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Mia,
You know, the tenth year anniversary of my great-grandfather's death was on the first. Rather than focusing on being sad, I tried to remember all the wonderful stories he had told me. I focused on his love for me, and somehow, that was all I needed.
By allowing yourself to feel somewhat sad without wallowing in it, you have truly honoured your brother's memory. Good for you!!
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on January 27, 2006 at 4:49 PM
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Hang on to those feelings Mia...
..but also remember that there is no shame in feeling sad and sorry for yourself once in a while...it's human! The danger is letting that take over your life and it sounds like you are well aware of that and won't let it happen. Life is for living....absolutely....but sometimes it truly does suck and sadness does seep in. The anniversary of your brother's death is going to be tough...I know that every anniversary of my sister's puts me in a state of sorrow, whether I want it to or not...it's like the heart has no control and it aches again. But at the end of the day, if you can smile, just a bit, knowing the love that you two shared while he was still with you. Take care Mia...wish I could give you a big hug.
posted by
ginnieb
on January 27, 2006 at 1:35 PM
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Mia
Good for you, I believe you are honoring your brother much more by the way you are doing things than walking around depressed.
posted by
Bel_
on January 26, 2006 at 5:36 PM
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What a nice image (the helium balloon one). We all need something like that.
posted by
babe_rocks
on January 26, 2006 at 5:31 PM
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You're doing great...
For those others, it will become easier with time, and if it doesn't for them, that is a choice they make. I know we dealt with the 1st anniversary a few months ago, and I wasn't sure what to expect. I saw with my grandmother what it's like to never let go, and it can be painful for them. Just keep doing what you're doing. Sadness of course, will come along, but don't let it engulf you. Be strong, and keep moving forward. I'll keep ya in my prayers.
posted by
LifeByLisa
on January 26, 2006 at 4:34 PM
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posted by
_Symphony_
on January 26, 2006 at 12:51 PM
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Youa re the light for our family and my inspiation!
posted by
Melodystar
on January 26, 2006 at 9:30 AM
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Nice Way of Handling!
You will be the light for the family!!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on January 26, 2006 at 8:30 AM
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