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Thanks Malcolm, I will.
posted by
word.smith
on January 4, 2006 at 7:45 AM
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I think a sense of perspective
will do him no harm at all. we've had similar issues between our eldest son and his younger siblings and he's needed to be reminded that he's not the adult to their children. Stay with it.
posted by
malcolm
on January 4, 2006 at 6:16 AM
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Blanche,
Yes, I do believe he thinks that we're on the same level, which is why it's a good thing to remind him now and then that we're not.
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 9:26 PM
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Word.smith,
Kids don't like to hear that they're not on the same level as adults, but as archaic as it sounds, I still think that "because I'm the grownup and you're the child" has to be factored into the equation. He may not like it, but it's the truth.
posted by
Blanche.
on January 3, 2006 at 6:23 PM
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MayB,
Agreed. He has authoritative tones that come from the way we speak to him., when we mean business. Even last night he said the same thing to my husband and when he asked him how he'd spoken to him, he said 'in a bad way.' Yikes!
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 6:21 PM
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Silver,
Kids are mini politicians. They learn how to negotiate and manipulate adults if we're not careful. It's kind of like walking a tightrope when teaching them what's right and how to compromise. I gotta admit that sometimes it's hard being and staying in charge. 
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 6:15 PM
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TF,
The only trouble I'm having with him right now is that he's in a huff more often than I like. He's turning into a manipulative little thing, thinking if he get's in a huff everybody will cave in. I have news for him.
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 6:08 PM
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Genius, I don't doubt you!
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 6:06 PM
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Jeff, that comment made me laugh.
Life is an adventure all right for those of us who do have kids.
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 6:05 PM
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Recently I stepped up the time out for my daughter when she was answering back - she's only three. Now even the warning of time out stops her. We do have to watch how we speak. Sometimes my daughter speaks to her dolls in tones that I realize have only come from me and I don't always like what I hear
posted by
Azur
on January 3, 2006 at 3:35 PM
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Interesting. My son is going through something similar. He's been throwing out disciplinary remarks much like yours is. And last night, I was angry and short with him because 1. he did not get into bed as I had told him several times before, and 2. he was messing around near the computer table and knocked over an entire cup of water there. He got angry because I was angry, and when I told him to tone it down, he said, Only after you say sorry to me. ( owning up to mistakes and saying sorry is an important issue in our house) I said I was right to be angry at him for the reasons I stated above, and that He should say sorry to Me. It took some convincing, but I felt it was necessary for him to understand that sorry doesn't always go both ways, and if I (or anyone else) is angry with him, then he should first reflect on what happened before he does anything else--especially copping attitude, which is an ugly habit in itself.
posted by
SilverMoon7
on January 3, 2006 at 3:15 PM
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My child went through a similiar thing-its part of growing up and learning how to apply laughter, handling emotion and not just there own.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on January 3, 2006 at 12:19 PM
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sounds like that that
bid for independence to me. I did the same...
posted by
_the_staggering_genius_
on January 3, 2006 at 12:04 PM
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Thanks for reminding me
why I don't have children
posted by
jollyjeff
on January 3, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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MerryAnne, thanks.
I hadn't thought about it like that, but yes, it's good to know that he's using the voice he has to take care of himself.
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 7:24 AM
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Same to you, Meringue!
posted by
word.smith
on January 3, 2006 at 7:24 AM
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yikes Word
shades of my future! lol! There is a positive side to this, at least he won't let people push him around and talk to him in a mean way (not that you did) this will help him a lot in life. clearly you are doing a great job.
posted by
MerryAnne
on January 3, 2006 at 7:04 AM
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with each year, we all grow up a little bit, Happy New Year!
posted by
Meringue
on January 3, 2006 at 6:49 AM
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