and family. God Bless.
-Ted
posted by
teddypoet_TheGoodByeFade
on February 5, 2006 at 12:52 PM
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A quote for you Spitfire
This is a quote from a book that I love. It speaks to the loss of a lover that I suffered not long ago but I think it could be a comfort for any love that is lost. I hope you like it. Your Mom is being taken much too soon from this world but she will always be there with you.
"All of it was good, in every sense of the word. And in this life, nothing good is ever lost.
It stays part of a person, becomes part of their character. Part of you goes everywhere with
me. And part of me is yours forever."
posted by
DivineDiva
on February 4, 2006 at 9:40 AM
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I've been looking for your posts ...
I'm so sorry about your mom. Your post made me think about my parents, especially the line where you said she wasn't June Cleaver but you weren't the world's greatest daughter, either. I try not to think about my parents eventually death for the same reasons.
posted by
fwmystic
on February 3, 2006 at 8:14 PM
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I am sorry to hear about your mom Spitfire...
sounds like a great lady, I hope that it goes smoothly and that you do not have to make those hard decisions, let the Goddess make them if at all possible. No one needs those memories...peace...
posted by
jimmy68
on February 2, 2006 at 10:41 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear this...as you know, my mom passed away last May
and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through.
Stay positive...sometimes the tides change and people survive. Either way, you're in my thoughts and prayers.
posted by
Ariala
on February 2, 2006 at 8:23 PM
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I'm sure no words
that I might muster could ease your pain. It's terrible to experience the loss of a loved one especially a mother. Rest assured when the time comes you will be in my thoughts and I'm sure I speak for many here.
"This too shall pass"
posted by
CrimsonCarouse
on February 2, 2006 at 8:17 PM
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Spitfire70
This is such a tough thing to deal with but I believe that in choosing you as a guardian her burden will be eased. She has chosen well, Take care
posted by
Azur
on February 2, 2006 at 4:52 PM
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I'm so sorry, and I have been wondering since I got your email if you'd heard anything further. You've had so much thrown at you this last year or so. I will be thinking of you both, and I hope that when something happens to my Mom, I can be half as strong as you are.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on February 2, 2006 at 4:26 PM
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Enjoy what time you have left...you will be glad you did.
posted by
Whacky
on February 2, 2006 at 12:47 PM
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Spitfire70
I am so sorry about this. I wish that I could give you support in some way. It will not be easy for you to be the one to make decisions for her. I will be praying for both of you.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 2, 2006 at 11:00 AM
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Spitfire....
I am terribly sorry to hear about this. I lost my mom a few years back and after reading your situation it brought back so many painful memories. We know that the soul chooses the time to "go home" and it is part of the journey. But knowing that doesn't make it any easier. We miss their physical presence. I will keep you and your mom in my prayers. God Bless!
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on February 2, 2006 at 10:56 AM
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I am sorry to hear this Spitfire.
Even knowing as you do that it is not goodbye "forever," there is always that little girl who wants her mommy inside us.
posted by
FactorFiction
on February 2, 2006 at 10:55 AM
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posted by
anglofinspirtion
on February 2, 2006 at 10:48 AM
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Dearest Spitfire,
It was this last September that my mother stepped through the gate into brighter meadows...sweet Lady, I can think of no words that might give you comfort...I have not cried over the loss of my mother; not really...this morning as I read your loving words of a daughter's tribute to her mother, finally the numbed pressure is released and the tears fall even as this is being typed..I want you to know that some personal comfort/ease has been afforded me through the gift of your words, words that surely must have your good spirit drained...I was always afraid of losing a parent simply because I did not know if I would be able to handle such a loss: the night before Mom left us, I leaned low and whispered to her that I loved her and that 'it's ok to let go'...I could no longer feel right wanting her to remain in such a sufferering state; the only thing keeping her pain quieted was the morphine which kept her asleep...even with that she was enduring pain that I cannot fathom.
Dear Lady, your mother did a wonderful job bringing you up. Just like the nickname, spitfire, you have it in you to face challenge and overcome...for now, Dear Heart, give your mother all the time you can and do pray for good things, even as dark as the days and nights become.
I am certain that Love and prayer abound toward the peace due your sweet mother and the restoration of spirit and Hope for yourself and your Loved ones.
God Bless you, my beautiful friend.
Ted
posted by
teddypoet_TheGoodByeFade
on February 2, 2006 at 7:28 AM
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Such hard decisions...
I dred the time when I have to do it for my mom. Course, the way things are going, she'll outlive me...
My thoughts are with you.
posted by
koriani
on February 2, 2006 at 7:08 AM
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It's so hard Spitfire. My heart goes out to you. My mother used to say
that you never stop missing your Mama when she's gone. I understand now what I think she meant by that. I find that the physical pain of separation has subsided, but there is just this little constant ache... It's not unpleasant...it doesn't hurt...really. It's just a reminder that she is here ...in my heart.. I am aware every day that she is in a better place...and I talk to her ...I know just about what she would say back to me...LOL! The most comfort I can give you, Spitfire, is that love is the strongest force created...and
nothing can separate us from
God's love...and the love that ties us to our mothers.
Love never dies...You are both in my prayers...
posted by
muser
on February 2, 2006 at 6:33 AM
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Oh, Young Miss, I'm so sorry to hear this.
I have no words of comfort, only my prayers and good wishes, for whatever they're worth.
You ARE a good daughter -- the best -- and I daresay she knows that and knows that she has done a good day's work bringing you into and up in this world.
Take care.
posted by
strat
on February 2, 2006 at 6:19 AM
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Smartdog,
Please allow me to apologize for not being around much lately. With that being said, I'm sorry about your mom. I took care of the mother-in-law of my first husband back in 1994 who had cancer. We had Hospice, but M-in-law insisted
I do everything for her. Good times. Anyway, I forgot my point now. Regardless, as far as your comment, thank you so much. I do try to realize and appreciate every moment now and again, I'm sorry for your loss and sorry I haven't been around too much lately. I promise I will very soon!
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 2, 2006 at 6:12 AM
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Fires
The most tender words I could summon probably wouldn't ease your frustration right now, but having lost my own mother less than two months ago, I can atleast offer my empathy. I can honestly say that to be with and to aid a loved one in their passing, though certainly difficult, can be one of the most rewarding experiences of life. Just be in the moment, and the rest will fall into place.
Be well. And if you don't mind; God Bless...
-smartdog
posted by
smartdog_670
on February 2, 2006 at 5:59 AM
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